Do you think its rude to say, "Your baby is cute, but not as cute as mine!"?

Question

I have a friend at work, she had her first baby 9 months ago and thinks her baby is the cutest in the world. She obviously thinks that because she is the baby's mother because the baby is NOT cute at all.

When other people bring in their kids, she says things like, "Your baby is cute, but not as cute as mine!" or she goes and grabs pictures of her baby to show the other parents that her baby is cute too. When someone leaves the room with their baby she will say, "My baby is so much cuter".

I just feel this is rude and just because she gave birth to the kid doesn't mean its better, cuter, smarter, etc. than everyone else's babies.

Is she an egomaniac as a parent?

Answer 1

Yeah, but mostly she's just insensitive.



Sounds like she views it as a contest.

Answer 2

She sounds like one of those people that have to be the center of every ones attention. Everyone believes their baby's is the cutest baby they have ever seen, it's very normal. Of course it's rude of her to say "my babies cuter" especially if she isn't just joking around. It's ok to have a sense of humor and joke around but if she's doing this out of meanest than someone should tell her how ugly it makes her look. Leave her baby out of it! It's not the child's fault that the mother acts out this way. Next time she says it to someone take her to the side and let her know it prolly hurts their feelings otherwise i would just ignore it. Maybe she'll stop if others don't acknowledge it.

Answer 3

She is taking it WAY too far. It is very rude to say something like that to another parent. I do understand her feelings, as I have a four-month-old son who seems to me to be the cutest baby in the world--but I would never say to another parent that my baby is cuter. That's extremely rude and simply unnecessary.



The closest thing to that that I have ever done, was just after my son was born, looking through baby magazines, and seeing babies in them, I would remark to my husband, "Our baby's cuter". But I was really joking, and not saying it to anyone else, so it wasn't harming anyone else.

Whereas what your friend is saying is potentially very hurtful.



HOWEVER--what you are saying is just as rude, if not worse. You say that "She obviously thinks that because she is the baby's mother because the baby is NOT cute at all."

That is also extremely rude. Maybe you should be looking at yourself as well.

Answer 4

Rude and inconsiderate. I would tell her that it is a matter of opinion on whose baby is cuter. Also, if you don't have any kids, I would make it a point to say, "You have the cutest baby I've EVER seen!" the next time someone else (besides her) brings in their baby or pictures. :)

Answer 5

All parents think their baby is the cutest. And a genius. It is a fact of life. So every other parent knows that. She seems a little loud but no it's not rude. It doesn't matter because my baby is the cutest j/k!

Answer 6

Yeah, I guess that's kinda rude. But, as a mother of a 9 month old, I can see where she is coming from. We all think our babies are the cutest. Just becuase it is true, doesn't mean I should say it.



She should engage that filter between her brain and her mouth.

Answer 7

she will be better, because she cant stand the happiness and joy of being a mother, and she will get over it when her baby get older



but despite that she is still rude becaus what will make the other people think? Tell her to have some common sence and all mothers do think their baby's cute even when they are not and tell her that no one is perfect and no babies are perfect

Answer 8

she's annoying. i have a friend from work that talks about her 9 year old all day long.



i would confront her and tell her that her comments are rude and others are getting offended. watch your tone of voice and make it sound neutral. otherwise your friend will turn into my coworker and u will hear about how perfect Betsy is for the next 18 years. just say something like " yeah Betsy is cute, but u know your

remarks are hurting people's feelings. maybe u shouldn't be so blunt to people because they are as happy with their babies as u r with yours and u r bursting their bubble"

Answer 9

it totally depends on her personality and how she says it. if she is just being funny or playing on the fact that she brags about her little one all the time then it wasn't meant to hurt someone else. she probably just says it because she knows that they'll just chuckle and they'll understand why she is saying it because they also think that no other baby is cuter than theirs.



a parent who doesn't think that their child is the best thing on earth is the ones you need to worry about.



do you have children yet? if not, then you'll understand someday.



just give her a fake smile and go about your business. everyone knows that i actually have the cutest little guy in the world. :)



SD

Answer 10

That girl needs to learn about a little thing called tact. It is one thing to think your child is cuter or smarter or whatever. But it is entirely different to voice that. It is rude and tacky and she is making herself look like an ***. Plus, it isn't a friggin' competition. So, who cares whos baby is cuter. I'd say just let it go. She is making herself look really stupid. But if you want to put her in her place that would work too. ;)

Answer 11

All mom's are like that, but can you tell your friend that she only thinks her baby is the cutest in the world because she hasn't seen mine yet?

I'm just kidding, but I think that she is just unbelievably proud and just a little too good at showing off!

Answer 12

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Answer 13

Yeah, it is kind of rude. But everyone thinks their baby is the cutest ever. But she does seem to be going overboard about it. She probably just wants people to think she's better because she thinks her baby is better.

Answer 14

It's rude. But its also a parent thing. Every parent thinks that their kids are the most beautiful kids in the world. I have two girls and I think they are gorgeous, but I would never say that they are MORE beautiful than any other child.

Answer 15

Sounds like she is insecure. Maybe someone told her that her baby was not cute early on and this has affected her in some way that she feels the need to say such things.



Have you asked her why she says this? Have you told her that she is being rude? (Since she is your friend).

Answer 16

i had a friend whose kid was cuter and smarter etc. HER baby was SO much better then mine. i hated her... lol mine is obviously brighter and cuter.... seriously though, that is rude. It's ok to be proud.. but not to be superior

Answer 17

Wow she sounds like she has a really low self-esteem if she feels the need to be validated like that all the time or else she just doesn't have any social skills so she doesn't realize how offensive she is. I would just smile and move on. It's not worth it trying to reason with people like that.

Answer 18

No, she is not being rude. But it does sound like she is annoying. That is just her approach to be able to show off her child(pics). Now, if she went as far as too buy a cowbell or a paperbag for the other baby to wear, then yes that is rude.

Answer 19

If she is doings this as like ya I'm playin around kinda thing then its OK but if she is trying to say HEY PAY ATTENTION TO MY BABY then yeah shes a rude person.

Answer 20

She's either totally out of it or trying to be funny. I made a similar joke a couple of times with family members, but they knew I was joking and we bantered about it. If she is a friend you can talk to, you may want to tell her that her humor is being misconstrued as a putdown to other parents.

Answer 21

That is quite rude. Eventually she'll realize though. The baby is going to grow up.

Answer 22

I really don't think it's that rude,because as a mother your verry proud of your children and you do think they are the cutest,smartest,etc.... baby in the world there is nothing wrong with being a proud mom! let her have that because i feel the same way!!when you have a baby you don't think theres another baby as cute as your own!i tink you might be the one being negitive she should be that proud of her baby!!

Answer 23

any mother thinks their child is very cute....its just the way it is.



but if it really bothers you, you should say "look we all get that your child is cute, so could you stop talking about, it gets old"



sure the person will be offended but obviously you're offended also so its a lose lose situation.

Answer 24

That's VERY rude!

I wish someone would look at her pictures and say "I guess it IS true what they say, that all Moms THINK their baby is cute."

That would put her in her place!

Answer 25

VERY rude. Ehh even as a first mother it's a rude thing to do, so that's no excuse.



Just smile (a bit patronizing) and say "Yes, mothers are VERY biased, aren't they?" and then turn your back away from her.

Answer 26

She just sounds like a typical self centered rude person. My guess is she is rude in other ways also.

Answer 27

She just plain rude.



You tell her that i said that my baby is cutier, smarter and better than hers.

Answer 28

every parent thinks their baby is the cutest. I'm sure she is saying that in jest.

Answer 29

she may well be aware that her baby isn't really all that cute.

As a mother, though, she loves her kid more than any others, of course, and it would be natural for her to be 'loyal' to her child.

I don't think it is rude.

Answer 30

yeah its rude you can think it to your self though thats not rude by keeping it to your self yeah thats wrong i wouldve smacked ha me her baby must not be to cute if she keep braggin but i think all babies cuuuttteeee when they dont be

Answer 31

I think perhaps she is going a little over the top, but of course we all think our little darlings are the cutest. And mine really is!!!!!!!

Answer 32

I am with you girl!!!! That is the RUDEST... I am sick of all these people who think their kid the the all and be all...my god, get a life people.... all kids are wonderful, and to say that yours is "better"??? goodness get real.... your baby is of course the apple of your eye... and these other moms need to get a life, seriously....

Answer 33

It is ALWAYS rude to Brag Outloud! Ignore it, act like you did not hear it. Do Not acknowledge!

Answer 34

of course it is, but she's obviously blind to it.

how would she feel if someone said those things to HER after seeing her baby?

Answer 35

She Is Just A *****!

Answer 36

I would say immature.

Just ignore her.

Answer 37

Next time she says that.. grab a magnifying glass, squint at her baby pics and say.. "huh... I don't see it"

Answer 38

yes its rude...but at least she is a proud mother!

Answer 39

That is really rude!!

Answer 40

no thats her opinion and she should be proud

Answer 41

HELL YA THATS RUDE!

Answer 42

Rude and dumb!