Why do so many parents do this if they're going to have kids?

Question

Common things i see from teenagers these days.
Kids are incredibly rude to their parents, yet the parents continually spoiling them, buying them cars, giving them hundreds of dollars a month for allowance, etc. I have seen kids/teenagers talk bad to their parents and the parents just took it.
Also, parents who let their kids do drugs/drink/smoke. From what I hear, some parents supply their kids with it! If you're going to produce an offspring, do it properly!
Teens do such horrible things and the parents just watch them and let them off without punishment. Also, what's with little 14 year olds with iPhones and BlackBerrys?
Several teenagers bascially have NO manners whatsoever. I'm not speaking for all of them, but I would know.
How a kid is directly comes from how they were raised at home. I'm sorry but it angers me to see such sh*tty parents!

Answer 1

Because parents today would rather be best friends with their kids, than be a parent. Doesn't work that way. Kids need guidance, discipline and an a&& beating when needed. Todays parents refuse to give them those because they want to understand more. Well, you can understand your kids right to prison, because that's where the majority will end up if you continue that way.

Answer 2

I agree with most of the answers on here kids are getting to spoiled today. I had one of those friends when I was a teen. Her mom bought her cars, all the designer clothes she wanted, and anything else her little heart desired. She drank did drugs went to rehab twice.

Then she got prego at 16 her mom took care of her. Rented her, her very own place paid for it, came over and cleaned it. Bought her another truck or two. She has the baby starts drinking and smoking pot and moves back in with her mom. Well long story short she moves out leaves the baby and her mom gets custody. She comes back a year or so later and wants him back. Her oldest son is now about 13. She finally gets it together starts taking responsibility and now has three kids and a wonedful husband. It's just such a shame she had to take that path to figure it out.

I am a mom of 4. I love all my babies very much but I have made the choice that my kids will be respectful and earn the things they get. I just gave my 11 year old a cell phone for Christmas(prepaid) and he has to work and do chores to buy mins. He also has to keep his grades up or lose the phone. I bought it for him for two reasons one, he is very responsible for his age and two,me and my husband only have cell phones no home phone and it make me feel safer if I'm not at home when he gets home from school he has it to call me or for emergencies.

Answer 3

i am a parent of 2.

They are only they are nowhere near teenagers yet.



I would love to be a friend to my children but i will be the parent at the same time.

If my boys can be honest and open with me and tell me that they have started smoking or drinking or smoking pot then i will allow them to do those things in MY presence within reason and so that i can monitior it.

Why?

Because i was a teenager a few years ago im 22 now and i smoked ciggarettes i drank alcohol and on the rare occasion i used to smoke pot, all behind my parents backs and it got me into trouble when they found out so i continued to do it ( rebellious stage).

For that reason i cant say to my kids NO YOU CANT DO THAT because then im being hypocritical and they will only continue to do it behind my back anyway.

It might seem to you that i was an irresponsible teen and i am an irresponsible parent but i never got completely drunk or anything like that as a teen and i didnt do things to impress people and i never slept around so hopefully my kids will be the same or just wont do it at all (which i would prefer them not to do it at all).

Times have changed and unfortunately people are trying things at a much younger age so the best thing to do is educate them on being responsible in whatever they do







also i wasnt spoilt and i wasnt rude to my parents.



My boys arent spoilt either but they arent without, they will still have to earn the right to go out and do the things they want to do.

Answer 4

I have never actually met any one like that, I don't think people like that exist outside of those sweet sixteen shows. Most parents are rude to their children for no reason, but no cares about that. I suppose some one who hits their child and never buys them anything is such a better role model, God forbid some one might treat children with respect.

Answer 5

Kids are not completely to blame and, neither of the parents.

I think so many different factors are to "blame" that its impossible to pinpoint why kids are so 'rude' , or why adults are such 'pushovers'. Not everyone is perfect, yet not every house hold is a raging mess. Everyone has problems..some just less than others and some just less visible than others.

Answer 6

I'm 21 years old and I was placed in college housing with this girl who was 18 years old and so spoiled it killed me. Her mother was the sweetest woman in the world to her daughter--she would cook meals for her and bring them to her dorm from time to time, she bought her ski trip tickets for her and her friends, money to go shopping, a new car, a computer, an iPhone, and she had a loving boyfriend who bent over backwards to make her happy and she wouldn't even notice, she would just whine to him about how he didn't care about her. Everyone would bust their *** for her and she just walked all over everyone, nothing anybody did for her was ever enough. When something didn't go her way she would throw a hissy fit



One day she wants a puppy in the dorm. I tell her no, because I didn't want to get kicked off of campus. She went apeshit and got the dog anyway. When I made her take it home with her, it was a screaming, tear-filled argument about how mean and insensitive I was, how I'm an animal-hater and cruel and hate dogs...Her mother even told me I was ridiculous... yeah I guess I'm SO RIDICULOUS for not putting my *** on the line for HER daughter.



Talk about spoiling kids! I think it's a generation problem.. our generation is more spoiled and "entitled" than any other past generation I can think of.

Answer 7

Well, IMO, its a classic case of parents trying to be friends with their kids, or trying to be the COOL parents on the block. And in many cases, parents spoiling their kids as a way to get them to love them.



My mom was not like that. She was a cool mom, but there were always boundaries. I didnt like everything she did, but now that I am older I respect it and understand it and I would like to think I am a good person as a result. My b/fs brother and wife ignore their kids all year long, and then Xmas comes and they buy them everything they want. Guilt. Kids want your time, not your money. Thats my two cents.

Answer 8

why does letting the kid drive witout a permit bother you. if your parent is with you then it ok. i do it b/c im about to get my permit but i want to practice as much as possible well i dont drive on like highways and stuff just back roads and a highway once . but as long as the kid isnt crashing into stuff what does it matter. its their problem if they get pulled over. and i dont even have a permit but i drive about 100x better than most of the kids at my school who actually have their license but drive like maniacs

Answer 9

I agree with you completly. Im a teen to. But i dont treat my parents like that. I got to earn everything i do and keep my grades up. Or else i cant do anything literally anything.

Answer 10

Well, well, well, sounds like you exactly know your place, doncha? Knowing everything so damn well about how other people should parent their kids?



Newsflash: you're being rude. I guess I need to go blame your parents though. And yes, I agree with some of your points, but not with others, and not with the way you're expressing them.

Answer 11

Your "teens do such horrible things" line just made me laugh.



NOT ALL TEENS ARE HORRIBLE.



And just so you know, adults don't respect us most of the time, so why should we respect them?

Answer 12

I never knew anyone who got hundreds of dollars a month for allowance! (and I had a filthy rich friend)

Answer 13

because somehere down the line someone believed the crap that being a parent and disciplining is wrong and that being their friend is the best thing for them,



BULL **** My friends, be a parent and NOT a friend to your kids

Answer 14

I agree with Ian. It's not your place to say.