I have a 5 year old boy that is destroying every thing.?

Question

He is going from his own stuff to my things and my house he has taken and put holes in my walls and in every thing that he puts his hands on. I have tried every thing from taking his thing time outs even not letting him out of his room and nothing i do is working he is still destroying every thing he can and every thing that he can touch i have done every thing that i can thing of but taking him to the doctors and seeing if it is something that they can help me with. Is there any thing that i can do to him to get him to realize that this is not right. i have even sat him down and try talking to him about what he is do and he can not tell me why or any thing that seems to make seance to me about what he is do and why. if you think that you have any thing that might work please write me and give me any advice that you think that will help me i am open to any thing i don't know what to do i am at the end of my road and don't know where else to go

Answer 1

You have to figure out a punishment that fits and stick with it whole-heartedly. If you falter even once he'll keep it up. You also have to make the punishment progressively worse. Another thing you should do is keep your room locked so he can't get in, child-proofing does WONDERS. As for holes in the walls, take away something permanently from him that he really likes. Putting holes in walls is unacceptable. But if you take something away and say you'll never give it back, stick with it. Take it straight to your outside trash can and bring him along so he can see and realize you mean business. If his behavior doesn't greatly improve in about 6 months, take him to a psychologist. My son used to be an absolute terror. He would punch, bite, break things, yell and scream at people for no reason. When I took him to get checked out this is he advice they gave me. I was also advised to spank him if need be (he'd never been spanked) I was following the parenting books' punishment rules. She (my psychologist) said that was why my son was acting out so bad, because I was too lenient.

Answer 2

Take him to the doctor, it can't hurt. And no they won't just put him on drugs, if you find a doctor that just wants to do that, you can always get a second opinion. And no spanking does not always work with every kid. My son has sensory integration disorder and if I spank him he can't even feel it unless I were to leave marks which would be child abuse. I think people should stop with the spanking comments because that is not always the answer. There very well could be something wrong emotionally or even physically. Get some help from the doctors that's what they are for.

Answer 3

Where is this child's father? Has he lost someone close to him recently? Sometimes if you distract the child with other things that helps. I agree with the taking him to the park maybe he isn't getting enough positive attention and he is acting out. Remind him that you love him even when he does bad things. He isn't a bad boy he is just making bad choices. I agree with keeping him in the same room as you. Try giving him little chores so he can accomplish something and give rewards for good behavior. The belt will make things worse. Be consistent that is extremely important. Spend some quality time with the child.

Answer 4

Is he spending a lot of time unsupervised (i.e., with no one in the room with him)? Is he bored?



Can you take him to the park and let him run around like crazy? Maybe he just needs to get the beans out.



Of course, it sounds a bit worse that regular 5 year old stuff... have there been any big changes in his life? is he worried about going to school?



Don't be too quick to label him as having some condition requiring medication. Many, many children are mis-labelelled, and are being unnecessarily medicated when more behaviour-related interventions would work with them.



Give us some more details about what you're doing BEFORE he starts destroying things; what is his sleeping and eating like; what else is going on.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

I think its time that you try spanking.. I don't think he needs to go to the doctor, he just needs some serious discipline and should be punished everytime he does something like this

Answer 7

When in doubt. Get the belt out.

It will only get worse, before it gets better. So put a stop to it now. Give a few good licks. Or until he gets the message. Enough is enough.



Spare the rod and you'll spoil the child. Prov 13:24

Answer 8

Bring out the belt. You know that you're doing it right when you do it because you love him, not because you want to see him be harmed by this.

Answer 9

no dont take him to the doctor cuz they just gonna put him on drugs. He has alot of energy so put him in a sport or something. Put him in something that he would be interested in and that involves alot of energy for him to burn. good luck

Answer 10

Well you can stop it with a simple spanking..but i know its SSOOOO mean to spank the children..lets let them act like little fools instead.

Answer 11

Keep him in the same rooms with you so you have the chance to stop him if he goes to start.

Answer 12

This is not normal. I highly recommend taking him to your dr and finding out if there's some sort of imbalance or he's having bad reaction to food allergy or something. He needs to be tested.

Answer 13

put him down

Answer 14

you need to disipline him!

Answer 15

belt time

Answer 16

I dunno.