Whats best...smaller or bigger families??

Question

just wanted to know if you all thought that smaller families were better than bigger...and if u have bigger families, how do you make sure that each child has time spent with the parent?
What would you term a big family...3 kids...7 kids?

Also wanted to know how single mums cope with big families??

Want to hear from people who have alot of kids who are under 5 years old..although older is good too..thanx!

Answer 1

It was just me, my mom and my brother growing up (for the most part), and my husband is the oldest of eight. The first time I went over to his house to meet his family, I was overwhelmed by all the joy and love, I was so lonely growing up. We now have seven children, and I love it! I would never choose a small family, it's always so quiet and I grew up bored. In our house there's always someone to play with, someone to talk to, someone to do something with! My husband has ONE job, 8 to 5, and then he's home. He supports us fine, we don't go to Disneyland every year, but we aren't suffering for anything. We go camping alot, we have a big family trip once a year.



We take turns taking the kids out on 'dates', for dinner or a movie. We try to take only one or two if we have to walk to the store quickly to pick up a loaf of bread or gallon of milk. The littles go to bed earlier and so we have a lot of time with our preteens before they go to sleep, and of course they sleep later so we have lots of time to play with the little ones in the morning before brother and sister get up. Our kids are 12, 9, 8, 7, 5, 3, and one.



It's awesome because we work together as a team, and we know we're always loved.

Answer 2

Well shall we just say that i am a mum of 8.....I am 36, and have 7 girls and 1 boy......(16,12,8,4,3(twins),2 and 1. I am planning 2 more before i stop.....I think that the bigger the family, you get more love , help respect..Family day outs can be funny and sometimes maddening, but i would still rather take out 8 than 2...You cannot end up with spoilt kids because they learn that everyone is one family and that they have to help another in and out of the house.......There are never any dull moments and i can assure you that you cannot ignore any of your children as they find ways of getting your attention weather you have the time to give it or not....The only thing about having so many is the NOISE....Give me some ear defenders and i would be fine........The more children you have, there are less chances that you will have problems like settling in new schools as there is always one above them...

As children grow they also find that noise can become too much and they love to go out away from us all as they can have their own freedom.........When they are all teens i hope that they will look after eachother as much as they do now......Would never change a thing....I want more...........hope this helps with your question.......MUM of 8

Answer 3

I love big families! My mother is one of 18. My father is one of 19. I am 1 of 3 and I have over 100 first cousins. I have a 5 year old son, a 14 month old daughter, and one due in July. I also keep my sister's 3 who are 8, 7, and 4 along with my own everyday until she gets off work. A lot of kids doesn't bother me. They are actually kind of fun. You have to let them know who is boss and give them affection too. I discipline them when they are bad and I praise them when they do good. Time management is also important. When we get home homework comes first, then we play (outside or inside), then dinner, maybe TV, bath, bed. It's an everyday routine and then on weekends we have a ball, anything goes. Before I was married I was a single mother and like i said time and money management are key things. I LOVE MY FAMILY! Wouldn't trade them for the world. More family means more support emotionally, physically, and sometimes financially. I am never without and I can't remember ever being without.

Answer 4

I'm not a parent in a big family, but I come from a big family. I least I think it's pretty big, there were 5 kids. I think that big families are so important because even if your parents can't give you all their attention all the time, you have so much time to bond with your brothers and sisters.



I have 2 brothers and 2 sisters and my mom was a single parent, and we are one of the closest families. I think it's great that we can all just be best friends... because we all grew up in the same house and we always had eachother around.



I'm pregnant now and my bf only wants 1 child, but not me! I really want my daughter to have the experience of having siblings.

Answer 5

I have 2 boys, Dakota 3 and Kolby 1 and I'm 9 weeks pregnant. I think a big family is great. I think i have a medium family. 4 kids seems like like a BIG family, you add two parents, thats 6 people - could you imagine a family gathering? I love haing so many, it's not hard, after you pop out the first one, eveything is a piece of cake. The more the merrier I say!!!

Answer 6

This is really a personal thing. What may work best for one family might not work best for another. One family may be happy with one child, while yet another family may not be happy until their family is Duggar sized (see link below).



I can not tell you what works for another family. I can not speak to how large or small someone else's family should be. I can only tell you what my husband and I want for our family.



Within a week of meeting my future husband, we had already discussed how big a family we would like to have. We started trying for a child less than a year after we met. Our daughter was born before we'd been together for two years. Right now, our daughter is 13 months old and I'm 8 weeks pregnant.



After our daughter was born, my husband and I discussed an issue that would come up at my 6 week postpartum check up... birth control. We talked about how large we want our family to be. What we decided is that we do not want to deny any blessings God may want to send our way. We chose to forgo any type of birth control. We are letting God choose our family size.



We would love to have a huge family (not necessarily ala Duggar, but still bigger than average), but we will be absolutely happy with however many children God sees fit to send our way!



There are many people out there just like us. I understand that there are also many people out there who want to stop at one or two children. That is, of course, their right. I just wish that there were more people who want fewer children than we do would have more respect for our decisions. I'm not going to put another woman down because she wants no children or only one or two, I wish the reverse were also always true.



Either way, though? We will do what we feel is right for our family.

Answer 7

Im a single mum of 4 kids, 3 boys aged 7,9 n 10 and a girl of 2. I make sure i spend time with them individually but its always the best when were all together, its mayhem in my house but iv got a good routine that we try n keep 2. Xmas n birthdays r the hardest 4 me 2 prepare 4 but seeing them smile makes it worthwhile. I have 3 brothers who r really great n help out when they can. I dnt get much time to myself which is tiring at times but i dnt care cos my kids r very happy x

Answer 8

Well I love bigger family's we have four children rightt now two over five and two under three and we would still like at least one more.

It's so great to do things together as a family. We love it!! We are always busy making sure each child gets alone time with mom and dad. Not alot of mom and dad alone time until everyone is in bed But we enjoy are late evenings together!!

momof4

Answer 9

I'm one of 4. My older siblings were all quite close together and i was the suprise 8 years later! I would kind of class us as quite a big family as there were 6 mouths to feed, 6 people to fight over the bathroom on a morning, 6 people to buy everything for but i never wished i was from a smaller family. And then when you get older it expands - brother-in-laws, sister-in-laws, neices, nephews - its great!

Answer 10

my family members I even have 4 brothers and four sisters. my mom my dad and we've 4 canines an a million cat , i admire having a huge family members there is often something to do and that i'm the oldest 19 we are residing in Hawaii my mum and dad are the two plastic surgeons all from the comparable parents

Answer 11

i think big families are a thing of the past mean my Nana was 1 of 17, and my mum was 1 of 8, but me and my husband are happy with just the 1 if a second was to come along that would be great but no more than 2 for me!!!

Answer 12

I have four 2 by default ( my step children)



I think 2 kids is perfect, if you have more kids its a pain travelling because you always need two rooms........You need a bigger car after too because its too cramped in a normal car for 3 kids in the back



Saying that our house is always busy and I always cook huge dinners because I never know who is going to be coming home with one of the lads.............



I wouldn't be without them x



They are 16, 12, 7 and 2

Answer 13

Well l have 4 sister`s and a brother and l think the bigger is way better. and at least you will have someone you can turn to for a little advice lf you ever run into a problem..

Answer 14

Usually smaller families, with two or less children. It is so expensive to raise children, that unless you are very secure financially, you can't afford to have many children. The other option is to work several jobs to support a large family, and spend less time with them.

Answer 15

i come from a family of seven and it.s great i.ve three sisters and three brothers .... i believe an only child is a lonely child

Answer 16

I would have too say small families