What makes it right?

Question

Some girl whos 26 old whos got a 9 yr old kid, still lives with mum and dad, and seems happy for mum and dad to look after the grandchild whilst she can go out and have irresponsible fun. Shes never with the child. The child is always with nana and granddad. I cant quite understand these type of people as they clearly wanted the child yet is not prepared to look after the child as a normal parent would do. What makes it right?

Answer 1

The parent of the child is not totally at fault here.

Half the blame has to lie with her parents.

Although maybe they are taking over & not allowing her to be the type of parent she wishes to be.

Never judge other people until you know the whole story.

Answer 2

Nothing makes it right, I firmly believe that it is completely wrong in every way. I can understand the occasional night out or something and letting grandma and grandpa watch the baby during that time. Nothing wrong with that as long as you do not come back so messed up that you can't funtion properly. Every new mom needs a little time to herself or a little time off. But leaving the baby with grandma and grandpa all the time is completely irresponsible.



Thing is though, I cannot place blame solely on the mother of the baby. Blame also must fall on the grandparents as well. They are obviously willing to continue watching the child and allowign their daughter to go out irresponsibly like that. They need to continue being parents and tell their daughter that she cannot be doing that all the time. They really need to lay down some laws and guidelines for their daughter. So, therefore, both the mothero f the baby and the grandparents are jointly responsible for the situation and should therefore be jointly willing to fix the problem.



Anyone dumping any responsibility on another person all the time is wrong. Regardless of what the situation is and what the responsibility is, they should handle their own responsibilities and allow others to have their own lives. Dumping responsibility off on another is nothing more than laziness. It is mooching time and mooching is always wrong.

Answer 3

Whats normal is those below 30 ish should not have kids as have too much living to do. She is acting her age like the others her age are doing... Not an old stay at home type





This is why abortion is a good thing... if the foetus had been aborted there would have been no problem and then when older and settled down, been there, done that and brought the t shirt the girl could then think about kids...





All,these idiots insiting teenager don't abort. This is the result

Answer 4

The simple fact of the matter is that SH!+ happens. You do not have to understand it. The child will eventually feel some lose since mom is not around but at least the GP's are there for the child.



She could have had an abortion. Would you have had a different view of her then?



It is still her life and she will live it the way she sees fit. Peers views will be damned if she wants to do what she is doing. I am not condoning or condemning her, I am simply stating what you said. She is living life the way she wants.



TFTP

Answer 5

Not knowing the people involved personally and the details of the case makes it difficult to comment.



However, as you describe the case, I would say that the young woman's behaviour is not correct. A certain part of responsibility is also with her parents, who seem happy to play along without complaints. They obviously failed to educate their daughter in the right way and are now riding along on a guilt trip.

The victim of it all is the nine year old child, which will be totally confused with regards to loyalties, rules and authority, as well as with regards to general behaviour.



If this was happening in my community, I would report the case to social services. They have the power to investigate bad and unfit parents.

Answer 6

It isn't right. I got pregnant at 17 but my parents NEVER raised my daughter. Her father and I got an apartment the day I turned 18, which was 4 months before I gave birth. We've never used welfare to pay for our kids. I stay at home with them while he works his butt off to support us. It makes me sick the way these women go out, get pregnant and then don't want to take care of their responsibilities. I'll admit my mom does take my girls every Friday, yes I have 2 kids now. She takes them so I can get my detail cleaning done. I'm still with their father and that makes it so much easier then some women have it. It's a vicious cycle that never seems to end. The lady that you're referring to, will probably end up taking care of her grand kids when the time comes.

Answer 7

Well....i think you should worry about your own life and be a good parent yourself. There is nothing you can do if you disapprove of this situation. The child might be better off in this situation than if the grandparents kicked the mom out or if they kicked the child and mom out - since mom can't be responsible for the kid. So in my opinion, this might be the 'right' arrangement for their family.

If they are all willing,,,,,

Answer 8

I'm not saying that it is right, but her parents should have made her take care of her responsibilities instead of taking care of everything for her. Too many parents believe that once they have kids that they should take care of them and do everything for them forever instead of making them do things for themselves, and these kids become adults but never truly grow up. They expect everyone to take care of everything for them because their parents did. The end up losing jobs because they are not taught the value of a hard day's work. And it is not just a problem with society...Most of the problems with kids and adults can be traced back to the parents lack of parenting skills.

Answer 9

Her parents made it "right" when they chose to accept her responsibilities for her!! But in all reality the child is better off with grandparents who give proper care then an irresponsible idiot with NO maternal instincts!

Answer 10

Nothing makes it right..The parents need to tell her to find her own place..They are not teaching her responsibility by taking care of the child ..This is not good for the mother or child either...

Answer 11

Mum and Dad want to kick the kid out and make her get her own place, then she'll have no choice but to raise her child herself, touch crap but thats how life is.

Answer 12

Its not right but unfortunately many people do not want to take ownership and responsibility for their children. Even Cats and dogs take care of their young. I love the line young Keanu Reeves said in parenthood. he said you have to have a license to fish, hunt, drive a car, even own a gun but they will let any asshole be a parent.

Answer 13

Normal to have a child at 17? dont think so... and nothing makes it right... good that she has parents that will still allow HER to grow up too...

Answer 14

Nothing makes it right. THose people need to grow up and take care of their kids. Just wait to see what happens when Nana and Grandpop aren't there anymore.

Answer 15

what makes it right is that the grandparents are willing to take care of their grandchild, the daughter will not one day be dealing with the guilt of aborting her child, and the child is loved and cared for

Answer 16

well thing about this

the child's grandparents might be his only way of having some sense of stability in his life

why take that away from him

but i do agree with u the mother needs to grow up

Answer 17

Nothing makes it right. The child will grow up and know that he was raised by his Grandmother and Grandfather and will love them for it. His brainless mother will probably never know what she missed and will be proud of how they are "friends" when he grows up.

Answer 18

Nothing makes it right, but the world is not a nice just or fair place and unfortunately when we see these things happening we just have to grit our teeth and get on with it.

Answer 19

nothing about it does if you feel like the child is abondoned or not taken care of properly call social services. sounds like she would rather put herself ahead of her child and make her child miserable for it. it's not fair for someone else to raise your responsiblity. i say turn her *** in to the state and watch the water boil around her as she tries to safe herself and justify why she is being so selfish

Answer 20

i don't think anything makes this right and i think society should wake up to the sub standard morals that it seems to be encouraging. this girls parents should stand up to their daughter and make her take responsibility for her own child, instead of saying "thats how they are these days" or other such cop outs. all parents out there wise up it's only "THE NORM" for your children to act this way "THESE DAYS" because YOU let them! society only dictates what we create!!!sad isn't it?

Answer 21

The grandparents make it right by putting up with it. Sounds like they've got nothing better to do.

I personally think that stinks. It's called taking the p--s. But if they're daft enough to do it....................

Answer 22

Whats normal?

Answer 23

It's not right...it's wrong....obviously the mom should've thought about it more to see if she was really ready to give up all of the fun....the kid is going to distance themself from mom and mom is going to be crying about it later....

Answer 24

That's not right. Her parents should make her grow up. She will regret this type of behavior one day.

Answer 25

SOCIETY. i agree with you but society has come to make this right. just like its now right to live with someone even though you are not married. just like its right to get married and divorced right away. back then divorce was not as common as it is today. society is making things that were seen as wrong once right.

Answer 26

Its just plan lazy and she needs to grow up. she might have wanted a baby but didn't want to be a parent.

Answer 27

It's not right, but immaturity is the reason. People that do not accept the consequences of their actions.

Answer 28

Her parents allow and enable her to be irresponsible. That is her parents problem, not yours.

Answer 29

wouldn't be possible without the Grandparents..... Bad parenting cycle continues

Answer 30

ya my sister does the same thing she is 28 ecept the kid she doesnt have one yet

Answer 31

Nothing makes it right, she is a selfish selfish person... that poor kid didn't ask to be here, he/she didn't have a choice...

Answer 32

it's not right but it happens stay away from her

Answer 33

what a whore