Does anyone know a social worker on a personal/socail level?

Question

i know 2 and i think they r appaulling role models/ mothers.
I know this Q will bring many angry responses, but its a burning question i have to ask.
Do their own inadaquacies bring them to a proffession where they can profess to b good role models to children/parents?

Answer 1

I worked for several years as an employee assistance counselor. The thing that amazed me is that although the psychological research is very clear that separation from mommy is very damaging to infants and toddlers, psychologists, social workers, and other counselors routinely dump their babies in the care of others and advocate other people do it, too, for fulfillment.



The big problem is that psychology-related fields in the US seem to have been infected by pop psych, self-help, and me-centered ideas. The fact is that sacrifice is required of adults to fulfill their responsibilities to others (a different kind of fulfillment) and this fact is incompatible with pop psych.



Therefore, people who are educated enough to know how devastating day care and other separations from mommy are to infants/toddlers and even preschoolers not only practice this egregious behavior but advocate it for others. You can't do something this against your profession's underpinning research and remain a role model.



Dr. T. Berry Brazelton even acknowledged that his professional daughters pressured him to lie and say kids aren't harmed by day care - he retracted it in 'the essential needs of children.'

Answer 2

Probably shouldn't stereotype all social workers. Unless you know every single one in the world how could you possibly judge them all? Especially based on what appears to be a single person that you know personally.



What kind of social worker are you talking about? Those in the school system, at the hospitals, those in private programs or the ones that work for DHS?



My stepmother is what is called a social worker for a private state program that mentors teenage mothers who have been abandoned by their own family. She helps them figure out better ways to parent, appropriate forms of discipline as well as nurturing ways to play. She is not perfect, but none of us truly are. She is, however, a great mom and a good role model of a hard worker, loving parent and wonderful grandma.

Answer 3

I don't konw many social worker outside of their work, but I have had plenty of contact with various ones professionaly. I would say that quite alot of them can come across as self righteous and you do wonder what they are like with their own families. I dont agree that it is their inadequacies that bring them into the occupation, more their own life experiences. Those I have spoke to either genuinley hate to see people being abused or have often been in some sort of abusive relationship theirself and feel the need to 'protect' people from the same thing whether the victim wants their help or not.

Answer 4

Actually you can say that - they are supposedly held to a higher standard than the rest of us, because they do that job.



I'd have to say all the social workers I've ever known were good parents, but that was in a small town setting- a different sort of people.



I do believe that it is A. a very hard job to do - and one I cannot do, because I did my internship with the abuse reporting division - lets just say I'd be in jail for what I'd do to those parents for what they did to their kids.

B. That there are a lot of unqualified, borderline incompetent people doing that job in larger cities.

C. Their own inadequacies bringing them to the job? Could be. I've met several counselors/therapists who are like that. (I'm also too normal to be one of those - I was never abused as a child or adult, no major traumas, and was taught to take personal responsibility for myself)



Personally, I'd choose to not let my kid be around them, or if it was unavoidable, talk to my kid abou their behavior - and let him do the talking as to what he thought they did wrong. Good way to teach morals to your kid as well.



BTW, social workers ARE indeed trained to be role models. Some just can't manage to hold up to that training.

Answer 5

Social workers aren't intended or trained to be role models or examples to other people. They are intended and trained to spot signs children are at risk and prevent them from being harm.



Anybody would bring their own 'inadequacies' to a job but they will have been trained to behave professionally at work to minimize any problems this might cause - they don't have to carry this through to their home lives.



Anyway the fact that they are bad role models is your opinion only - it doesn't necessarily make it true. You don't say why you think this and it seems it might just be because they are social workers. I would hazard a guess from the tone of your question that you might think they think exactly the same thing about you?

Answer 6

A social worker only has that job because they went to a school and graduated.



I'm not offended by this question, however it is in the field I'm getting into. I want to own day cares and social workers are part of that.



They have to be good role models or else no one is going to hire them.



No one is going to hire a social worker who has had their child taken away. Obviously.



Anyway I don't think their own inadaquences drive them for that career, it was likely their plan all along or a personal experience has made them want to get into it...

hope this helps.

Answer 7

YThe ones I know and I known are strangely repusilve. I wouldn't know where to start. These are arrogant individuals with more authority than they can handle responsibly. They are the solution so if there is no problem they create one. They lie so much they don't know what truth is. They prey on the poor and uneducated. I say poor because it takes money to get them out of your life and the lawyers love them. If a police officer never wrote a ticket he or she would get fired. Most social workes are the same, to keep their jobs they have to find trouble, even if they are the cause. The one I know has to be some type of hero and causes more hurt and problems than could ever be fixed. Their arrogant absolutly full of themselves. Baseball players are role models, social workers are "JUST" workers. Trash collecters are workers to but they rid of garbage instead of creating it.

Answer 8

I know 2 Social workers (working with the mentally Ill) and they are decent people mother and aughter.. although I am not defending social workers as I have come across a few that will lie through their teeth to stuff things up for you just because they don't like you (especially when kids are involved) Sad truth is.. they get away with it and they do **** up on several occasions.. but by the same token, they do get it right on several occasions too...

Answer 9

Excellent question. I would say there is a lot of truth in what you're saying. But try suggesting that people in positions of authority should be subject to psychological profiling the way you have to do aptitude tests to get a job at B&Q.

It's not just social workers.

I know of someone who left the police training school because he couldn't deal with the do-as-i-say, don't-do-as-i-do attitude.

It's not just social workers.

Answer 10

I have had to deal with a few social workers. They like to play God sometimes. I did have one that was very helpful when it came to my childrens needs and my own. But they are not all like that. My aunt is a social worker, and thankfully she has a good heart, and is very kind to her clients. Then there are some that just shouldn't be in the position. Very rude, & coldhearted.

Answer 11

I just think it's ignorant and completely rude to put all people into a stereotype. Do you know how many cases a typical case worker has? Over 100! So she is supposed to cater to your family? Yeah she/he can drop all 99 other families (at least) and do nothing but take care of you. Try getting off welfare, medicaid and food stamps if you think it is so horrible. I work the the state of WI and I know what it's like for them. They work weekends, get calls at 12 am and often miss holidays with their OWN families. It's disgusting to think you are putting people down like that when it's one of the hardest working professions out there! Most of them are incredible parents and great friends. You should try to be more like them, it would make you a better person!



It's really disgusting to me that my tax dollars support ignorant pieces of crap in this world like you.

Answer 12

My friend who used to be a social worker did it because she truly cared about other people and was very empathic and wanted to ease the burden of life's problems for others and help them move forward with their lives. She left the profession because after a while it takes its toll. She is one of the finest parents I have ever known.

Answer 13

I happen to know a social worker who also happens to be a so called born again christian.Well she has 2 children both of which are unmarried mothers sorry teenage mothers says alot about how good she is at her job don't you think!!!

Answer 14

I think most social workers choose their work because of their tough childhood and want to save other kids from going through the same thing with their parents. ITs a tough job, but you can't just generalize all of them just because you ran across one or two bad apples.

Answer 15

I do. She is one of my family's best friends not to mention an incredible person.She is not a mother but I'm sure she will be a good one.Some people can separate life/job don't forget that.

Answer 16

My neighbour is a social worker and she is a lovely woman and has 3 lovely sons who are a credit to her.

Answer 17

Yes i do and they can be a pain at home as well as at work

howevever they get that much stick they all become secret acholics and can be fun at the weekends

Answer 18

how many times do I have to answer this question...I think you need to go and find a good book to read or some television...something else to keep your mind occupied other than asking the same question over and over and over!

Answer 19

no i dont thank god..... righteous b*stards