Moms does your husband/ boyfriend/ SO fix things?

Question

My husband can fix just about anything. I know if something goes wrong in our house, even if it's a big problem, he can fix it, plumbing, electric, pretty much all of it. It really puts my mind at ease. My friends are always constantly complaining about how their husband/ fiance/ won't help them fix simple things like a crack in my friend's window. It lets out warm air in the winter and I even asked my husband to talk to her fiance about it. (they are close friends) All it needs is some caulking but when my husband brought it up to him and asked if he wanted him to bring over the caulking, he changed the subject. The look on my friend's face was pretty bad, I could tell she was disappointed. My husband didn't want to fix it for her, he didn't want to insult him by doing that, so it's still freezing in their house. :(

I find this pathetic, I have to admit. It must suck to just have broken things with no money to hire someone to fix it. I'll be honest and say I find a man like this to be kind of a puss.

Answer 1

Yes! He can fix anything. I enjoy watching him fixing things. So sexy ;)

Answer 2

Not usually. I'm more of the 'fix-it' type, and a total control freak to boot - I was the one versed in auto repair when my husband and I met. My dad made me fix all my own stuff (TVs, VCR, car, wiring cable to my room, whatever) because being a girl wasn't an excuse for being ignorant of mechanical function and other 'manly' preoccupations - I suppose that's where I got it from.



I do have a certain fear of plumbing, and despite the learning curve, my husband will tackle plumbing issues for me. Like broken flapper-dealies in toilets. I have a literal terror of overflowing toilets, they send me into full-on panic.



Also, my husband's just as great at finding things as I am at losing them... which is actually really nice. I lose things A LOT.



If I were your female friend, I would have fixed the window myself because I would have naturally assumed I could do it better (and I probably could, actually). Now, I realize this might not be something your friend is naturally inclined to do, but I've caulked an entire standing shower, with no previous knowledge of how to use caulk - it's not hard... why doesn't *she* just do it?

Answer 3

My hubby can fix some things -- he's really good with plumbing, patching, updating cosmetic stuff etc. Minor electrical he can do (changing a light fixture, outlets etc.). Major electrical he needs help. For us, it's finding the time for him to do these things that is the problem. So, usually, I'm like your friend in that I have to ask a lot and a lot of times I just end up fixing stuff myself. If I was your friend, my house was freezing, my hubby wouldn't fix it, I know it's an easy caulk fix and I have a friend who knows how, I'd ask them what to buy and just do it myself. Problem solved, except for maybe some lingering resentment that hubby didn't do it when I asked.



I don't find men who can't do fix-up jobs a "puss" because some people just don't know how. It all depends on what people excel at and what they've been taught. But, I do find them to be somewhat lame if it's something they are capable of doing and they just don't because they are lazy or put their leisure entertainment before things like fixing a crack in the window.

Answer 4

My husband grew up helping his mom fix up rental properties and then worked for a contractor for a couple of years so he can do pretty much everything in the fix it department. Notice I said he can, not that he does. He has the best of intentions but somehow it just doesn't get done. Things around our house that currently need fixing are a non working electrical plug in bathroom #2, drywall in our main bathroom, and a new barn to be built (which has been talked about for more than 2 years and most of the supplies to do it are sitting in our basement!). Although I love never having to pay to fix anything, getting him going on a project can be a long process. Anything he does complete is awesome, since he is very methodical and pays attention to detail. He is also a great SAHD!

Answer 5

my husband can fix any thing and every thing also. I love it. I also lend him out. If he was the friend of your friends he would have gotten the caulk and fixed it that day for her. That is just how he is. Maybe that is what your friend needs. It to be done to get him into action. The man may also not know how to fix it and he may be ashamed to admit it.

Answer 6

My husband can fix anything. He built a barn about 5 yrs ago, built a pond about 4 years ago, built our finished basement 2 yrs ago, is currently building a garage, and will finish the top level of our house this summer........so he can do it all; equipment, carpentry, plumbing, electrical. I can't imagine having to hire that stuff done.



I can do lots of things myself too and try to do the simple stuff myself so I don't have to have my husband do it for me.....caulking is easy peasy. Offer to show her how to do it.

Answer 7

It is pretty sad that he does not want to fix the window for her. maybe your husband could give you the caulking and instructions on how to do it and your friend can do it herself. her boyfriend is plain lazy. but I agree if you do not have the money to hire someone to fix repairs around the house then its so nice to have a guy who will do it. my boyfriend keeps our home in good conditions at all times. we also hire people when it is something he cannot do.

Answer 8

Why doesn't your friend fix it, why don't you fix it? I am aces with a caulking gun and a number of other relatively simple household D-I-Y tasks, and what a relief to be able to sort those sorts of hassles out quickly, competently, and with no worry of $$/hour. No reason in the world your friends shouldn't be caulking their own windows. I'll be honest and say I find a woman like this to be kind of a puss...

Answer 9

He can fix most things. He likes to take stuff apart and see how things work and it's given him quite the handy man reputation lol



But, if he can't or doesn't want to fix it, we do whatever we can do minimize the problem until we can afford to hire someone to fix it. There is no reason for your friend to freeze. If her husband won't fix the window and she doesn't have the money to get it fixed, she can look online and learn how to do it herself or she can grab a roll of tape and block off the crack until they can afford to get it fixed.

Answer 10

Lol I'm usually the one fixing things but mostly because I love a challenge. Besides my hubby tends to just make things worse when he tries to be the handy man. Well except for car maintenance, he's good at keeping the car in good repair. :)

Answer 11

Oh yes he THINKS he can fix anything lol. Sometimes though i wish he would leave it to people who actually knows what they are doing, especially the big things. Dont get me wrong somethings he can fix no problems and at least he trys :)

Answer 12

Growing up, my mother was usually the one to fix things. I've been single most of my adult life, and I take care of most household repairs myself. My 9-year-old daughter helps out, or directs from the sidelines.

Answer 13

Yes, but so can I. There's no reason women can't learn how to fix things. That's a lot better than having to depend on someone else.



All the best.

Answer 14

He does, I truly did marry Mr. Fix It.

Answer 15

no, lol, not at all and I agree with you.