How much do you expect from your kids?

Question

Do you feel that if you expect little, you will get little? Or, if you expect more, you will get more?

I mean, do you expect a child who CAN speak, to say please and thank you? Do you expect a child who can understand you, to help put toys in the box? Do you expect grade-school children to mind manners, and not interrupt?

Or, do you just say...kids will be kids...

Answer 1

My girls are grown, what did I expect out of them well:



I expected them to know that I always will be their Mother and will alwas love them (but would kick their behinds - should need be);

I expected them to do their best, no matter what they were doing;

I expected them to be respectful and to have manners;

I expected them to always use their common sense;

I expected them to know when to stay, when to walk away and when to run;

I expected them to protect themselves if should be, but not to instigate a fight;

I expected them to tell the truth (again I said expected them to);

I expected them to know that they could talk to me about anything - "anything" (and they did);

I expected them to be mindful of their bodies; their surroundings and their friends and associates, at all times;

I expected them to grow up into young ladies who know who and what they are and to have self-respect and self worth;

I expeted them to grow up and take care of themselves and not to depend on anyone (this way no one could let them down);



Now as to my expectations, I have no regrets but then again, "expectations' are things in the present tense to look back and realize that they all came to be - well - I was Blessed.



God Bless.

Answer 2

My daughter's too young, but when she's older, there will be expectations of manners and courtesy. She'll have age appropriate chores, and yes, she'll be expected to do them consistently.

I don't expect her not to interrupt at home because encouraging dialogue is something I want to do, but I do want her to abide by the school's policies on such things there, and to do well in school.



If you expect little, you will get little. If you expect too much, it will burn them out and you'll end up with little most of the time.

I think for well-adjusted kids, it needs to be moderate, and as they get older, adjust your expectations to their personality and capabilities.



A kid who is an academic overachiever on their own, to have very good marks in schools would be a reasonable expectation after they showed that capability and drive. Some kids, this would be too much to expect reasonably.

Answer 3

I do have expectations of good behavior but it is age appropriate and ability appropriate ,for ex sample I have one child who has a learning disability so I expect him to need help to get dressed but what he can do he is expected to do ..The problem in most parents is they are not consistent or reasonable in what they demand ,you cant let them get away with something one day and be hard on them the next and you cant expect a two year old to act like a 10 year old ...its about being consistent and fair and reasonable...

Answer 4

I expect kids to have manners....but it is up to the parent to teach them. If a child can speak and understand please and thank you they should say it. If they don't remember to say it on there own they should get a friendly reminder from the parents. After all kids are kids and saying please and thank you and having respect is not always on there mind.

Answer 5

I would always promote my daughter to do the best she can in everything she does. I will help her with her studies when she gets bigger and so on.



she is turning 3 at the moment and she gets a report card, i have to admit when i saw it she did very well, thought the teacher marked it wrong though ;) but hey wen i saw the things she was lacking i helped her with it.



I wouldnt be strict but i would want good grades for her, so i will help her in what she does.

Answer 6

I expect my kids to do what I've taught them to do... to have good manners, to help around the house, to be thoughtful of other people's feelings, and to be responsible for their own actions.



I do NOT believe in "kids will be kids"... but I do believe that kids will be brats if their parents have that attitude.

Answer 7

I don't expect perfection. I do expect them to make an effort. When they get it right, I make sure to acknowledge that. When they don't, I let them know calmly but firmly that they need to lift their game.

Answer 8

you're thoroughly suitable, mothers and dads shouldnt assume admire is a one way highway, yet then I easily have additionally heard the line, i will admire you once you admire me, coming from the youngsters, which it is going to be there any way, yet i dont trust it, very stable Q, i attempt my ideal to admire my daughter, and that i dont do something that she might get informed off for except i'm getting informed off to

Answer 9

I expect them to do what I've taught them to do. But if they mess up, I don't go nuts and tell them how horrible they are for messing up. Everyone messes up.

Answer 10

The best gift that you can provide your child is to get him/her to Read.

Answer 11

i expect them to do as much as i have done for my parents. everything reciprocates itself.