I am having a meltdown, and crisis. I need help, and advice. Someone to talk to. Please! Anyone!?

Question

I am 18 yrs old. I go back and forth between my mom and grandma's house. I have been at my grandma's house for 5 months now, with my mom only visiting on Friday's and Saturday's.
The Friday that just past, I found something I wasn't mean to find. I was in my grandma's closet looking for her binoculars so I could see the alligator across the street better. While looking I found a big bottle of Absolute Vodka in my grandma's closet, along with seltzer. I asked my mom if my grandma was drinking again, and she ignored me. She informed me that my grandma was in rehab for drinking 2 other times. I told them I was going to say something, and they told me not to.
The Sunday that just past, I made up my mind and said something to her. I had to because I couldn't stop crying. I asked her why, and she told me. I told her I needed her to stop because I love her more than anyone else in this world, and I don't want her to drink herself to the hospital again. She has diabetes, and recently had to get her gal bladder removed. She has stopped testing her blood sugar level. When I told my mom why my grandma is drinking, my mom said it was just an excuse. I feel like my mom is using my grandma. I told them I wasn't going to just sit back and watch my grandma destroy herself! I would rather have my grandma mad at me, than dead. She drank 2 big bottles of absolute vodka in one night!!!!!! Then went out for more.
After confronting my grandma she and I cried. We held each other almost all night. Her and I are also best friends. My grandma said she can't go to rehab or AA meetings or her husband will divorce her. They have been married since they were 25 yrs old, and they are now 57.
I can't stop crying. My grandma needs help. PLEASE! SOMEONE GIVE ME ADVICE! GIVING UP ON HER IS NOT AN OPTION FOR ME. I WILL GO TO THE END OF THIS WORLD AND BACK FOR HER.
Maybe a hotline where I can talk to someone and figure out what to do? How do I talk about it without someone in my family knowing? PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE HELP. I WILL DO ANYTHING. NO NEGATIVE COMMENTS PLEASE. MY GRANDMA HAS ALWAYS BEEN THERE FOR ME; MORE THAN MY OWN MOTHER. NOW IT'S MY TURN TO BE THERE FOR HER.

Answer 1

Sweetie I'm so sorry you found that. Addictions affect everyone, not just the ones with the addiction. Since your family is very uncomfortable discussing it, see if you can find a counselor to speak to about it. You need support in dealing with this.



In the mean time, pray for your Grandmother. I will as well. She needs to go to AA or rehab.... even if it means her husband will divorce her. Making someone stay in their addiction is not healthy. Your grandmother deserves better. Encourage her to go to rehab or AA. I wish you the best.



Encourage your grandmother, support her positive decisions, and love her.

Answer 2

Your mom is telling you not to say anything because its a useless battle. Your grandmother is sick, and no amount of persuading on your part will change that. The MOST you can do is find out where the local aa meets and make sure she is aware of that information. I know its not what you want to hear, but she cant get better until SHE decides she wants to get better, and then she will need medical help to get better. Alcohol is a powerful addiction and while her reasoning probably actually is just an excuse, alcohol is a more powerful addiction than anything you can imagine.

Answer 3

Addiction is a hard thing to deal with. It affects everyone around you. Just keep talking to your grandma and make sure she knows how you feel, mabey spend more time at her house than your moms house and moniter her to make sure she isnt doing those things. She is a grown women though so you cant control all the things she does. Its just a part of life. Im really sorry i cant help more. Try going to a pastor, or a church nearby, they are typically all willing and eager to help people who need serious advice such as this.





Its ok, it will get better, you just got to hold on.

God Bless.

<3

Answer 4

Sit down and tell her how much you love her and want her to be around and ask her what drinking solves. Also maybe she needs what is best, rehab. If it works, she needs it.

Answer 5

Have you ever heard of the show called "Intervention"? You should look that up online, they help people with addictions.





http://www.aetv.com/intervention/index.jsp





Hope that helps<3

Answer 6

I am very sorry to hear what you are going through. Please look into your local chapter of Al-anon and Alateen.