Do you want a big family? If so, why?

Question

I have always wanted a big family.
I had a good childhood until the age of 10, when my mother died.
I never got to have a brother or sister, as after I was born my mother went through miscarriage after miscarriage and 5 miscarriages they gave up. Obviously this was heartbreaking for them, but at the time I was just a little girl and never knew.
After my mother died I was lonely and the house was empty with just my dad and I.

So now I have married and since I was 25 I began filling the house with beautiful children! I had girl twins when I was 25, a baby boy when I was 28, and five days ago I gave birth to another baby girl at age 31. I hope to have one more baby boy to complete my happy family. I want noise and chaos and fun!
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Answer 1

I thought I would be a horrible parent and did not know if I wanted kids etc, one day I started getting the urning for a baby and 4 kids later I would not have my full house any other way, I love how busy and close we are, I guess I thrive on the chaos lol. even though of course at times the best time of day is after the kids are in bed and everything is silent:)

Answer 2

I'm sorry to hear you lost your mom at a young age. I haven't experienced it myself, but some of my closest friends have, and I've seen the pain it causes. And you sound like you're going to be a great mom!



I think big families are the best way to go, and I want one for sure! Society shuns big families. But every big family that I know is the strongest, healthiest, and most fun to be around. With no or few siblings, kids lean fewer life lessons at a young age. The older ones have to take care of the younger ones and the younger ones have to learn to respect people other than their parents. It's also easier to delegate tasks with a lot of little helpers, cause Mom can't do it all!

Answer 3

First of all I am sorry to hear about your mother. Second of all congradulations on your new born son! I am 14, but I have thought about this question almost every day of my life, and I have come to the conclusion that YES I do want a big family! I don't have any brothers or sisters so I can understand how you got lonley, so do I! I want my children to feel all the love and happiness the world has to offer them! I think that having a big family makes everything worth while, every dream come true, every goal be reached! I was lucky to have parents that cared so much about me, and I want to be that kind of parent to my future kids! Plus you can never change to many diapers LOL!

Answer 4

I have always wanted a big family. I came from one. Since I was about 15 I have wanted to be a mother, but my dream waiting for about 10 years. Now I have 4 buzzing children under the age of 6 and I love to hear them fight over holding my baby (he's 1) and coloring the picture. They are sweet and I can also fund a family; however, we are looking to move to a larger home. To any young ones who want children, please make sure you can afford trhat and if you can I suggest filling your household with beautiful faces to yell, "Mommy!" adn attack you with hugs and kisses when you get home from a 20 minute trip to the grocery.

Answer 5

I don't know. We have the room and finances to spare, but I don't know if we have enough time.

I co-own a business and work full time, and my husband's a surgeon, so his hours are erratic and long.

We've only really intended to have one, but now it's looking like we'll have at least three, via adoption. My nieces live with us and my sister cannot care for them; termination of rights is looking imminent, and if/when that happens, we'd like to adopt them. They are older children, though, age 5 and almost 8, so they aren't the trouble of having an infant. We definitely have time for this family, but adding another one or two, I dunno! I thank my lucky stars that my daughter's a good baby, but if we had a more difficult baby or a sick child, I don't know what we'd do.

So I'm not sure if I'm going to risk things with another pregnancy. We'll have to see how things pan out with my nieces and whether we feel we can make sacrifices in our jobs.

Answer 6

No I don't want a big family. I have one boy and I'm happy with just the one and do not want anymore. I'm going through a divorce at 29 and by the time I got married again, I'll be too old to have anymore. I'm okay with that though because I just don't have the patience for children.

Answer 7

Yes I always wanted a large family. I'm 37 now and I have 4 children and have been married for 12 1/2 years. I love having a large family and wouldn't have it any other way.

Answer 8

I don't want to be the lady in the shoe with lots of kids running around.lol I do want 3 children. The number 3 has always been a big part of my life, just like you having the kids your parents tried to having, but never happened. That is so sad, but everything happens for a reason.

Answer 9

Yes, I have always wanted a big family.

My big family is already started!

I have a 15 year old step-daughter

A 4 year old daughter

A 2 year old son

A 10 month old son, and

I am pregnant with my 5th, a baby girl!

My husband wants to adopt a baby boy from Germany, but we'll see...

Good Luck with your family and Gos Bless!

Answer 10

I'd like to consider a third child in the future, but I feel like two is good for our family. We can give each of then equal amounts of attention without worrying that the other is feeling left out or forgotten. I grew up in a family with four kids and at times I felt like my younger siblings got more attention. I know my parents did the best they could in dividing their attention to us equally and I love them, but I sure don't want my kids to feel like I'm not giving them enough of my time.



Another reason is the current economical state. Two is all we can afford for the time being. But hey, if you have the funds (and sanity!) to raise a larger family then more power to you!

Answer 11

I am totally there with ya. I want a huge family. I want the house to be full, and I want it to be crazy all the time! I grew up with one sister, and to be honest it was kinda boring. We played a lot and had really good imaginations, but it would have been so much more fun with 3 more siblings! I want at least 4 kids! : ) Hopefully my husband will agree!

Answer 12

Me, I don't think so. Although I have no doubt that I can afford a household of 2-3 children.

My mother and brother died young due to inherited health problems (that I also have in me, btw). I wasn't expected to live past 25, so I never planned to have kids, until my Ex of 6 months dumped a baby onto my lap and went away.

I'm not sure if my kid has the same problem, but until I find out about that, I'm not planning to have more.

One's perfect for me right now.

Answer 13

I hadn't planned on having a big family, just one boy and one girl, but the girl never came and I kept trying. I am expecting my fifth son this month, on the heels of the last three. I have an 18 year old, a four year old, a three year old, a one year old, and this new one, all boys. (I should be fair, MY WIFE is expecting this son)

Answer 14

No, I don't want children. I really think it's great that people choose to have big families. Im kind of jealous honestly. I just have health problems that I don't want to give to my children and also couldn't be off my medicine for 9 months+ breast feeding.

Answer 15

Hi



I would love a big family, but I can't afford one! We both work - my partner works 2 jobs, and we still can only just afford the one we have!!! I'll probably try for another one, but if I won the lottery I'd definately have 4!



:)

Answer 16

If you are financially able to have a big family, I say go for it! I just hate it when women have child after child only to get more money from welfare though i am sure you are not one of them!



I myself wish to have about 3-4 children.

Answer 17

Yes! family is everything. Big and loud - thats how we do it!

Answer 18

well do ur thing hopefully ur cootie cat dont hit the floor girl

congrats on the new one