Whats your opinion of gay parenting?

Question

Personally, I see nothing wrong with it & I think its a wonderful thing to see more rights being granted to gay & lesbian couples, but just browsing through some of the questions & answers here I see alot of people are very against gay culture & seeing it gain ground. Id just like to get some real, deep opinions from straight people of gay parenting.
Basically, how do you feel about a gay/lesbian couple being granted rights to adopt or raise a child together?

Answer 1

I don't think there's anything wrong with gay parenting.



I'm friends with a gay couple who just adopted three children from oakland, ca. The kids birth parents were drug addicts who were neglectful and abusive. The kids were separated and spent time bouncing around foster homes before they were reunited and placed under the care of this upper middle class gay couple.



After a year in the home they were adopted and told that they would never have to worry about being up rooted again. Three siblings now get to live together in a home where they are well provided and loved by a carung, stable couple that just happen to be gay.



Now if this were a state where gay adoption was not allowed it is likely these kids would have gone their whole childhoods being shuffled from one foster home to another. As a former foster child I can tell you I would've happily accepted gay parents who loved me over the straight couples who treated me like a boarder rather than a family member.

Answer 2

This is not something which should just be accepted, but also promoted. There are enough kids taken on by social services as it is and too many either end up in the foster system with 'parents' only in it for the stipend or in orphanages. If a child can be taken into a loving home, regardless of if it is gay or straight, then this should be embraced no questions asked.

Answer 3

As long as they are good parents, who cares about their living arrangements or who they choose to love? There are kids who are being raised by their grandparents, step-parents, siblings, aunt and uncle. Every living arrangement under the sun and people against gay marriage stated that "it's non-traditional" and that the kids will be bullied. According to those people, 2 heterosexuals, married, living in the same house, working, with kids is traditional. Should grandparents be allowed to raise their grandchildren? It is no different by their logic.



EDIT: Jotun, how exactly is it that gay people produce gay children when they would have to adopt or find a surrogate mother in the first place? Straight people are the ones who technically bred to create the child in the first place. If sexuality is not a choice, those people were born that way and therefore you do not "catch" homosexuality from being raised by gay parents.

Answer 4

I think gay parents can make wonderful parents. I dont have anything against gay parents or gays adopting. however I do think that ideally the child would be better off with a heterosexual couple as their parents so they can have a live-in role model for both sexes. Now of course not every heterosexual couple makes good parents, but in an ideal world, a happy devoted heterosexual couple ( in my opinion) would be better than the same but in a gay couple. Just because a child needs a male and female role model. But I think many gay people make great parents and also many heterosexual couples make lousy ones..

And its always better for the child to be in a loving home, no matter if its two mommies or daddies, mom and a dad or only a single parent. And I fail to see how being raised by gay or straight parents would make any difference in your own sexuality.. just throwing that out there.

Answer 5

As long as the children are loved and cared for what's it matter? People say, 'they'll get teased at school because of it' but kids are pretty easy going. It's usually the parents of the other children that make them think it's wrong. I personally don't have a problem with it.



Gay/lesbian couples don't just make a rash decision to have a baby. They can't just get pregnant like a straight couple. Therefor their child is almost always loved and wanted dearly. Unlike some (not at all, all) straight couples who knockout kid after kid.

Answer 6

Like many others said before me, as long as they are good parents, that's all that matters. if they love and care for the child, they deserve to have one.



And to these people who say a child needs a mother figure and a father figure, what about single moms/dads? Should we harass them about parental rights because there isn't both parents? I don't think so.



@jotun_hertigen, that's so stupid. Because there were always gay people before gays were allowed to have children, so your argument makes no sense.

Answer 7

The only issue I have with gay parents is the same issue I have with single parents and can usually be easily overcome: children need positive male AND female role models in their lives. Preferably family role models. But since children go to day cares and schools and parents have friends and family that the kids are around, that's pretty easily solved.



Otherwise, I'd much rather children have a loving home with two moms or two dads than be bounced around in foster care for their entire childhood.

Answer 8

I think it's great and gay/lesbian couples should have the same right as everyone else (:

It doesn't matter who your parents are, as long as the baby is loved, happy, healthy, has loving parents and a roof over their heads. Gay/ lesbian couples make wonderful parents and should be allowed to adopt a child.

Answer 9

I have no problem with gay parents.



I hope more rights are granted to gay couples to adopt children in the future. My sister is gay; she and her partner have been together for years. I know they would be amazing parents when the time comes. If this society has no problem with single parents and glorified teen pregnancy on TV, why would they complain with two parents of the same sex?

Answer 10

Wow, okay, I was about to answer and then I was going to contradict myself.



I was going to say.. I believe EVERYONE, regardless of sexual orientation or gender reserves the right to be a parent.



But on the other hand, NOT EVERYONE should have kids. Some people just aren't made for it.



I believe two male parents, or two female parents, can give if not more love and affection and UNDERSTANDING then a straight male female partnership.

Answer 11

I don't have anything against gay/lesbian/transgender parenting. No one bats an eye if a guy/girl is a single parent, but if they have a partner who loves the child as much as they do, and that partner just happens to be the same gender, everyone freaks out. There's something very wrong with that thought process.

Answer 12

I wasn't raised by gay parents but my mom and dad were married for 23 years when they got divorced, because my mother is gay. Ironically, my step mom and her ex husband got divorced because after 20+ years he was gay too.



Anyways, I believe as long as both parents love their children it doesn't matter what gender you are. I think there are alot of unfit heterosexual parents that get to keep their kids that shouldn't while great same sex couples who want to be parents are criticized and patroned for it.

Answer 13

i see no problem with it. there are plenty of straight people that are absolutely horrible parents and scar their children for life. i think gay couples can raise a child just as well if not better then a lot of straight people. if even the worst people in the world have the right to have children then why can't gay couples?



jotun- that's the dumbest thing i have ever heard. plenty of straight people have ended up with gay children seriously!

Answer 14

I am all for it! I know many nice people that are gay, including my cousin and friend. They should have the same rights as us and they deserve better than some people treat them. I think some of them are a lot nicer than straight people sometimes.

Answer 15

i see absolutely nothing wrong with it, i have nothing against gay people and i see no reason as to why they shouldn't be allowed to have children. they're people like us and i'm so glad that they're earning more rights! it disgusts me that some people are so against gay people having children when there are straight couples out there who have children and are horrible parents! just because you're homosexual, doesn't mean you are a bad parent. as long as you love and respect your children then there is nothing wrong. what more could a child ask for than loving parents?

Answer 16

LOVE IT! As long as a child is loved, it shouldn't matter who raises it!!

Answer 17

I have absolutely no problem with gays or lesbians whatsoever...that is until it comes to raising children.

What a couple do with their own lives is entirely up to them,it does however become an entirely different matter when that couple then chose to determine the outcome of an innocent,'straight' child's life JUST BECAUSE they wish to act like a 'normal' couple and raise children together!.



Gay parents simply cannot offer the same diverse,balanced,male-female input,which every child deserves and needs and to force this issue and insist on equal rights for gay parents is simply forcing their wishes before the best,most wholesome and healthy welfare of a child...If they love children sooo much,then perhaps they should have the genuinity enough to leave parenting well alone!.

Be it politically right or wrong,Just the immense social and emotional pressure you place on these children reared by gay couples is totally wrong when it comes about just because it is the parents 'wishes'.I would say the same with issues regarding hetrosexual couples..your wishes should come second to the welfare of the child..End of!.

Answer 18

A gay or lesbian parent will only produce gay and lesbian children. Just like how heterosexual parents always produce only heterosexual children.

Answer 19

i don't want to be and im'm not homophobic but my opinion is the baby needs someone to call mama and one dada who s gonna take the place of who ?