Discipline For Daughter?

Question

I've just heard my 9 year old daughter using really dirty language in the street so I dragged her in home and sent her straight upstairs to her room. I'm really shocked because it's the first time I have heard her swear and the words she was using was really bad not even I would say them in the street. What would be a good way to discipline her?

Answer 1

You sit her down and talk to her about appropriate language. See if you can find out where she learned those words and if she has any ideas on how she can get out of the habit of using them. If she says some of her friends talk like that, then grounding her from seeing them until her language cleans up is an appropriate discipline. If she learned it from TV or movies or games, then ban those for awhile. If from family members, a lot of families use a swear word jar where everyone has to pay a quarter or something anytime you say a bad word; IMO you do NOT attach a fun activity to what you do with the money once the jar is full - donate it to a cause that is meaningful to your family as a group.

Answer 2

Here are my ideas.



First, go to her bedroom and tell her that she will stay there for the remainder of the night. Take away any entertainment she has (laptop, phone etc). Tell her that swearing is wrong and unladylike and instruct her never to do it again. Tell her she is not allowed to play in the street for seven days.



If she swears again, tell her she is not allowed to play in the street for fourteen days and make her spend seven of these days in her bedroom (send her straight there after school).



You could also try soap...I wonder if that's legal. I hope it is because I wanna use that method when I have kids.

Answer 3

If this is the first time, I wouldn't necessarily punish her, but I would read her the riot act and then lay out consequences if this ever happens again. You're the best judge of what would impact her most - losing TV for a week, losing dessert for a week, full grounding in her room for a weekend, etc. Second offense - everything gets doubled. Also make sure she understands this isn't just what you happen to notice. It's any report you get that she's talking this way.



I also think you want to find out where she's learning this. If it's TV, put parental controls on it. If it's internet, she's way too young to be wandering around it unsupervised. Take it away. If it's friends, this one is harder. And, again, you're the one who knows these kids and knows best if she should be prevented from seeing them, or just get a lecture that maybe their parents don't care about this, but you do. If she gets in the habit of using these words, she'll forget and use them when she shouldn't.

Answer 4

First , You should sit her down and talk to. making sure she understand what she did was wrong and maybe ask her why she was talking that was. Be firm but gentle, because If you're too hard she may disobey you and do it anyways. But you should also take away her phone if she have one and other electronic like TV, phone, Laptop/or computer. so that you can reinforce and to make sure she knows that talking like that is unacceptable

Answer 5

I would simply sit her down and tell her to please not use those words. Explain that only uneducated "people" use these words. Tell her that you want a bright 💡 future for her life.



If she continues to use, I would ignore her. Give her the cold shoulder for a day or two. After that, she should get the picture. If she still uses tha. I would take her things away. No Xbox, TV, toys, games of any sort, nothing



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Answer 6

Why did she use the language? That's what I'd want to know first. Then tell her about your future expectations, and move forward from there.

Answer 7

It is always better to practice discipline than to preach it. People - particularly children - learn from our good behaviors.

Answer 8

tell her that people imagine a pile of poopoo in a person's mouth whenever they cuss and that it may send away prospective friends rather than bring them closer. Also, she may enjoy Sunday School classes for young people at a local church which you watch her at, since fellowshipping/singing with young people on Sunday will influence her positively

Answer 9

I would ask her the definiton of the words and if she had them wrong or right tell her she is wrong to use them.

if she continues have her brush her teeth everytime she uses one. and if that doesnt help ground her

Answer 10

Vulgarisms are natural part of langue. We all use them. Do you say **** me harder to your partner when you make love, or you say oh baby make love to me harder.



So I don't understand your urge to discipline your child for using words we all use?



Whop are you afraid of church? You idiotic parents who would hit you for swearing?



The boggy man?



You child heard those words and if you tell ehr not to use them and especially disciple her for it, she will only be confused.



Also these are not "bad words", they ar enot even vulgar words, this term vulgar should not apply for a sexual and beautiufl word like f.u.c.k, this is religious indovtrination that told you s.e.x and ******* is vulgar...



What is trulyy vulgar is punihsing oyure child for words she will inevitably use as she is growing up, much like you do as well...



Don't be a hypocrite. teach your child about vulgarisms and teach her the places and time to use them...



(When you are indicating intimacy or trying to insult people..e.tc)



Teach her that usually she should not be intimate in that way with her dad or trying to insult him, so she should try and refrain from such words around you...



Teach your child, raise her to be a free thinker and intelligent, curious inquisition person...



Do not be a pathetic hypocrite...



Tell her that those words are either intimate, or offensive...Talk to her about the fact that people on earth use same langue to indicate intimate GOOD and offensive BAD and what does that say about people on this planet...



Teach her that racial slurs or misogynistic use of langue is bad, but do not teach her that all "vulgarisms" are the same and bad that is simply not true...

Answer 11

Shove some soap in her mouth and keep it in their for at least 10 minutes. If she spits it out repeat until she keeps it until for 10 minutes. You can always try spanking but I find this method extremely effective. It worked on my little one who is now grown. Now she doesn't even curse even when she gets frustrated!! It's amazing.

Answer 12

What did she say or what was the first letter of it at least.

Answer 13

my mom heard me cuss on time. i got a spanking and my mouth washed out with soap, then early to bed. ; (

Answer 14

When my mother heard me swear I instantly saw "Bright Colorful Stars" (Parenting 101, 1968)

Answer 15

9/10, around the age where many start hiving one personality at home, and another around her friends.