Can you love your new parner more than your own kid?

Question

Can you love your new partner more than your kid?

If you have a kid/kids from previous relationship, and you met a woman you love. Can you love your new partner more than you love your own kid?

If your kids come first, then do you think it's fair for your new partner to become second or last ?

Answer 1

Love is not something that has to be measured in ounces. It's not like your love for your partner weighs .8 and your love your kid is .789. Love doesn't work that way. Either you love someone, or you don't. It's not a greater than or less than kind of a thing.



Your RESPONSIBILITY to your kid, however, is non-negotiable. You have a responsibility to your child, and you cannot choose to abrogate it because you've found a new girlfriend. By bringing a child into the world, you made a commitment to love and nurture that child. You can choose to make a commitment to a woman to be her partner. That will not eliminate any of your responsibilities to your child, and will add new responsibilities to your partner.



Your partner should not come "last", nor "first". Every decision that you make should take both your child and your partner into consideration. Few decisions are really that cut and dried, anyway. Both your child and your partner should feel that they are VERY important in your life, and that you love them, and your decisions should reflect that, so that no one ever feels like they always come in "last" in your life.

Answer 2

If you love someone else more than your own child, you're pathetic. How can anyone love someone else more than their kid?!? It's always fair. It's like an unwritten rule of understanding. Besides, wouldn't your kid think it was unfair if it would be the other way around?

The answer is: no. If you are a parent then nothing can come between the love of you and your child(unless you have a mental disorder).

Answer 3

When you marry someone who has children you know going in that your not going to be first. You know that the children will always be main priotity to your spouse. So it isnt a matter of it being fair to place the new spouse second or last. Both parties enter the marriage realizing that the children HAVE to come first. Your children are your own flesh and blood. They are a part of you that no parent can even describe. Even though I am happily married to my soul mate he knows very well our kids come first. Just as I know our children come before me.

Answer 4

If the person is a mature adult they will understand that the child comes first, BUT, kids also need to know that it is OK for their parent to have a life. I have a hard time understanding how some women can let their new boyfriends beat their child/ren. If someone was to lay a hand on my son they would not live to do it again.

Answer 5

Your kids always come first & no love for a partner can compare to that. You probably just feel that way right now because it's new love so of course it feels really intense right now.

Answer 6

Nope, i love my boys more than anything in this world. My kids were afraid that i would love my boyfriend more than them, not possible. I love my boys and no matter how much i may love a man in my life they could never ever take the place of my boys. Men come and go but my children are my children for life. That doesn't mean i don't love my boyfriend or even my exhusband because i love them i just really do love my boys more.

Answer 7

Well first off, it should be a totally different love but secondly, if you have a new partner, he or she should always come after your previous loves (ie. YOUR KID(S) )....Thats terrible that you even have to ask such a question

Answer 8

Your kids are always number 1! A new partner has no place besides 2nd. Even a spouse is 2nd. That is what parenting is all about.

Answer 9

I will never love someone MORE than I love my child. It's not possible. No matter what my child will always love me. My new "partner" may not always. I love my Fiance more than life, but my Daughter... she'll always come 1st. And I love my Fiance in a TOTALLY different way than I love my Daughter.

Answer 10

My kids will always come first in my life. Before I think of myself its my kids. There is no reason you should love your new spouse more then your kids.

You need to re evaluate yourself and your life.

Answer 11

Your kids should always come FIRST. You should never love someone more than your children, that is just crazy. I am in love with my husband & I pick my babies over him ANY DAY. And he knows it too.

Answer 12

Nothing will come in between me and my children. I love my fiance with all my heart and would do anything for him, but if something ever happened where I had to choose him or my children, then I would definatly without a doubt, choose my children. Nothing should ever come between you and your kids

Answer 13

kids come first, before you and before anyone else as well. anyone starting a relationship with someone who has kids should know that up front.

Answer 14

I can't imagine loving anyone more than my child. Sure, you'll have strong feelings for a significant other, but nothing like the protective love you feel for your child.

Answer 15

I Agree With Soinlove(:

becuase, that is just not right.

Kid's r 1#.

My Mom Divorced my dad.

because he always disincouragred me.

My Dad Loved My Mom More Than Me.

& That Was Not Right.

Answer 16

READ ME?okay u have enough room to put all of them 1ST.so theirs no first and theirs no second in life.No limit to life or love.Really theirs no first so dont worry.No limit to love...

Answer 17

Second.

Kids are your flesh and blood.



Who would you choose your kids or your lover?

Answer 18

NEVER! Kids are #1, well beside God :)

Answer 19

You cannot even compare the two.

It is waay too different.