Would you ask for a paternity test if a child showed up on your doorstep saying you're my dad?
pdooma
2010-03-18 19:38:20 UTC
What about if a woman said she was carrying your child...would you want a paternity test to know it's your child, or would you just believe her?
Nineteen answers:
Fatima
2010-03-18 19:45:13 UTC
If I were a male and I wasn't married/living with the woman, yes, I would ask for a paternity test. Unfortunately, I know of some women that have tried and/or succeeded in passing off another's child on someone else.
IdentigenePR
2010-03-19 23:18:08 UTC
I might be biased, since I work for a DNA Paternity Testing company.
But if I was a man, and a child showed up claiming I was the father, of course I would ask for a paternity test. They aren't expensive, are easy to do, and I would want us BOTH to know for certain.
I'll say too, that if I was pregnant, and the father asked me for a paternity test, I would be just fine with that. I's know if I was cheating, and if I didn't have anything to hide, what's the harm? If it gives the child's father peace of mind, then I'm all for the paternity test.
2010-03-19 03:15:27 UTC
Did a kid finally show up on your doorstep, Pdooma?
Given that maternity is pretty much certain, I wouldn't need to. If I were a guy, I think I would want the paternity test. There have been cases of guys forced to continue paying child support after finding out they're not the bio dad because they accepted responsibility by signing the birth certificate. I'd think the heartbreak of finding out your child really isn't yours would be so much more terrible after you had bonded.
Yeah, the guy might be made to look like a jerk, but I wouldn't blame him.
desmeran
2010-03-19 02:41:40 UTC
i'd laugh.
but if i were a guy, yeah i would if they showed up on my doorstep and i had no reason to believe they existed. no i wouldn't with the woman who said she was carrying my child unless she had given me reason to think it might be someone's other than mine.
had my husband of 10 years (as of the time we had our first child) asked for a paternity test i believe i'd have been fairly irritated.
J-dubb, S.T.
2010-03-19 02:41:03 UTC
Depends on the woman on rather or not I'd believe her. As far as the child, Yes I 'd ask for a test.
Dredogg95
2010-03-19 02:41:44 UTC
Of course you need a test. What if it's a lunatic or what if the child/woman was confused and they got so excited to finally meet you when maybe you weren't even the father?
2010-03-19 03:12:41 UTC
If I was a man, I'd ask for a test. As a woman, I'd expect some random man I had casual sex with to ask for a test. I would not expect a man who I had been seeing exclusively for a while to ask for a test though.
Adam
2010-03-19 03:42:23 UTC
I would probably be able to tell if they looked a like or had any family resemblance fairly quickly, but I would test just to make sure.
I would still be polite to them and take their word for it until the test came back.
2010-03-19 02:52:09 UTC
yes. most certainly...
i have always said if ALL babies (even married couples) were automatically tested at birth for paternity it would solve a lot of problems, and stop a lot of cheating trash from getting knocked up and having men pay for babies that arent theirs, and solve a lot of hard feelings from men having to ask for a test.
zimzam
2010-03-19 02:49:12 UTC
With out a doubt! Have you seen the statistics on paternity fraud? You would be an idiot not to.
NINJACOOKIE
2010-03-19 02:41:08 UTC
im a woman but if i was a man i wuld definitely wuld want a paternity test! y wuldnt yew?
Big Daddy R
2010-03-22 20:45:26 UTC
Considering that I had a vasectomy I would for sure ask for one before doing anything
2010-03-20 18:23:29 UTC
With 30% of the tests coming out negative, you better ask for one.
If a woman showed up at our door step claiming that my husband was her child's father (whether that child be born or unborn), I'd tell her she's mistaken. My husband hasn't had sex with anyone except me. Not even before our relationship or marriage. I don't care if people believe that or not, but it's true.
But if he had been intimate before marriage and we were faced with that situation, I'd support him in what ever choice he made in the matter. I know that if he were in that position he'd do what was right and take the test and if proven to be the father he would take care of his child.
Busy Barbie 007
2010-03-19 03:44:55 UTC
Of course I would. If I were a man of course.
constructguy
2010-03-19 02:40:15 UTC
test test test test
2010-03-19 02:40:16 UTC
I would want one because she could be a a gold digger.
2010-03-19 02:41:31 UTC
Kid- yes
Man (I adjusted the sex)- depends on the circumsance
Watch and learn
2010-03-19 02:41:00 UTC
DUH! *eyes roll*
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