i think my daughter is.......on the internet?

Question

i think my daughter is talking to men online she is 13 so its not good is there anyway i can get into her account to see?I've asked her about it and she denies it but she forgot to close all the windows and i found a compose window that she hadn't sent and it was saying weird things she said it was her friend samantha but it wasn't because i asked her friends mom about it. and iv tried asking her for her password but she wouldn't tell and iv grounded her for it alot but she still can get on the internet at school and when im not here.

Answer 1

You're the parent... shes the child. Take away the computer, lock it in your bed room, tell the school that you DO NOT want your child to have access to the internet, etc!

Are you going to live in fear of your child being "mad" at you or are you going to be a responsible parent and protect your child from her own immaturity and stupidity?!?

Answer 2

You can not watch your daughter 24-7 hopefully you have raised her well enough. You can put a nanny program on the computer. There are some out there that will actually alert you if she is talking to older men. Most schools have filters on any computer they have that will not allow them to get onto sights like Myspace and facebook as well as other inappropriate sites. You would still have to worry about her going to friends houses. She should not have a computer in her room. Statistics have shown that if the computer is in a common area the children are much less likely to do anything inappropriate. You need to talk to her about the dangers of predators on the internet. She can not see them and even though it may seem exciting to meet new people the ugly truth is most of those people can't be trusted. It is a lot easier to lie online then to lie to someones face. Hope this helps.

Answer 3

Tell her she has one of three choices(or choose yourself lol):

A) Only allow her to have access to a computer when your home and it must be in the living room where you can supervise her or



B) Tell her to give you all the account information(username and password) of all the sites shes using so you can randomly check up on her. And check her computer history to make sure she isnt going on ANY other sites



C) Block all chat room sites and anything inapropraite so that she can only access like facebook or myspace youtube or her email or whatever you want.



Be the parent. Take charge. A 13 year old chatting with adults is a VERY dangerous thing!

Answer 4

Bluegirl! Yo mama!



I hear your call sister! And im here to help.



Now im an 18 year old boy, and im pretty tech savvy.



Heres what you DON'T want to do.

- MAke her feel like your don't understand her.

- Intrude on her privacy.

- Force decisions upon her when they are uncalled for.



Whats what you could do.

1 - Unground her.

2 - When shes at school, install a key logger into the comp.

3 - After shes done, next day when shes at school, get her password and all from the key logger and find out what shes been up to.

4 - Get a screen capture program too to video record the entire session.



Now you are set to see what your daughter is up to.



Things to beware/take notice of.

1 - Keyloggers tend to have a "safe button", it hides the keylogger.

2 - Some of her mail progs can have a "Time you last signed in" thing, so sign in as soon as shes out the door.

3 - Try not to e-mail her friends using her account. Its invading her privacy and it will give you away.





Good luck! Thats all you need to know to know what your daughter is up to!

Answer 5

Well at school websites like that should be blocked or you can complain. I dont think your daughter knows about proxys which can get you onto any site on the internet in school but most are blocked anyways. School is covered.



Now you cant get in her account no matter what unless you have a program like memory spy that will recored all passwords and websites that you have been on. But she can still delete everything.



If she is talking to older men like 20s then that is wierd and you need to forewarn her about petifiles and people who sayand mean things that they really are not. But if she is talking to guys her age maybe its just talking as friends or she wants a boy friend and there is no harm in that 13 is like the age for your first romance that is not serious but just like holding hands and hanging out with a boy you like.

Answer 6

Of course she's talking to people she doesn't know :o that's what everyone does these days. She's 13, she thinks she's invincible, but she doesn't realize how easy it is to accidentally 'slip' information about her location, her daily schedule, etc about herself that could get her into some serious trouble. Talk to her about it, tell her to just be careful, just telling her to never talk to people online she doesn't know means nothing to her and it won't work, same thing with telling stories about things that have happened to other girls, it just doesn't work. Most schools do not allow access to foreign sites that are not for school work, or places where you can talk to people like chat rooms. If you are really concerned then call the school and ask what their rules on the internet are and if they block websites where you can access those sort of things.

Answer 7

First, I would call the school your daughter goes to, & notify them about the situation. Tell them to keep a close eye on what she does & to check the computer history to see what sites she has been visiting. Then, if teachers see anything suspicious, tell them to take away her computer priveliges there. That way, she won't be able to do anything. Then at home, while shes on the computer, you could always just pop in unexpectedly when you think shes talking to men so hopefully you can get a quick glance at the web pages open. Also, when she goes to the bathroom you can sneak onto the computer shes using and check the history and what sites she has open. Then, visit them later and find out whats going on. Or, just take away the computer. That way she has zero internet access. Hope it helps(:

Answer 8

it's important that you sit and talk to her about all the dangers of talking to random people online. tell her what could happen if she is not careful. tell her what not to do online. sometimes teenagers just like to do things that may seem weird to you but not them. don't make her to mad or she might end up doing something very unwise. also if it comes to this, put a password on the computer so she can't get on when you are not there. unlock it when you come home. also, you can select how many minutes someone can be on the computer before it shuts off. plus she can't go into chat rooms at school or do anything bad or inappropriate because the teachers are watching and so is everyone else.



good luck!

Answer 9

Don't let her on the internet unsupervised in the first place. Put the computer in a room you're in most of the time.



You could also just teach her how to be safe online. Men can easily tell her they're her age and really be 50 year old obese pedophiles.



And make her give you her password, you are the parent. If she doesn't give it to you, password lock your computer and keep her off of it or get rid of it.

Answer 10

Mam ya considering whatever you experienced with her , i too suspect that she might be talking to men and its not your daughter's fault . Most of the men in this case are not the ones to be relied on!!!



They seek an opportunity and start vulgar talks immediately ..

Your daughter is at the peek pt of adolescence and if not taken extreme care can worsen the condition.

You have to keep a close watch on her may with the help of camcorders being placed in the room she acceses the internet when you are in or out of her room.





And if you confirm it then the only thing is to talk to her , not about that you saw her chatting with men , instead about some stories that relates to her present state and result in fearful consequence ...



If she be really intelligent she would relate herself with the story and will stop doin such stuff!!!





Also about her friend.. First you inquire abt her, if she is not good then you have to keep check on her friendship with your daughter and if she's good, then tell her to help you without getting anything in knowledge to your daughter about it ...





SORRY IF YOU FELT ANY THING BAD!

Answer 11

hi. what you want to do is purchase a ligitimate tracking software. go to a search engine and type parent tracking log children etc. what you'll definitely want is a keylogger. it keeps record of every key stroke pressed. some programs can take snap shots of what is on the screen. some can email you updates.



what you should also consider doing is--if your daughter has a cell phone with a camera--utilize your carriers image upload site. there you can view any image that she sends and receives. if you're with sprint I can talk you through that like a piece of cake. if you ARE with sprint, what you'll need to do is aquire your daughters cell and go to...it's called sprint family locator. find the site. you get 15 days free & its 5/mo after that. when you sign up her # they are required to send a notification text. if you don't want her to know, you have to have her cell the time you add her # then delete the text. you can then make sure she is where she says she is.



it's getting late but there is more you can do...go to your browsers internet history...even if she's deleted the history, go to the cookies cache. it'll show u sites that stored cookies on your computer & what time (ie where she's been online).



do get the keylogger software. large important corporations do this as well to ensure their employees aren't wasting time @ work and if they're leaking vital information.



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good night.

Answer 12

You can speak to the school principal & tell them you forbid her to use the computer at home & you also would appreciate it if they dint let her use the computer at school.



You can also block those sites & you should have a long talk to her about the dangers or internent & talking with strangers,

Make her watch "to catch a predator" about what some guys plan on doing with the supposely 13 year old who is really 18 who is playing as a 13 year old to catch them.

Answer 13

I do understand your fears. My ex-step daughter was taken in by a man that claimed to be a photographer. To make a long story short, he raped her and gave her herpies. She was 13 at the time.



Sounds to me like it is time for tough love. Since she won't tell you the pass word to see what she has been doing, Then i'd be thinking she is doing something she isn't suppose to. I'd take away the computer and give her chores to do around the house to keep her busy. Yeah, she can get on line on a laptop at McDonalds but by keeping her busy, it won't be often that she can get on, and will eventually quit what she was doing. Remember, you are a parent, not her friend.

Answer 14

Most schools now have parental controls where they block Instant messaging and chatting, so I would not be too worried about that.



Just ask a computer savvy friend to put up some parental blockers so she cannot get into certain programs.



There is a website called www.logmein.com if you install it on your computer and her computer and you know her computer's password, you can actually see what she is doing on her computer from yours. It is amazing.



Other than that I would pray to Jesus to protect her and keep her safe from harm: The Lord shall preserve thee from all evil: he shall preserve thy soul. The Lord shall preserve thy going out and thy coming in from this time forth, and even for evermore.

(Psalm 121:7,8)



Hope this helps you :)

Answer 15

you will definitely need to get some type of parental control software installed. such as net nanny or the like. these allow you to control and block certain sites and actions so even if you cant get her to divulge her password you can block the site that needs the password completely and the issue is solved. also i believe that some have keyloggers that will instead of blocking the site allow you to in effect spy on what your child is writing and decide for yourself if it is innocuous or not. also if you are concerned about the sites she is visiting online at school you should go speak to the administration and ask them about their content filtration software and find out if it meets your standards of protection. if not you should pursue getting that changed with the school board

Answer 16

tell her school and maybe they will restrict the websites so that students cant even visit those pages.

password protect the computer so she cant use it when you arent home or take her computer away and only let her use it under supervision.

or just be sneaky and buy one of those kits that track internet usage and passwords and then go see for yourself.

when you are doing all of this, remember that your daughter is only 13 and based on how you handle this, she may just get more rebellious or more sneaky. dont accuse her just talk to her and tell her you are concerned.

Answer 17

dont worry about school internet. its protected and kids cant get on certain cites, including email and chat rooms. have you tried talking to her about it, about talking to men? confront her, and youll know by how she responds whether or not she has been doing something she knows shes not supposed to. another idea is to accidentally leave the channel on some predator show and leave the room and let her soak it up. but that wont work for many kids cause they always think theyre the exception to the rule.

youre the parent! be strong! dont be intimidated by your kid! if shes hiding something, make her life a living hell until she tells! (that only after you confront her)

Answer 18

u can go to the main controls on ur computer and set parental controls... which u can monitor daily and she can only access sites that are approved by parental controls which u set...other than that let it go...she is a kid so she is going to rebel and do things u dont like just control the internet cuz all the creeps out there set hours for her to be on it as well..which u can monitor that as well...school internet is controlled by the school board so u shouldnt worry about her surfing the wrong sites at school..so basically thats what i would do and just keep up the good work its nice to see parents that care what there children watch, see and do...so good luck

Answer 19

Well, you're the parent, I'd make her give you her password. There are ways you could make the computer impossible to log into without a password (and only you would have it), if it came to that. I'm a pretty laid back guy, but protecting a young girl from sexual predators is important so if I were in your place this is something I'd put my foot down on.

Answer 20

there are such things that allow parents to "spy" on their children.



Pretty much they sell it online (MAYBE offline) for fifty bucks and its a program that tells you what they do.



Though you dont really need that. If she is 13 she may not know that computers keep a record of websites visited. Does she clear her history when she is done using the internet?

Answer 21

Going into someone's account without permission or forcing them to give you their password is a felony, whether they're your child or not. You can only use key logger for a good reason and the person has to be aware that it's there so misuse of a computer programme.

Answer 22

Do you have her msn? or have more than one computer to use? if so, make up a fake email or a lad whos particuallly older than her, say, 18/19. try and start talking to her on this email, and see how shes acting. try and also find out who else she talks to. if shes acting completly normal, for example, not flirting, just talking as friends, or even if she blocks him for being too old or says hes too old. then id leave it for a bit. if shes acting strangly around him, sign off msn and go and tell her all about it. then you have proof.



i know it sounds really really mean, but its for her own sake. its happened to me before, i started talking to people i didnt know, turns out i thought i was talking to someone who id known for a long time, in the end it was actually someone else, who i didnt know, who prettended to be the person i knew so he could talk to me, because id block the real person.



anyways, one more, thing, make sure your daughter does NOT find out, at all, or shell purposely aviod this 'older boy', but not avoid the rest of them.

Answer 23

Well theres no way to get into her email and chats.... but what you need to do is sit down with your daughter, dont be afraid to take charge, and you ask her what the hell she is doing, and who the hell she is talking to. You tell her shes not leaving until you get an answer from her right then and there.

Answer 24

The best thing to do is lock your computer down. Make sure you are the only user account and change the password. If she wants to act like a child then you will be forced to treat her like on until she is willing to act more grown up. I know she is thirteen but this is the age where it really counts.

Answer 25

she should not be on the internet unsupervised in the 1st place

make a new rule- the computer goes in a main area, she can ONLY use it when you're home & ONLY go on approved websites (have them written down on a sheet of paper & post it by the computer), & watch what she is doing frequently. this is what I do w/ my 12 yr old daughter & she does not know it but I check the history on the computer to see all of the sites she's been to & she does exactly as I say-

if the child breaks the rules they lose the privilege

Answer 26

Set parental controls! I dont think they should be charging for services like that. Change your internet provider.



Or call customer service and explain that you need to reset the password.



If you are the primary account holder you can easily delete her account!

Answer 27

try talking to her again. dont go straight to asking for the password. talk to her. share with her what happens to children these days i mean dont try to scare her but she might stop if she knows the facts and how scary some of the stories are. And how terrible some people are out there. Best of Luck(: ~ Hilary

Answer 28

well if i was a mom ( im 15 i listen to what my mom says i go on yt myspace and facebook BUT i floow my moms rules and only talk to my mom and my cuz on myspace and facebook ) i whould say u can only go on these sites exaple dinsey.com barbie.com nick.com etc

and thats it put a pass on the pc and make sure u only know it so she cant get on it unless u know she on make sure u put it in the a area were u can see her and i think thats it ...

also my mom knows my usernames and passwords and everything

Answer 29

Tell the school teacher the police they can by pass her code it can be done

and take the computer with you or lock it up change pass word,

the best one call the police as soon as you can

Answer 30

Ok, work on your grammer.



Sounds like your problem is related directly to your parenting. Take a look at yourself, then your relationship with your daughter, then her actions. Everything should make sense.

Answer 31

yeah if u know her email address then say u forgot your password and answer the questions birthday and then they ask u a question just answer it and then they let u change it and get in

Answer 32

if this don't scare her nothing will

find some picture of a really creepy guy and maybe have a friend of yours write a letter and say hey this guy named alex(or the guy that u think she is talking to online) was looking for u and he gave me this picture to give to u

and act like your mad at her that this guy know's where u live

Answer 33

if you punish your daughter for not giving you her password or you suspecting her of talking to older guys it'll make her mad and wanting to do it more don't punish her if she says no than theres a 50% chance that she is and 50% chance she isnt you should trust her and give her some space

Answer 34

try checking her history and then block the websites that you see or just disconnect the internet from her until you get the legitimate truth out of her and if she starts hating you just parental block her comp

Answer 35

Hmm. This sounds very serious.

I would suggest getting a parenting program to where you can see EVERYTHING she gets on. Im sure a local store would have one. If your not willing to pay..then google it?

Answer 36

get rid off the internet for a while, or check her history, or just maneuver the sites or restrict those sites you think she's abusing such as you tube or my space, stuff like that. good luck

Answer 37

Unlike being a jerk about it like the girl above me, I think that as an alternative that you need to explain to her how dangerous stuff like that is. Also you might want to uninstall whatever she was chatting on (yahoo, aim, etc.).

Answer 38

have someone install a Keyloger on her computer

what a keyloger does is tell you all the sites someone visits and passwords the people use.

Answer 39

go to your web browser n then at the top right you should see tools..click there and then go to internet options then go to security and then click restricted sites then click the box tht say sites then add the sites there

Answer 40

if you are severely worried there are security programs that will let you retrieve the password all you have to do is search it but it costs money

Answer 41

you can get a program and install it on your computer that will record everything she types, she wont beable to tell the progam is there or running then it can email the results to you.

Answer 42

put a password on your computer and have the school monitor her in the computer room

Answer 43

Don't worry. Just try to sit down and talk to her about it nicely. that's how i get my kids to give in. just ask her "Why are you on that kind of sites?". But say it nicely

Answer 44

report it to your local police sex crimes unit.They can find out who she has been communicating with .If It is an adult..Theyre screwed.And your daughter learns a valuable lesson, not to mention much safer.

Answer 45

go online posing as your daughter. Find out who these perverts are and report them to the police. That's very scary.

Answer 46

you can get a program that will log all the keyboard strokes made on the computer. look it up, but it's costly

Answer 47

take the damm computer away! ur right you can't control what she does outside ur house but u can inside, SO TAKE CONTROL U PARENT!

Answer 48

u can block the website and no she cant at school because they block alot of stuff

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Answer 49

WHATS WITH YOU PARENTS???? GIVE HER SOME PRIVACY. IF SHE WAS DOING SOMETHING WRONG THEN THERE WOULD BE FORTY YEAR OLD MEN SITTING IN YOUR LIVING ROOM RIGHT NOW. BUT IF YOUR REALLY CONCERNED .. SIND HER TO BOOOT CAMP OR TAKE HER COMPUTER TO AN INTERNET REPAIR STORE TO GET HER COMPUTER HACKED AND IM PRETTY SURE HER COMPUTER HAS PARENTAL CONTROL.

Answer 50

block chat rooms and certain cites - you can do that you know

Answer 51

tell one of her teachers at school to talk to her, then she will understand why you are so worried

Answer 52

Hire someone to go in and check it out.

Answer 53

download this free program that records everything she types http://www.actualkeylogger.com/download-free-key-logger.html

Answer 54

Believe in your child! Tell her what you should and that all you can do! Its her life, let her decide then....

Answer 55

well take the computer away

Answer 56

listen if shez talking to guyz theirz nutting you can do...dont try to stop[ her cause shell hide it from u...try to be her friend an tell her its ok to talk to guyz an make friend but nothing more cause if yu dont shell hide everything...