As a teenager, why am I the only one that is going through this?

Question

Why am I the only one out of my siblings, cousins, and friends that have parents that ALWAYS have parents that make me study? No one I know have parents that do that. Many people say "because you don't make good grades like them." That is not true. My siblings, some of my cousins, and some of my friends are 10 times more lazy than me. So why am I the only one? I don't understand. That is not fair. Do you agree?

Answer 1

Be happy, very happy, that your parents care enough about you, to want you to do well.



Your lazy friends don't have 'cool' parents. They have parents that don't care about them. To them, their kids are, at best, a nuisance.

Answer 2

Are you the achiever in the family? Are you parents immigrants?





I'm the only female grandchild in my family (I have a dozen male cousins and 3 male siblings). My parents put a lot of pressure on me to study and excel because A) I was very bright and B) they wanted me to get a college education (and scholarship). I'm the only woman in my family to go to college- that was a TON of pressure!





Maybe explain to them that you understand the importance of studying and doing well in school, but that you feel you deserve a break every once in a while. Perhaps tell them for every hour you study, you're going to take 1/2 hour to have some fun and/or relax. All that studying must be driving you crazy!

I think by talking to them and not pointing out how others have it (less rules), you'll reach them. By coming out and complaining about everyone else having more freedom, your parents may just turn a deaf ear to it.

Answer 3

Are you the oldest? If so, you're parents probably tell you to study because your siblings look up to you, and if they see you studying, then they will study too.



My parents don't really constantly tell me to study, but if it's exams or something, they have me studying from the time I get home until they can rush me off to bed to get the proper amount of sleep. They tell my sister to all the time though. She's the oldest (in the house) though. And I've always wanted to be like her. So if she's studying in her room, I go along and study too. That might be what your parents are after. The brunt of it sometimes falls on the oldest. But you'll always have adoring little siblings to make up for it.

Answer 4

Every person is different. Your siblings may not need to study as much as you do. It could go back as far as when you were a toddler and how long it took you to learn things. Sounds like your parents only want the best for you and are wanting to work through problems BEFORE they arrive. I would just buckle down and listen to them. Another thing is they're possibly looking to keep you occupied and out of trouble. :-). Maybe it's being a teenage girl thing. Hang in there!

Answer 5

Not at all. It is a sign of love.



You have to depend on your parents to do "what is good for you".



Sorry about that comment but it is true. If they feel that you need to study and get better grades then that is it. You won't appreciate it until later in life when you are mature enough to do so.



Do not compare them or you to others. No situation is the same.



When you graduate from college you will thank them for being your "parents".

Answer 6

Maybe the parents of your friends don't care as much about them as your parents do about you.



Maybe your parents want you to go to a decent university, then get a good job and have a good life? Is that so bad?



As for "it's not fair" - there's nothing you could say that would make you sound more childish. Stop it.

Answer 7

--Not at all. Your parents want you to be as prepared for life as possible and you won't get that hanging out with friends and family. Also, there is a good chance your parents see something special in you that they may not see in your borthers and sisters. Make sure they do understand that social skills are of importance and you need to learn these as well as your school assignments.

Answer 8

You should be happy you have parents that care about your future. They only want you to be smart so that you can get into college and have a great job when you are older. Other kids aren't that lucky to have parents like yours. Most kids' parents don't care what their kids are learning or if they are learning at all for that matter. Be happy that your parents want what's best for you. They aren't trying to make you mad, they just want you to have a good future.

Answer 9

You are not the only one! I have a 15 year old son and he gets straight A's and is majorly smart. he gets totally mad at me when I make him study!!!! BUT I want him to develop good study habits for when college arrives cuz college will not be as easy! Good habits start early! I want him to be prepared! Trust me- they only nag u out of love!!!!

Answer 10

i agree and im sorry. that doesn't sound fair at all. how are you stuck being watched over constantly to do your homework (which im sure you would do with or with out your parents forcing you) and your other siblings are getting off easy? thats not fair!

Answer 11

Speaking as a parent, I would say it is because they want you to do well. As to why they don't do it for your siblings, I can't help you. Believe me, though, when I say, you will thank them for it later.

Answer 12

I knew a guy like you back in highschool... His parents asked about his homework several times a night. I thought it was annoying at the time.



That dude got a perfect score on his SAT and went on to kick *** in college. I basically failed out my freshman year in college. I had to teach myself how to study and do well in school.



There you have it... make up your own mind.

Answer 13

WELL CUZ YOUR PARENTS DON'T WANT TO HAVE TO SUPPORT YOU FOREVER!! THEY WANT YOU TO FINISH SCHOOL GET A JOB YOU KNOW TO PAY YOUR BILLS

YOUR FRIENDS PARENTS ARE TRYING TO BE THEIR FRIEND INSTEAD OF THEIR PARENT AND THAT IS NOT RIGHT AND WILL BITE THEM IN THE *** ONE DAY

YOU ON THE OTHER HAND WILL BE SUCCESSFUL IN WHATEVER YOU DECIDE TO DO AND YOU CAN START THANKING YOUR PARENTS FOR THAT NOW OR WAIT UNTIL IT HAPPENS EITHER WAY YOU SHOULD AND WILL WANT TO THANK THEM

Answer 14

You will be the one to benefit from all that studying. Be glad that you have parents that care enough about your future to help you make the best of it. You'll be glad one day...proud of yourself and thankful to your parents.

Answer 15

Maybe they just want the best for you, so as to be able to get a good job. Believe me, it's for your own well being.

Parents that DON"T make their children study hard are the ones that regret it.

Answer 16

your parents want you to have a future job, to have a better view of life and to gain more knowledge and the only sure way to get there is by studying... even if you have studied it is difficult, imagine how's it for those who haven't studied....

Answer 17

I don't agree with you. Your Parents are wanting you to better your self. Your parents aren't trying to be mean. It is better to better yourself than to go down hill. Make something of your self. your parents love you.

Answer 18

your not the only one my parents made me do that too lol dont worry its because they want to c u do well in life they care so much thats y they nag as annoyin as it is

Answer 19

its OK 2 not b lazy cuse if ur lazy when young than u will al-waz b lazy and studied so you'll u can pass

Answer 20

Probably because your parents want to see you get further in life and they don't want you to fall behind.

Answer 21

They probably want you to suceed in whatever you are doing. I would take it that they really care about you even though it may not seem like it right now.

Answer 22

this i think is a useless question. you should want to get good grades trust me it helps you later on in life. dont think of it as a punishment

Answer 23

Just dont exagerate about it Just do what your parents says.They say it for your benifit

Answer 24

deal with it



i had to study my butt off in school too



and now that i'm in college that's pretty much all i ever do



...but if you want a good degree and job...

Answer 25

it all depends. my parents do the same thing. but i will thank them in the end.

Answer 26

your parents actually love you and want you to succeed in life they dont want you to fail and be a highschool drop out.....

Answer 27

Your not going to like this, but....



You'll thank them later.

Answer 28

it depends on what u'r going through?

Answer 29

Maybe they like you more.