do you think the others know (and resent) when we parents/grandparents) love one more than the others?

Question

i know this is wrong but i cant help my feelings and how much i naturally bond with one and not as much the other. the more i force bond with anyone else the more i feel we are all being cheated...

Answer 1

That is sooo mean...the poor left out child.It will feel resentment towards you too,you know.

Answer 2

Yes, the children know. The "favorite" one knows it, and the others know it too. It will build resentment between you and your other children/grandchildren as well as between the children themselves. It is not fair to any of them. You need to spend more time with the others and find a common interest you can share with them. Perhaps you could find a hobby (stamp collecting, crafting, sports) that you could do with each of the others, so they feel they have a special bond with you also.

Answer 3

I had this happen to me. But it was the whole family on my dads side. they pushed me aside and loved my sister to death. this is not me just saying this, i have proof from many adults who witnessed it when i was around 4-10 ish. when i was a teen i noticed also and i withdrew fromt hat family for about two years. I remember crying at 4-5 on bdays cause iwouldnt get anything and my sister would get awesome bday partys and the cutest cakes. I got nothing. I am telling you they notice, and it screwed me up forever. it make me feel like there was something wrong with me. dont do it...no matter what. even if you do bond with the other one, show them just as much attention.

Answer 4

Yes they know. The parents and children know. It always seems to happen, but eventually the other children will not want to see you because of the different way they are treated. Also it will probally push the parents away due to jealousy. It happened to me when I was little and even though I live near my mother's parents I have seen them 3 times in 10 years. I also hate bringing my kids to my mother's because she has chosen favorites and I hate having to expalin to my kids why their grandmother has taken their cousin to do fun things and not them.

Answer 5

This is normal and tends to happen with mothers and daughters and fathers and sons. The reason is because we have so many matching traits with our children, especially if they are the same gender as you. Love will overcome clashing personalities and at the end of the day, we kiss each child the same way and tell them that we love them.

Answer 6

Yes they do. And everyone resents it. The parents of the children, the children themselves. And you must always make sure that you treat them equally. And love them equally. Why wouldn't you. They are yours.

Answer 7

Children know when they aren't equal, but you can make their adult lives better by not making a will that gives $1 to one child and $50,000 to another, thus carrying on the bad feelings & ill will!

Answer 8

They know!! They resent it!! It will make having a relationship with them when they are older impossible. I hope you are ready to give up the ones who you don't love. Because they will give up on you.

Answer 9

Of course we have favorites, but I would never let them feel that. I try to make sure that everyone is made to feel special when I see them.

Answer 10

Yes they know... my grandmother favors certain cousins in my family and when we were younger it would hurt our feelings now being older we just have sour feelings towards her.

Answer 11

yes, the others know, and yes they resent it.



At least that is the case in my family.

Answer 12

Believe me- they know. and it hurts deeply. My mom always showed her interest over the other two and to this day I remeber how she treated me and my brother compared to the other brother, and I can't forgive her. Never will

Answer 13

Of course they know but what do you do can't change human nature

Answer 14

my mum favours me and my kids over my sis & hers. it is v obvious and yes my sis has a big chip over it. my mum admits it 2 me. it causes major rifts in family. but u cant choose ur fam.