Is this too early to send a 12 year old to bed?

Question

My dad sends me to bed at 8.30 and says I can read for an hour and a half. I don't even like reading much and I have read all the books I have. I miss all the shows I like to watch and if I ask him if I can watch TV or play on the computer he says no. He says that he needs the last 2 hours or so of his day to himself and I think this is unfair coz he gets a full week to himself every 2nd week (I spend 1 full week at his house and one full week at my mums house)

I don't want to sound like a whining brat but do you think that this is unfair?

Answer 1

Ask him to consider this:



He only gets you for one week, and I'm assuming that you go to school from about 7 or 8 in the morning to about 3 or 4 in the afternoon. That only leaves you with about 4 hours of spending time with him, which would be cut by school work and projects. He's only trying to look out for your health but maybe you can ask him to move it up to about 9 or 9:30. To do this you have to show him that you're responsible enough to sleep later but wake up on time for school and get all your work done.

Answer 2

My middle son is 12 and he gets into bed at 9:00 and reads until 9:30 and then goes to sleep I occasionally allow him to stay up until 10:00. Depending what time you need to be up for school, children your age need about 9-10 hours of sleep but of course it varies and some need more some less.



I would try to make a compromise with your dad. Ask him if you would be allowed to get a small TV in your room and then you could read for 45 minutes and watch TV for the rest of the time. Tell him you promise to stay in the room to give him his quiet time. This way you are still reading, still giving him his time, but you are also getting to do something you like as well.



It could be worse though, you could have to go to bed at 8:30 and go right to sleep. At least he allows you to read. I think an hour and a half is a long time to read though especially if you do not enjoy reading. I would try the compromise and see how that goes.

Answer 3

i've got faith you're putting your little ones to mattress way too early. you're authentic that youngsters want a good nights relax yet by skill of 12/thirteen 8-9 hours is greater beneficial than sufficient. Even your 3 and 5 365 days olds are probably going to mattress too early. i could say 7 for them. i could tell your 12/thirteen 365 days olds to be of their room at 8 in case you like quiet time after which enable them to stay wakeful till 9-9:30. they might examine or do yet another quiet interest of their rooms. in the event that they're perplexing to arise in the morning or seem moody and drained throughout the time of the day then you definitely might might desire to alter. I even have on no account heard of 12/thirteen 365 days olds being made to bypass to mattress as early as you're making them.

Answer 4

I had the same problem but i got out of it and now I don't have a bed time. What you should do is say dad can I please talk to you and sit him down and be like dad I know you say you need time for yourself but I am growing up and after I get home from school and do my homework and assignments its so late and I feel like im just getting stressed and stressed and I would really appreciate if I could stay up later at night so I have more time for myself and it would take stress of me and say that your almost a teenager and you feel your hard done by and you really want this time to relax and take in the time you have.



Good Luck!!

Answer 5

your lucky kid, im 17 and go to bed pretty much 12pm every night, i wish i could go to bed a 8:30 but 8:30 im still doing hw. 8:30 not that bad, i think when i was ur age i wet to bed a 7:30-8:30 depending on the night. now i got to be late i feel like hell trust me stick to the early night u feal so much better in the morning and be thankful you have a dad that cares about you, there's not as many as there used to be.

Answer 6

I'm your age and my mom sends me to bed (more like my room) at 9:30 same with my older bros but that's only on school nights. Personally I think its too early because all of my friends have NO bed time but I know other kids who go to bed at 8. Hmmm not really a clear answer huh. well hope I helped.

Answer 7

He sounds like a controling person, i have to deal with them all the time. The mose affective ways ive learned from all this is to, well i was gonna say kindness but thats overused, put yourself in a situation which would be hard for him to kick you out, like start a movie, or eat something! Heres some advice for everyone who has to deal with people who yell too much, give them chewing gum! its a little off topic but keep it in mind! Trust me, it wont make them yell as much! This ones tricky, but if you pull it off it works great! Take a sleeping pill (liquid capsul) break it open over a strong colored drink (soda, decaf coffee) puts them to sleep. And when theyre asleep you can go watch tv!

Answer 8

Get a device to record the shows that you want to watch and watch them when you are allowed. What if your boss said he wanted you in at 8:30. Are you going to not sound like a whining brat when you ask him could you come in later? You dad is teaching you that sometimes you have to do what you are told. You do not have to like it. You do have to respect it. Stop comparing yourself to an adult. You do not fully know why he does what he does. At least he gave you a reason.

Answer 9

WOW! thats way to early. I am you age i dont even have a time to go to bed. I usually go to bed at mid night during school nights. and hardly sleep on the weekends. talk to ur dad and Maybe hell reconsider....

Answer 10

I DO think that's too early. I grew up with a 9 pm bedtime for as long as I can remember. You may want to approach him about that. But there's always the possibility that he won't change his mind since he's the adult and it's his house. You might have to just deal with it...sorry! :-) Good luck!

Answer 11

Lucky you, cause having a dad who cares about your health. So do what he tells you.

Since not working you neednot the computer and tv that much. Do some sports at your room instead or clean something up.

Answer 12

Haha, sweetie I think instead of reading you should work on your grammar but anyways...

My mom and step dad send my brother and I to bed at 9:30pm and our TV and lights have to be off at 10pm or else we get in trouble. Up until we were in about ninth grade we had to be in bed at 9.

I am going to be seventeen in December.

Answer 13

i don't think it sounds too bad. my little sister's twelve and she gets much the same restrictions, but i would try and accept it for a while and dont argue and then maybe he'll let you occasionally stay up later.

Answer 14

just get a telle in your room, and a laptop say your mom lets u stay up :)

Answer 15

Reading is good and will make you very smart, hes doing whats best for you, soooo goo read.

Answer 16

10- 10;30 on a school day on weekends ,as long as your at home. there should not be restrictions you'll go to bed when your tired.

Answer 17

That is too early.

You should be going to bed around 10pm and no earlier.

If he wants time to himself you can just chill in your room or something but you shouldn't have to go to sleep.



He is the brat and is selfish.

If he wanted so much time to himself he shouldn't have had a kid.

Answer 18

get a tv in your room

Answer 19

I don't blame you!tell him that if is such an inconvenience then you should stay at your moms until he can make time for you.