Do you believe that children should have limits?

Question

and what limits do you feel they should have or should not have?

Answer 1

if children did not have limits we would die out as a species, because they'd die before they could reproduce.



yes, i think children should have limits, decreasing as they get older, and also be taught good decision making so that ultimately when they reach adulthood they can limit-set for themselves.



we set all kinds of limits on our kids. limits on behavior (no, you can't hit when you're mad; no, you can't get out of your seat at the restaurant; no you can't grab the toy you want; no, you can't pick up the pasta with your fingers (if you're over the age of 2)); limits on activities (time/program limits for tv; limits on unhealthy food intake; limits on computer and videogames; bedtimes; limits on where they can go outside; no jumping on the furniture; no biking without a helmet or riding in the car without a seatbelt, etc.). They also have limits on what they're allowed to do at all that will change as they get older. At the moment, for example, none of them are allowed to walk to school or a friend's house (except immediate neighbors). At some point they'll outgrow that one. At the moment, some of them are allowed to go biking in the cul-de-sac with a friend but without an adult, but others are not.



I think the exact limits need to be tailored to the family, to the child's age, and to the particular child.

Answer 2

Absolutely, adults live with limits everyday. Stop at red lights, don't go outside topless (most places) get to work on time, payay is Friday, etc.

Limits are a part of our lives, why shouldn't they learn about them as children. Boundries and limits are good things!

Examples-

-7 Dont cross the street without an adult

10-Bedtime is 9pm

All- Veggies will be eaten or there will be no ice cream

16- No friends in the car

Answer 3

Limits should be about free time activities to what video game they can play. To many parents allows children to play violent because all other children at school does it, or your child might play those games anyhow. By setting limits as in what they can do:



* Letting your child have candy only on Friday´s.

* Watching tv after doing their homework.

and so on..



Limits what not to do :



* Play violent games.

* To not eat candy on normal school days.



I quote from an news article:



* Give modest, honest praise for good behavior, which will encourage more of it. Don't praise excessively or outlandishly



* Insist that the children work or play alone each day. This will instill self-confidence and a sense that learning is enjoyable.



* Speak positively about children when they can hear you.



* Don't treat children as little adults. Give them limited, child-level choices. For instance, if you expect them to do something, don't ask them if they'd "like to" do it. Simply tell them positively and firmly of the plan.

Answer 4

Yes. The limits for each child should be different according to their age. While I may let my 3rd grader go to the bathroom while we are in line ready to check out I will not let my 6 or 4 yr old do the same. They should have limits to their computer, TV, game stations, or how will they learn that enough is enough. I also think that when my 4 yr old wants 2 ice cream sandwiches, I have to say No. She's an ice cream sandwhich monster!



They should have limits to the amount of cell phone usage they use too. For some, you need to set limits on how many hours they read, some can read for hours. In the Summer I like to set limits on how many hours my daughter is over at her friends house.



Everybody needs limits, not just children! I have to set them for myself too!

Answer 5

Of course there should be limits and rules and they are age appropriate

Just to name a few

No talking back to mom and dad

No touching mom and dads stuff without permission

Bed times

time limits for the Computer and TV

curfews

Answer 6

as a parent i believe we are the ones who sets the limits we have to children dont know any better. like my daughter she would eat us out of house and home, i have to set a limit. my 6 year old would watch tv all day i have to set the limit. same with the wii. now that i think of it there are A LOT of limits my kids have simple things to big things, its us who teaches them the proper limits.

Answer 7

Absolutely, positively. How can kids learn right from wrong with out limits? My kids are little but they have limits. I'm pretty liberal with my parenting but i have zero tolerance for attitudes and outright defiance. Everything else can be flexible and talked about it. (okay well generally speaking of course) Right now my kids are learning about what limits there are - out in public when we are at the store, in the parking lot, in the house, bedtime, at someone elses house all of those things. i am pretty particular about how my kids act - especially out in public. I have very high expectations for them. My daughter is 3 and knows what they are and knows to fix what is unacceptable real quick. Mommy doesn't play. :-)

Answer 8

Children without limits are animals.



Of Course children need limits....if for nothing else, to ensure their own safety.



TV Limits.

Bedtimes.

Limits on what to wear (like no short pants in snowfall)

Limits on playing in the street

Limits on running with scissors.



Of course kids need limits....all kinds of them.

Answer 9

Yes, all types of limits. Basically the parent should set the rules based on their values and morals and uphold them in the house. There are some parents who appear to RULE because they like being in control, but that's not what I'm talking about.

Answer 10

Yes! Limits and boundaries are a good thing and teach children respect for others and themselves.



As for what limits they should or should not have, that's more difficult to say. It depends on their maturity and trustworthiness.



TV is limited, sweets are limited, rough housing is limited (for safety reasons), how far they can wander from our house or yard will be limited, and freedoms will be limited according to age and maturity.



Things that will never be tolerated include sex under my roof, drinking under aged, drugs, under age smoking (and even if they are adults it won't be in my house), disrespect will never be allowed (there are ways to express yourself without showing disrespect) and satanism is most definitely not tolerated!

Answer 11

I think that everyone should have limits, should make sure that they are thinking about how their behavior is affecting themselves & others around them, trying to have as positive (or at least not negative) an impact as possible in their lives.



I think that it is a parent's responsibility to get to know their child and make sure that their child is behaving safely & politely, while they are teaching their child to behave politely & safely themselves.



Since learning is incremental, the limits that a parent needs to impose (before the child learns to impose them himself) will change as the child learns.

Answer 12

Of course! Limits are how they learn to fit in with our society and become decent, sociable people. Learning not to be violent, to follow rules, and to feel some disappointment in life in not always getting what they want helps show them the reality of the world we live in. I believe it makes for more accomplished, happier people.

Answer 13

definately! i did my fair share of whinging when i was growing up- especially when i was the only teenager i knew that still had a bedtime, but its something i missed when i left home. If there are is no limits, there is no control- and i know how these children act!

Answer 14

most definitely, kids should have all sorts of limits, or else they will never learn right from wrong. those specific limits depend on each individual situation.

Answer 15

Yes!

Kids should have limits!!

Answer 16

Of course, they always do. (some adults I know could use some too!)I'm really glad that no-one has said no, that would not be good. lol