Ex now with multiple kids?

Question

Hey everyone, I am 32, and my ex-husband is 33. We've been knowing each other since our late teens. He have a child that we had when we were very young, she is now in her teens. But we never stayed together long enough to have more. As I left him when I was pregnant because he was young and stupid. By the time we married he had another kid by someone else. And we didn't stay together in our marriage long, before we broke up. And after the divorce he ended up with a lot of kids with different hit and quits.

And I never had any other kids with anyone else. Had several lovers but no kids, except for his child with me. We've been divorced for almost 10 yrs now, and during this time he has always asked me to get back with him. But I didn't because I never felt he would do right and wasn't mentally stable. So recently, I have decided to give us another shot, and even remarry him. So the question is, how is the best way for me to cope with the fact he has lots of loose children? I have always been his only wife, and ex-wife, possibly future wife. But he has at least 5 kids outside of the one with me? What would you do?

Answer 1

I'm a sensible woman, I'd run in the other direction. I don't like one thing you've said about him, he is irresponsible, has kids with lots of women, so he's going to either be spending weekends with them or ignoring them or you're going to be spending weekends with six kids and you're the mommy. I don't know about you, but I wouldn't even want to tell my daughter that its OK to hang with a man like that.

I don't ask for problems, I think I'm worth more than a man like that.

Take it really slow with him, like a couple of years before you decide to remarry. Think over this relationship, up, down, backwards and then standing on your head.



I have one last bit of advice for you, there are worse things than being alone. He may be one of them.

Answer 2

Choosing to marry a man of his character is a terrible idea, but let's ignore that elephant in the room and get to your actual question. How do you cope with his other children? You don't. Not your job. None of your concern. Those kids already have mothers, and you are not their mother, and you never will be their mother.

Answer 3

Why you would wish to "go back" is beyond me.



If you are asking why/how question about "coping" with knowing he breeds with whoever, whenever he can and has no clue about birth control or protecting his own sexual health over the years, do you think for 1 second he has changed his spots? NO! Do you have reason to think you will be taking care of his flock of half sibling children? NO they have their own mothers and with 5 to provide child support for, plus 6 being yours....... all I can think of is he is a multi millionaire and you are more interested in his money.... if not...... then wake up and smell the coffee

Answer 4

I personally wouldn't marry the slut. He has 5 kids. He gets to pay support for 5 kids. Don't expect him to spend money on you or anytning you might need.

Answer 5

Not a good ideaas he was unfaithful to you when you were married.

Big question is who will support who if he has 5 kids whose mothers may be looking for financial support from him.

Answer 6

SMH!!



Why would you want to marry a loser who goes around leaving kids everywhere?? Are you really that desperate?? Just wait until they start coming after you for child support!!