What can I do with an out of control 5 yr old?

Question

What can I do with an out of control 5 yr old?

Answer 1

well let him scream all he wants. If he shows you no respect don't show him any then he might understand how others feel about him.

Answer 2

You said it yourself....

I don't like spanking my children but the one time I did spank him he told me "that didn't hurt, You only spanked me because you love me."



He's asking you to be stronger. He's testing his limits with you, and when he wins, it just makes things tougher on both of you. It's hard, but you need to stay strong for his sake, and your sanity!

Answer 3

I know you said that you take stuff away from him and he screams, but take EVERYTHING away from him so he has only a mattress in his room! if he screams, just walk away. that is what gives him the satisfaction of misbehaving-the fact that you give him more attention. speaking of which...that may be the problem: do you pay enough attention to him? not acusing, just asking.

Answer 4

put him on a time out.

Get a time out chair. Put it in a REALLY boring place in the room where you can see him and he can see you, but he cannot see anything fun.

3 minutes, time begins when he is silent and still. If he cries, whines or gets up, time begins again. When T.O. is done calmly explain why he was there, and then do NOT repeat yourself. As soon as possible commend a 'good behavior'

This takes a lot of patience. And good luck. You want to reinforce good behavior with a lot of attention, and don't pay attention to negative behavior.

Good Luck.

Answer 5

you can say go and play. i have a 5 yr old

bro

Answer 6

If the spanking didn't hurt, you didn't spank him, you just tapped his butt a few times. Take him over your lap and wear out his backside. And be consistant, do it every day if you have to. It works.

Answer 7

punishment doesnt always work, taking things doesnt always work either, spankings just make them even madder and do what they did wrong again. Try sitting him down and talking to him and asking him why he feels this way and try to have him release sum of his anger in words. my little brother is the same way and he's six. i try to talk to him and get inside of his mind and ask him why hes so angry. So just ask him why hes so angry and why does he want to get in so much trouble!! GOOD LUCK!!

Answer 8

I can guarantee you all the child needs is a little attention. Children themselves usually don' t even realize they need it, and just go for it, just like someone hungry at times will just bite on some chips without thinking "am I hungry?". On the other hand too much attention can make a child grow greedy for it and make them seek more, so that is also another thought to process. Just check the behavior of the child and you can usually figure out which it is. One more option could be that when you remove something(such as a toy) from him due to punishment, be sure not to give in and return it too soon. This can get the "oh I'll have it back in five minutes" attitude. Believe me, they do have it, lol.

Answer 9

He needs a serious *** beating. I got mine beat when I was a kid and it didnt scar me for life, it taught me right from wrong. Take charge and show him whos boss now before its too late. It also sounds like he has some anger issues for whatever reason, maybe you should consider having him talk to a child counselor or something if it doesnt get any better.

Answer 10

Stick to your guns, honey.



You're the grown up, remember.





edit: First poster: It will teach him that Bricks Hurt.

Answer 11

My son told me once that it did not hurt when I spanked him. The next time he got spanked by me, he laid in the floor screaming, and I asked one did it hurt. I just wanted to know if it hurt this time. You need to spank his little tail till he screams. Then asked him if it hurt. You must be the boss, a 5 year old will make your life a living hell when he is 13+ if you cant control a 5 year old you will not be able to control a teenager. or you could just give him to the welfare folks tell them to take him away and find a new home for him. That will show him who is boss.

Answer 12

You needto ask him why he is so angry.You should take him to the doctors for a checkupIknow its wrong but some kids lash out because there is something that is deeply wrong such as a learning disorder.The v brain does not function normally whereby you cant reason with them. My sister has this problem with her child for a long time. There may not be anything wrong . Just followiing a few thoughts.Try walking away and take time out for yourself when he has a tantrum.

Answer 13

let him know that you mean business. when you take away his favorite things, dont give it to him no matter how loud he whines and cries. when you see that he is calm and quiet and doing only what you tell him to do and well behaved, then you can praise him. if he asks you why he can't have it, this is your oppotunity to explain to him that his behavior is unexceptable and remind him that what he did was wrong along with loving affection. giving him affection at this time does not mean that you are going to give him what he wants. it just means that you still love him but he can't have his way and he will have to stay seated/timeout for however long you said he has to. this may take a lot of your time and patience but it will be worth it at the end. always mean what you say and don't do too many empty threats. if you tell him that he is going to be punished if he doesn't stop, don't keep repeating yourself. warn him once, warn him twice, but that's it. kids love to see how far they can ride us. stick to your guns.

Answer 14

When my daughter started acting that way, one method i used to remedy the tantrums was distraction. What i mean by that is this: When children are acting out (at home or at school) they are probably doing so to get attention. Kids will act badly to get attention just as they will act good to get attention. So what i will do with my daughter is not to get angry for starters (this will make it worse). Try not to use threats ( taking away things or spanking ) Instead learn to distract their attention to something more constructive, like a game of some kind. When my daughter acts up what i will do is say something like " Hey, why don't we go and put a puzzle together" or "Lets go outside and play catch" or something like that...be creative. Eventually they will learn to direct thier anxiety to getting you involved with activities instead of lashing out in anger. Occupy their minds with constructive things and they will most likely settle down. Another cause could be stress. children get it the same way we do so doing activities that reduce stress and play will help them release it. best wishes.

Answer 15

this was similar to one of the problems i had with my 5 year old. She did all those things your child is doing and cried when she didn't get her way. She didn't seem to be afraid of me when i yelled at her either.What i did is told her that bad people do bad things to get in trouble. And that the police will catch her if she misbehaves.in other words scare I showed her television shows etc...I also tired to make agreements with her. Like ...if you act like a good girl ,(in your case boy) i'll take you to chuck e cheese's etc...or whatever place the child likes to go play..also, my hubby raises his voice at her and that seems to calm her down. But maybe the reason your son is acting out, is because he wants attention. And he thinks that by doing the things he does is the only way to get it. Try to interact with him more and devote time with him by doing things together that you both like. Hope this was in anyway helpful. it worked for me =)

Answer 16

I have three kids myself...(5, 6, 8)

I can't help but to think about when I was growing up. If I was to have acted that way at 5 y/o, my father would have blistered my @ss! I don't spank my kids either, but I sure do keep them thinking that all I have to do is to "unlock the fury" and their little worlds are gonna come crashing down.



What ever you decide to do... be consistent!!! positive reinforcement!

Good Luck!



P.S. you may want to look in to the laws about what constitutes child abuse... and then take his little butt to the very edge of it!

Answer 17

is this her identity, her place in the family contributors, and what objective does it serve for you? women desire to thrill their daddies. Do you tutor somewhat smile whilst she misbehaves? (this from psychology e book, What Do you're saying once you're saying hi?) get severe, study Dr. James Dobson books like Dare To discipline. you need to stay longer than her. you at the instant are not doing her (or society) any favors by tolerating this habit. i'm getting which you're a stepfather, yet you stated "we've" tried; plainly such as you and your spouse are mutually on getting her to act, yet confirm that it rather is the only message she is receiving and is no longer detecting some delight in how undesirable my woman is.heavily p.c. what the guidelines are, by fact as quickly as you're making them, you need to enforce them. One very final theory: is one or the different of you giving her a wreck by fact of a few emotions of guilt? She'll p.c.. up on that and use it. in case you sense like she finally did no longer get a good wreck in existence for this reason a techniques, you need to anticipate greater from her, no longer much less. you need to allow her comprehend that she would have the ability to take it, and love her adequate to require solid habit. LOL

Answer 18

There is a book on oppositional defiant disorders, I can't remember the name of the man who wrote it, but it is a really good book on this type of behavior.



My son has the same disorder, I read the book, used his advise and gained immense ground.



I know the book has a blue cover and was written before 2003.

Answer 19

he hasn't had a good butt beating yet, when i was growing up and i did something bad i got a whipping and it taught me not to do it again. that's what's wrong with kids these days they don't get the dicipline they need. i guarentee if you give him a real whipping and not one of those "i really don't want to do this" whippings he'll learn

Answer 20

get him evaluated by a dr. dont spank him he may need ,edication

Answer 21

Get him a daddy, He will spank him real good......I knew real fast what was right and what was wrong

Answer 22

WOW! I bet he'll be President some day!

Answer 23

Why don't you try to beat his ***. Seriously, get a hold of yourself, you are the one in charge. Make sure he knows that.

Answer 24

call nanny 911

Answer 25

TALK TO HIM AND SHOW HIM WHAT BAD PEOPLE GO THROUGH AND SHOW HIM ANOTHER WAY OUT

Answer 26

Hit him with a brick. THAT will teach him respect.