Parents! Can you smack(not beat) your kids if they are misbehaving?

Question

Example: talk back to you. Disgrace you. Roll your eyes at you. Unappreciative of you. Throw away your money? All those things that annoy you or irrate you. Would you be the one to smack them upside their dumb*ss heads so they can learn some manners.

And don't give me the "you can't hit kids or there are better ways than that crap"! Have some authority damn it!

I swear some kids/teenagers need to be deciplined. God they have attitude problems and are in serious stupid behavior. Im 19 (not gonna lie) but i knew that missbehaving was out of the quesion for me.

Spare the rod then spoil the child.

Answer 1

There is no proof at all that spanking or smacking a child lowers IQ, causes mental issues, causes them to do badly in school or any such utter nonsense. The so called 'studies' were all on ABUSED children and not everyday misbehavior chid



There is nothing wrong at all with spanking a child. I was spanked and I grew up into a better person for it. I never talked back, I respected my parents, I didn't whine for pets like most kids on here do.



Its not PC to spank. Nope gotta stick the kid in a corner so they learn nothing at all and go right back to being brats.

Answer 2

I was spanked as a child I never had to therapy for anger, I understood that a spanking was a spanking and I was getting one because I did something wrong, And I'm not angry I'm not psycho and I still love my parents unconditionally even though they spanked me. So with being said its a bunch of bs to say kids act out cause of being spanked if anything they act like that cause of the ish they see on tv half the stuff on cartoons these days never would've even been shown or said when i was a kid.



Edit: To Emory there are also 1000's of studies showing that kids act violent do to things they see on tv by trying to copy the characters. I'm a nurse and learned about and are famililiar with some of these spanking studies alot of times in these studies you see that the parents of thse children were usually verbally abusive and had short temper and would spank their kids/get angry with over the slightest thing (ex spilling water) so the real root of the anger came from the parents having short fuses and spanking was only part of the problem because the kids were always in trouble over anything and everything. Theres a huge difference in a spanking and flat out hitting your child spanking is my last last resort and my kids know that they are getting after other warnings and things were tried (ex. timeouts) So you can say i don't love my kids for spanking them or im a horrible parent blah blah but i would do anything for my children

Answer 3

I don't think too many people are interested in parenting advice from some 19 year old with no children of their own. And there is a difference between simple spanking/a smack on the butt, and actually hitting a child out of anger, beating them with belts, or hitting them in the head. Judging by the way you talk and seem to have such contempt towards kids, it sounds like you would hit your kids out of anger if you did have any, and much of what you describe is abuse. Just because you were raised that way doesn't mean it's right.

Answer 4

It is perfectly legal to spank your children as long as you don't leave marks on them. The way to do this is to use what the Bible calls "A Rod". A rod is a fresh GREEN (not dead) tree clipping. Often called a switch. A switch stings like the dickens but leaves no marks.



I was spanked as a child and I have no anger issues, no ill feelings towards my parents and believe I deserved what I got. I've also never seen the inside of a prison cell.

Answer 5

This is not an easy answer. I have a 5 year plus daughter. She is never been beaten before. I tried to use consequences to discipline her. For example, if she spill something on the floor, I will not yell, but simply ask her to bring the mop and mop it by herself. But these days, it seems to cease working, if not getting worse. She likes to put off her homework. There are always excuses "10 more minutes, I am going to finish my play first." At one time, I ask her to go and take a bath, she's trying to put off, and I give her forty more minutes. After forty minutes, I ask her to go, and she still refuses with all excuses. I just force her to go to the bathroom, and said "You promise after 40 minutes, and you should honor your own promise." She is very angry and try to hit me. That's when I think this is too much. I hit her back on her arm to show her that hitting hurts the people that you hit. I never want my kid to be disrespect to her parents. We can have difference in opinion, yes. But not in violence. So I never hit her for anything else, except from when she tries to hit me. It;s just intolerable.

So the story continues, she is still shouting and yelling from the top of her lung when I put her in the bedroom (my bedroom is connected to my bathroom). And tell her : you stay here until you calm. and I lock the room (The room is very large 45 sqm and bright). Because unless I lock the room, she will try to escape. She banged the door angrily and yelled continuously, but I left her. 15 minutes later, I came into the room, and she is already very calm, playing with whatever she can find in the room.

So I guess, it works. I don't think it works to use "positive words" in this situation. She will in no way listening to me since she keeps yelling and shouting. MAke her stay inside the room, make her calmer.

Answer 6

Most of the kids who are misbehaving HAVE been smacked around at home. That's why they're so angry. I never hit my child, and none of my friends ever hit their children, and they were all fine teenagers who never talked back. They had respect for their parents because their parents didn't hit them and call them names.

I'm sorry that you seem to have been hit as a child. I hope you will re-think your attitude before you have children. All hitting does is show the children that hitting is an appropriate response when you're unhappy.

Most of the people in prison for violent crime were beaten as children.

Spare the rod and spoil the child is from the Old Testament. The New Testament replace it with "love thy neighbor as thyself" and "Suffer the little children to come unto me."

Answer 7

I grew up in the 60's + 70's. My dad was from the WWII generation, a tough SOB. He would give us *** whoopin's. You know, beat us like we were in a fight.



By 19 I was shooting heroin. By 23 I was serving many years in San Quentin in CA. Is there a connection? I think so. I was an angry adolescent. The stuff I did is horrible! I ripped off everything that wasn't bolted down to supply a insatiable dope habit. I am 52 now and have been out of the joint for 14 years. Totally clean from dope and truly respecting myself for the first time in my life.



Those *** whoopin's taught me to not give a damn. My outlook was one of....'What the hell, nothing matters, life sucks!' When in reality, life only sucked because of my surroundings. Once I cut my family loose and embraced my life with respect and dignity I began to grow. I began to see the values in others I should have been taught by my parents.



Let's face the one glaring truth in child beating, it almost always is out of anger. The offending parent is mad because the child either embarrassed them, disappointed them, or just irritated (inconvenienced) them. My dad was a drunk. So common in homes of abuse. He could not deal with his own misery. He self medicated and lashed out upon his offspring.



Parents need to teach and guide their children. Teach them to respect others in all ways. Not just to say 'please, or thank you' but truly respect them.



I am amazed our society will court the idea of corporal punishment with children but charge battery as an adult. If you strike another adult human you will get locked up. But if you strike your child to 'teach' them a lesson this is okay. Bizarre.

Answer 8

Smacking a child "upside the head" is not appropriate. It's actually quite dangerous the younger the child is. Small children are fragile and can die from head injuries from being hit there. The ONLY place you should ever smack a child is their bottom or the back of their legs, and even that should be the last resort.

Answer 9

The reason why your kid is misbehaving is because you're smacking him/her. You need to apologize for past abuse and then things might start to get better.

Answer 10

I think there a set rule of how it should go, first talk try to make them understand it is wrong with words. The yell if they keep doing it, next time out and then if none of that works a slap to the bottom with your cupped hand is alright I think. But first you must at lest TRY other ways first

Answer 11

It's not at all helpful to hit children - as you can see; even teenagers are STILL being hit by parents who believe in this method. Whereas parents who use true discipline (teaching, explanations, guidance etc) bring up children who develop their own maturity and self-discipline by the time they're about eight or nine.



Of course, neglect causes its own share of problems; parents who rarely spend time with their children, and don't take the time to listen to them, hug them, and explain things carefully are also likely to have problems with them. But hitting them generally makes them more angry, and can lead to passive aggressive behaviour in teens.



'Spare the rod and spoil the child' is often misquoted as an advocate for spanking. It's simply not true.. the 'rod' was a light one used by shepherds to GUIDE sheep away from danger, and show them the right way to go, not to HIT them.

Answer 12

The rod is vital in the upbringing of girls between 8 and 16/17 - any of these behavioural traist should result in punishment and discomfort sitting down for a few days after for the recipient.

For boys it should be between ages 7 and 12.

Answer 13

If my kids had any manners, they wouldn't be smacking people, cussing, using God's name in vain, or judging strangers, much like you are. Are you this way from being smacked? I'll remember that.

Answer 14

Slap the **** out of them..... that's why the younger generations are getting worse and worse... parents instead of disciplining there children are buying them everything they want.

Answer 15

you are violent, of course you children will be violent. common sense.