my ex-husband moved across the USA to N.Carolina and said that if i file for child support i will not get it?

Question

my story is long but to keep it short should i file for child support for our 8yr old and if so he said if i do i wont get anything because he is working constrution under the table that there is no prof he is working and getting payed every friday. he said just tell him when our son needs something and he will do it, but i tryed that and the last time when i told him our son would like shoes, a game and pants he was difficult , i told himforget it.

Answer 1

the courts will make him pay

Answer 2

PLEASE FILE FOR CHILD SUPPORT, YOU WILL GET IT!



Your ex is an idiot just for the fact that he doesn't want to go through the system. It doesn't matter where he lives - your child is entitled to at least monetary support since your ex will probably never be able to or want to give your son any other type of support that fathers give to their kids. I can't tell you what will happen but even if you don't get the money right now he will owe you back support from the day you file. Report what he has told you and if he is collecting unemployment because he is working "under the table" then he will be in big trouble.



Bottom line is just do what you are supposed to do and file. It will work out eventually. Never trust him that he will just "give him what he needs when he needs it". Already he has proved that wrong. Good Luck to you and your son.

Answer 3

I believe there is a minimum that an absent parent is ordered to pay in child support regardless of their income. Speak with someone at your local Child Support Collection Unit, it is free and they may file the petition on your behalf. I'm sure you don't have allot of money right now but if you can come up with $500.00 or so a private investigator should be able to get proof of income and once you have that you can let your ex know that if he doesn't report his income then you will report him to the IRS. There is an 800 number you can call to report him to the IRS and that would mean allot of trouble for him and the company he works for. Don't let him bully you, stand up for your child and yourself - good luck

Answer 4

Many states will now base child support on what expected income is, not just actual income, even if someone is unemployed.



You should file. Let him deal with the courts and let him and his employer explain why he is getting paid under the table and avoiding taxes. Should his employer decide that they're pretty likely to run afoul of the tax laws and choose to pay him legitimately, his wages can be garnished for support, independent of whether he gets visitation or not (employers are required to honor garnishment from other states).

Answer 5

Oh yes you should! I am in the exact same situation..I am in NH and my son's father moved to Florida and said the same thing. Well, he was court ordered to pay and get a job since he did not tell the courts he too was working under the table...He refused to pay, so they took his drivers license away and attach his pay for any job he gets using his social security number. Ha! Don't worry, it may take a while, but they will get him, especially if you have had to go on state aid because of his non support.

Answer 6

I belive if he does not have a job on the books and you know where he is working they can check it out. If he really is unemployed, they will set a very low amount that will need to be paid in person to parole each week and that would be sent to you as child support.



Basically if hes making a living and owns property such as a house car or rents an apartment, he can be investigated as to how hes paying for it if hes working off of the books.



Sounds like a dead beat, i'd go after him.

Answer 7

It's really up to you how you want to proceed. If he wants to be a dead beat dad then treat him like one. You can hire those private child support firms (yes they take a good percentage of the support money, but it's better than nothing at all sometimes). I need to let you be aware, they can be RUTHLESS and very mean. With my father (I filed for back support because I needed money for college) they hunted him down, putting up wanted posters near his work "wanted dead beat dad" they called his friends and co-workers and let them know how he has never paid a red cent to his 18 year old child in 15 years etc... If you can stomach that, then I would suggest it, it might be worth just the phone call.

Answer 8

If he is truly working for cash, not money under the table then yes it will be hard to get any support for him whatsoever. But, once someone is hired as an employee, meaning they get a paycheck from that company or the hiring agency that place of business has 10 days (I believe) to report him as a newhire in that state. If you file for child support to have the money directly taken out of his paycheck, then no matter where he works, your order will be sent to them directly from the state that you live in. He may switch jobs every month or so, but keep it up...Men have to support their children just as much as Women.

Answer 9

File for support regardless of what he says to try to discourage you from doing this. At the very least it will act as punishment for his attempts to avoid support, as he will need to continue working under the table, avoiding paying taxes, not contributing to social security, not getting health benefits, etc.



These things will eventually come back to bite him in the arrse.

If he isn't smart enough to realize he needs to change his way of operating, then he deserves the consequences. Punishment has its purposes, and this is one of the better examples of its proper application.

Answer 10

Find out who his boss is and file anyway! If that doesn't work, contact the IRS. They'll be interested to know that your ex isn't paying taxes like a good citizen. Contact the tax agencies in his state and city and basically make his life a living hell. Deadbeat dads deserve the worst.

Answer 11

baby help can in easy terms be changed by ability of the court docket that issued the unique decree, so the different state's bigger help limits won't prepare till that court docket comes to a decision to undertake those limits. better than in all probability the court docket does no longer have the authority to take action. of direction there is the different situation of the ex taking the youngsters out of state. i may well be going proactive on that if it have been my little ones and combating that in the process the previous it even began. She could bypass away if she had to, yet i might combat tooth and nail to maintain the youngsters with me. i might have had it entered into the unique decree that the youngsters could no longer bypass away the state for better than 2 weeks consistent with 12 months for holidays with out my convey written consent, a minimum of till they graduated severe college and have been fending off to varsity.

Answer 12

he can say whatever he wants to say. Why would you have to tell him when your son needs something? Your son has to eat every single day. Why should you have to tell him? Why hasn't he been sending money on a regular basis? If he was, then there would be no need to file, but since he's not that's why you have to. Just from your few lines of email, it's obvious he's not to be trusted.

Answer 13

Unless he's getting paid strictly in cash, has no bank account, and similarly pays all his bills with cash or money orders, there WILL be a paper trail for the IRS to follow, and he WILL be in a heap of trouble if someone were to point them in his direction! And any good lawyer would be happy to do just that....



I'm sorry that it's come to this for you, but your ex needs to live up to his end of the responsibilities, by hook or by crook.....

Answer 14

My ex has had his license taken from him twice and if the debt get's to much they'll put him in jail.You just have to keep on top of it or their never do anything about it.If you know the company name report it,if you know anything report it.Let him know that you want stand for it.It takes two to make that baby it takes two to support it.I have two boy's,it's not easy.