I have so much angry towards my parents?

Question

When I was little my parents would yell at me and cuss me out for dumb reasons like my bed not being made. I was never encouraged or appercaited for things I did or attempted to do. Like trying out for the dance team I didn't make it my parents said " go get over it" but when my cousin didn't make her dance team it was " oh ok do you want some pizza, I can iron your clothes ect"
We talked in therapy and the only thing is now they are treating me like im some kind of slow person. I don't know what to do. help

Answer 1

Aren't you the one who missed the pop-up in softball? Geez, you're SUCH a disappointment as a child!

Answer 2

Well you being angry is accomplishing NOTHING that I can see of value. Not to seem insensitive here but do you know a TON of people who had a fairytale life growing up with perfect parents and family dynamics cuz I sure don't. I've realized through years and maturity that EVERYONE is the product of troubled family life, troubled marriages, poor parenting to varying degrees and other life struggles and issues that we all just have to face and make the decision and CHOICE to let it go and be BETTER in-spite of it! Parents are the product of their own lousy home lives too. There is no manual on how to be a GOOD parent and they are attempting to parent YOU while still coping with themselves, their marriage, the careers, financial issues, health issues etc, etc.... Try and cut them a little slack and THINK who and what YOU want to be regardless of what they ARE or ARE NOT to you as parents. WE ALL must do this in life at some point. YOU wasting your time being angry at THEM for failing to be what YOU WISH THEY were as your parents is just pointless and self destructive. Perhaps you are too young to understand my point here - but as a parent of 4 and a married wife of 23 years - these are conclusions I've drawn as I have aged and matured. LIFE sucks and is HARD for everyone I have ever known or met. YOU need to try and see beyond your parents shortcomings as parents and individuals and at some point make the conscious CHOICE that you don't want to be the kind of parents they have been to you and that you can and will change your life for the better.



It will ultimately be your decision and choices. You can't change them but you CAN change you. Anger is a very wasted emotion. Take heart though - we have ALL felt this anger for our parents at some point in time and from a therapeutic or psychological stand point remember that ANGER is a secondary emotion..meaning, you have deeper feelings that your anger is masking about them and your home/family etc... probably hurt, disappointment, loss, betrayal even....anger is just easier to identify. FYI

Answer 3

Parents do the best they could. You have to remember that even though they are your parents they are still human, which means they can make mistakes too. Think of all the good things your parents have done for you, like how they have taken care of you and protected you from things. Don't be angry with your parents, you only get one pair of parents in your life so love them for the things they have done right and forgive and grow from the things you feel they have done wrong. It sounds like they never want to hurt you, but, at the same time, they did not want to "baby" you. Thank them everyday you are alive and well.

Answer 4

You and your parents both look at the world in an extremely different way.



what you think is fair may not be fair to them



you are a teen and they forever will always treat you this way.



just take a breather and stay in therapy it helps talk about issues

Answer 5

it happens everywhere



don't bother that much

they are your parents and you have to respect them

take it as a challenge

don't be upset and angry

it's a challenge that may change the way you live

if you make your bed everyday it may make you more organized at your whole life in the future it's that simple...



personally i don't wait anyone to thank me or appreciate what i do

you wanna thank me fine, you don't i don't really care as long as you treat me respectfully

Answer 6

Does your school have a counselor or psychologist on staff? If so, go to them. If not, if you have a pastor or priest, they could help, and as a last resort, try an aunt or older relative to try to help you. Good luck.

Answer 7

Try not to let it worry you too much. Console yourself with the thought that one day you can leave home.

It`s possible your parents cannot help being like they are. They know no better.



YOU can live two lives. The `good` girl your parents seem to want - and YOU, who you are, the real girl - with your friends.

Answer 8

Work on getting your own apartment so you can get out of the house once you turn 18

Answer 9

just because they are your parents, doesn't mean they are *good* parents. your old enough to understand that some people have issues and its their problem, not yours. parents make mistakes too, sometimes they admit it, sometimes they don't. don't make their problems, yours.

Answer 10

I recommend that you recieve "Professional" help....



Such as a psychologist and such.

Answer 11

you shouldn't compair yourself to others and be greatful for what you have.



saying stuff like this makes you sound like a brat.

Answer 12

calm down

it's because ur adolescence

Answer 13

your parents dont know whats best for you sometimes.

Answer 14

how old are you?