about my pastor mom knowing im no longer a virgin?

Question

Listen everyone i wa raped by my x in november and then i started having sex with my new fiance' to get a better outlook on sex. he gave me one he really loves me and didnt force me to have sex he loves me for me, but the reason i said how do i tell my mom is because she keeps asking me if im still pure because i act different she says im sad and i mask it with happiness and everytime she says that i want to break down and cry. for i have failed and has tried to move out but im in a sluethful depression and i just got fired from my job! what do i do its like the tell tale heart im going to crack. and if she finds out she will love me but she will think ive failed and i cant let her know what happend, because i put my self in that situation!

Answer 1

I am sorry for what happened to you. I think you should tell your mom about what happened. You need the comfort and acceptance from her, don't you? Do you have a youth counselor at church who can keep secret and pray with you just to get you the courage to tell your mom?

Answer 2

Be completely honest with your mother. I do however think you need to see a therapist immediately. Having sex with another person "to get a better outlook on sex" is NOT healthy after a rape. Go see a therapist ASAP. I've been raped, and can identify.

Answer 3

Be honest with her and tell her. Let my tell you something I had to tell my mother when I was 13 that I was pregnant not just that I was no longer a virgin.

Answer 4

Sorry to hear that. But you have to be true to yourself tell ur MOM the truth.. for sure she'll understand u!MOM is always a MOM no matter what. besides its not ur fault