Why do children listen to their father more than their mother?

Question

I'm a mother of a 2 yr old daughter who doesn't listen to a word i say but will do anything her daddy says. Why is that?

Answer 1

They respect their fathers more.

Why?

Because dads aren't usually as b**chy as mothers? Because they're not as likely to get their head bitten off? Because they know men tend to be less hyper? Because their dads usually have a more relaxed way about them and are easier to talk to? Because their father's moods don't fluctuate with whatever way the breeze is blowing? Because they know that some things don't need to be a big drama and will deal with things more calmly?



All of the above were reasons I only ever listened to or respected Father when I was young. And still, I still go to him for advice a lot. I could barely stand my mother. I love my step-mom to death, she's my best friend and blessedly drama-and-hysterics-free, but she was never really a parent figure to me and didn't try to be.

Answer 2

You do have a daughter...and daughters tend to listen to their fathers more than sons do. Sons would rather listen to their moms and test limits with their fathers. Likewise, girls listen to their fathers and test limits with mom--its about building an identity.



We have the expression "daddy's girl" as well as "momma's boy"...and you can't switch them because there is no such thing as a "daddy's boy" or a "momma's girl". Weird huh?



It's not to say that she doesn't love you, but according to research, healthy social development in girls is tied closely to the health of the dad/daughter relationship. So, I think it might be due simply to something biological. If you had a son...it would probably be the father on here asking "why does my son not listen to me?" :)



My father was never aggressive or scary or anything like that. He was soft, quiet, and always thinking. Other people might have had an overbearing dad...but I got the same result of being a "daddy's girl" without any of the threats. Even in my mid twenties...I would do anything he asks, and I don't really know why...we're just that way. I love my mother with all my heart, and she is a wonderful person...but I admire my father with every fiber of my being.



My father just always seemed to offer me a point of view on the world that my mother couldn't, and I always respected him for it. So, I did what he said, because he always had a good reason for telling me to do something. He left the petty stuff alone.



My mother on the other hand always felt like a nag to me, even though I know now that she isn't. Our communication styles were just different. I always got annoyed that she wanted me to do stuff for her, rather than showing me that what I was doing was actually for my own good as well as good for everybody else...a gift my father had.



So yeah, the daddy-daugher bond can be unbelievably strong for no apparent reason. Just the way we're wired, I guess.

Answer 3

I dont know but thats not the case at our house. Daddy makes false threats and I dont make a threat unless I will follow thru, thats why they listen to me. It frustrates him so much.

Answer 4

Its usually because father's have a more aggressive tone, or they are the ones that usually do the punishing. If you start putting her in the corner for 2 minutes whenever she doesn't listen to you, then she will learn to listen to you. After she is in the corner for 2 minutes, tell her to come here and explain to her why you put her in the corner. And explain what she should do to avoid being put in the corner. That usually works for me.

My kids always listened to me more than their father because he worked all the time and almost never came home. So whenever he came home and told them to do something, they just looked at him like "Do I know you" He would spank them and they'd come crying to me saying, "Mommy, that man touched my bottom." So my kids only listened to me.

Answer 5

Because mothers tend to rant and rave and drown their children with words, until after a while it just sounds like blah blah blah.



Also, we're bigger and scarier.

Answer 6

Usually men are more stern when they say no and moms are more likely to nag at their kids. I am not trying to make anyone mad, but it is typical. I nag at my kids and my husband comes in and when he says now that's what it means. He gets the point through the first time instead of just repeating it.

Answer 7

Because fathers never give in and stand by their decision. Mothers tend to feel bad after correcting their children. You will never see a father go find his kid to ask them how they are feeling after getting an ear full. Mothers will feel bad and go comfort the child after wards.

Answer 8

They do? Tell that to my middle son and daughter.

Answer 9

they are usually more afraid of the daddy

Answer 10

depends on the kid