This is for all parents (or parents to be): When raising your child would you - give them a lecture or (read)?

Question

*Please read the question carefully*

Assume you have only one single choice. When raising your kids and he/she does something bad (assume he/she is 6 - 10 years old) would you prefer to:

A) Give them a long lecture on explaining why the things they did were bad or,

B) Let them learn from their mistakes and hopefully they won't repeat the next time.

Answer 1

B, definitely.



Kids don't hear lectures. When you start to lecture, you sound like Charlie Brown's parents to them. "Wah wah, wah wah wah wah. Wah wah wah. Wah wah! Wah? Wah."

Answer 2

If I only had a single choice and my kid was 6-10, I'd say I'd have to let them learn from their mistakes... when I was in this age group, I didn't have a parent to lecture me, hence I learnt from my mistakes. Besides, most children this age will not listen to their parents anyway. They are not stupid. They have common sense and they know what they should and shouldn't be doing; most of the time they do things to see if they can get away with them. As long as it wasn't going to do them bodily harm, I really think this would be the best way to go, seeing as how life is really all about experiences and not about lectures.

Answer 3

While that is a tough question, there in my family is a general way it goes.You can't spend an entire day lecturing your child, because as others have said, they aren't going to process it.

But, you do need to discuss what they have done wrong.

The big thing is, you can't be the dominant one in the discussion. You need to get their feedback as well as you go along. Ask them why they're in trouble, what they did wrong, how they can improve it. Etc.

Personally, they do need to learn from what they did wrong, but if that method doesn't work, and repeated incidents are occuring. Then you may need to take it up a notch to discipline.

In my family we end the lecture with (before the hug =]) telling them what will happen if this occurs again. Such as, if they push their brother again, you will not be able to watch TV for a whole day. That is just an example.

Hope that this advice helps, best of luck to you and your family.

Answer 4

Neither. If you catch them in the act, hopefully you know what they like and are able to construct a consequence for their behavior. For example, if you child really likes computer time, take away computer time for the day or week. If they like to watch t.v. after dinner, no t.v. and straight to bed after dinner. Give them a long time out (1 minute for each year of age) in a place where there is no stimulation. Giving them a long lecture has no sting after a while, and letting them learn from their mistake may not work if they don't realize that they did anything wrong.

Answer 5

A is definitely more effective. My dad used to give us hour-long or more lectures. For example if we came home with a bad grade on our report card he would sit down with us and lecture us on how important grades were, college, etc etc etc. And then he would ask, "How are you gonna get that grade up?" and we werent allowed to go until we gave him an acceptable answer. My sister, brother, and I all worked our butts off in school and tried to be pretty good just to avoid the lectures! In my experience, lectures are an extremely effective punishment tool. They were terrible!

Answer 6

OKAY DEFINETLY NOT B!! then they will most likely do it again thinking it was okay the first time. you need to give a firm lecture and let it be known that what he or she did was wrong and unexceptable



***so u let them learn on their own and they never have no guidance***** imagine how their kids will be and then their kids' kids? sure no one likes a parent who lectures and lectures like a boring professor, but letting them learn on their own is honestly setting them up for a downfall sometime because it will start small and up in a bad and big problem when your going to say i should have talked and taught him instead of letting him learn on his own and now my kids in jail!!

Answer 7

You definitely have to discuss situations with your children. If you just let it go, and hope that they will learn....chances are they won't learn. If they don't understand what was wrong with what they did, why would they stop? They are not going to stop something if it isn't explained why you shouldn't do it. While kids are very smart, they do still need guidance....that is the job of parents!

Answer 8

No, long lecture will not work… Instead we have bought Consequences Board Game. This game is great to reinforce and introduce consequences for all child actions. It is fun to play for my 6 year old son. While we play, we discus what HE die wrong. Works just perfect. We have bought the game in this http://www.1888Toys.com toys store.

Answer 9

The 'Lecture' could save them a lot of hurt. Do You let a child endanger themselve because of political correctness?

Answer 10

even if you lecture they are still going to learn something from their mistakes but if you lecture at least they know where you stand on that issue so i would do a and b would naturally follow whether i wanted it to or not

Answer 11

I say A - kids aren't born knowing what to do and what not to do - I use every opportunity to teach my kids the "why" part of the situation. I think they are less likely to repeat the bad behavior if they understand why they shouldn't do it.

Answer 12

B. Bdcause if you lecture-they can tune you out. Very easily. And lectures don't really work. I thank God my parents didn't lecture. They would do a verbal reprimand as needed, briefly.

Answer 13

only tell them, desire for the excellent and prepare for the worst. i'm a Catholic in Baptist u . s . a . and our church had taken in numerous Baptist pastors toddlers, the father and mom confirmed as much as see their grown toddlers connect our church. in case you're making plans to connect the church, then make certain your disagreements interior the aspects you discover perplexing to settle for. Take the RCIA training, they many times initiate interior the autumn, take your husband alongside, only via fact which you flow to the class does no longer mean you're able to connect, even nonetheless it may help answer your questions. Which with the aid of the way don't be shy, i've got on no account been bitten with the aid of a clergyman for asking dumb questions and that i became born into the Church. in case you intend to enhance your toddlers interior the church, you're able to have the means to reply to their questions, they are fortunate they are able to get 2 solutions yours as a Baptist or former Baptist and the Catholic one out of your husband, plus there is often the priest. you additionally could have inner maximum training. solid luck and God Bless

Answer 14

It really depends on what they actually did. If they are endangering themselves or someone else then I would lecture. But if it was something harmless then I would let them figure it all out themselves.

Answer 15

Gods, do you have to ask? B! I remember my dad ALWAYS lectured to me and scolded me waaay to much for what I did and I came to resent him, while my mom just let me learn. One time she was cutting a hot pepper and told me not to eat it, but I did anyways so I learned to listen to her when she said something was hot and not to do it (but don't make idle threats)

Answer 16

c. Give them the option of explaining themselves, then tell them respectfully why I disapprove. If we have a good relationship, they do not want to disappoint me, and they will B) learn from their mistake.

Answer 17

I have always let them learn from their mistakes, as much as possible....but I usually say up front...I WOULDN'T DO THAT IF I WERE YOU.....when it is life threatening, harmful to others or themselves that is an entirely diff ballgame

Answer 18

Sometimes you have to try bother methods. Somethings you have to talk to them about, somethings you have to let them the learn, and somethings you have to PUT YOUR FOOT UP THEIR *** SO DON"T HAVE TO SAY IT BUT ONCE!!

Answer 19

well,you shouldn't give them a long lecture,but talk to them about what why you think what they did was wrong.

Answer 20

depends on what it is. i'm not going to submit them to physical danger just so they learn their lesson. it depends on the situation. you cannot use the same plan for everything.

Answer 21

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Answer 22

LOL. And, what good is all my blabbering going to do? They have to learn for themselves. As hard as that is to watch...



Definately B!

Answer 23

it really all depends on what they did so that is a hard question to answer