Question:
What u should do if ur boyfriend doesnt want to have a baby but u do want it & u got ur mom support?
yoya263
2006-03-16 10:01:48 UTC
What u should do if ur boyfriend doesnt want to have a baby but u do want it & u got ur mom support?
Nine answers:
2006-03-16 10:03:51 UTC
You shouldn't have a baby with someone that doesn't want one. Then you will be raising it alone. With your mothers support, it is good to have someone on your side, but you should not have a child if you know you will have to depend on them for help. If you want the child then you should be in the position to support it. also find someone who wants one.
tazgirl469
2006-03-16 20:50:33 UTC
If you're already pregnant, then the decision to have the baby is completely yours. But you need to seriously consider what he's saying while you make your decision. An unwilling father can make your life miserable. Even if you manage to get financial support from him, you can't force him to be a father. And he can also insist on custody/visitation rights even when you are not together and you will have to share birthdays/holidays with him. And most unwilling fathers skip out on the child support even after its court ordered.



As far as your mom, well its great that she's offered to support you. But you need to plan as if its only going to be YOU there for the baby. Because thats all you can really ever count on. Your mom says she will help now, but things happen and she may not be able to be as much help as you need. Daycare is expensive and if you don't have a good job, its not worth it to work to pay daycare. Your mom has her own life I'm sure and could have health issues later that prevent her from being helpful.



If you're not pregnant, then DO NOT get pregnant to try and manipulate your boyfriend into something he's not ready for.

Wait until you find the relationship where you both want the same things out of life. If its not this one, then there's always others.



Men are like buses...if you miss this one, there's always another one getting ready to pull through. :)



Good Luck!
Alex Ortiz
2006-03-16 22:43:21 UTC
get another boyfriend. Older, I suggest. Young men usually don't want to hear about responsibilities. And the baby has the right to have a father that cares.
tigrisow
2006-03-16 18:10:53 UTC
hey, if you're pregnant already, definitely keep it...after you have the baby, it'll either grown on him or it won't...if it doesn't, he doesn't deserve it...

but if you're not, don't start a family where one's not wanted...why for fatherhood when he's not ready? you'll only hurt the kid b/c maybe 2 yrs from now he'd be ready but for the first two years of your baby's life, it would have no father...how selfish...
2006-03-16 18:03:37 UTC
I don't get it. Are you pregnant already? If so, it's your choice, though you will have some trouble getting child support from an unwilling father.

If you aren't pregnant yet, then don't try to get pregnant. Trapping your boyfriend will make him resent you.
bug927
2006-03-16 18:04:06 UTC
find a new boyfriend....who wants a baby by a man who won't be a father.
2006-03-16 18:51:46 UTC
if you want to be with him then you should wait until you are both ready but if you could do without him you can go and find yourself someone who is ready to have a child
2006-03-16 18:10:30 UTC
Please tell me what you Mom has to do with YOU having a baby? I think that Question shows you are not prepared to have one quite yet...
2006-03-16 18:05:23 UTC
if you want the baby... you should have him/her...


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