how do you punish your kids when they talk back to you in public?

Question

well..if they even talk back to you in public..

last week i took my girls to mc d's to grab something to
munch on while we ran some errands...i ask them what do they
want...6 yr old wanted chicken nugget happy meal...okay..8 yr old
wanted apple pie, strawberry shake and 3 chocolate chip cookies. i said "no, get something to eat not snacks" to which she replied
"ugh, okay! i'll have 2 mc chickens and fries" so i said "no, that's a lot of food...you can have 1 mc chicken and small fries" she replied in her whiny voice "but i'm hungry!" so i said we were gonna have dinner later that night @ home...in an even whinier voice "uggggh okay just get me a salad and fries" so i said no, go sit your butt down now you're eating whatever i get you. (it doesn't sound as bad written but she was being a total p.i.t.a!) to which she replies and pretty loud too "why do u ask me what do i want if you're not going to let me get whatever i want" again, i told her to be quiet and go sit down. so she did. okay, it's time to go. as we're walking out i noticed i forgot my keys on the table so i tell her to go get them to which she replied "u go get them they're ur keys not mine"

trip to the market..."do we have milk?"..."uggggh how should i know, why didn't u check"

^^^ that is just an example of what i'm starting to go through everytime i'm out with her in public. it's so freaking embarrassing. i've literally taken away every single "cool" gadget she has and she couldn't care less! don't know what else to do to get her acting like this in public. if she weren't my kid, i would have probably already smashed her head into a wall or something. IT'S BAD!

Answer 1

Tell her if she doesn't start behaving you're not going to reward her anymore. Ex. Let her sister have McDonalds but bring snacks from home if she gets hungry or just leave her at home with a sitter so she can't come at all!

Kids don't take well to negative feedback, it's hard but try not to show her you angry.

At this age kids thrive off of being bothersome!

Answer 2

Yea, I'm keen on parenting your youngster regardless of their intellectual disabilities, however the best way you noted "educating" her just about like a puppy to give up, flip round and all that sorta squicked me out. For her defense and obedience, it sounds precisely like you're coaching your puppy to stroll off a leash. She is handiest 3 years historical, and it is most commonly very tough for her simply as it's for you, sure you'll be able to area her, however I doubt spanking her truthfully is helping any. And a further factor, the implication that your daughter is well and effortless to manage, just about signifies that your different daughter is "unhealthy" and that did not settle good both. The more youthful youngster is handiest one million, what occurs after they flip 2, or 3 and desire to attain extra independence and it turns into tougher. The fine you'll be able to do is check out to provide an explanation for why you're doing this, however no longer each person goes to consider a few of your approaches. IF they do not desire to concentrate, then they do not have got to rather.

Answer 3

Is she your personal slave? You asked her what she wanted, she told you what she wanted, YOU then tell her NO to everything she wanted!! What do you expect her to do? be happy about that.



How was she supposed to know if you had milk, did you not make a shopping list? I make a list and would never make a child remember things i should be doing as a mother.



Why should she get your keys if you clearly dont respect her! She is a child not a slave.



You also sound like you have very little affection for her anyway i would never say "if she weren't my kid, i would have probably already smashed her head into a wall or something".



Try respecting your child like you DEMAND respect. They are people not property.

Answer 4

I'm not so desperately insecure that I would ever feel the need to do such a thing.



"i said no, go sit your butt down now you're eating whatever i get you"



That's nice. No wonder your children dislike you. I commend them for being as restrained and, given the circumstances, polite, as they are.



You will only get the respect you are offering; you can take away "gadgets" until there's nothing left to take -- it's not going to make your kids suddenly think "Wow, my mother is such a great person. I need to wake up and treat her better."



Behaving like a grown-up yourself will, though... I mean, come on, aren't you ashamed of this stuff? Is this one of those deals where we got pregnant at 13 and again at 15 and never got a chance to finish our own growing up, and are thus forever stunted? There's got to be some sort of explanation... That _you_ find this "embarrassing" is really key here; you must be quite bizarrely immature yourself, and if you keep on acting like a bloody _peer_ to your young children, yes, they're not going to have much respect for you.



You don't get to turn the grown-up thing on and off whenever you feel like it, unless you are good with them also turning the manners on and off at their leisure. For what reason are you allowed to talk smack and they are not? The shameful part here is the "go sit your butt down" coming from a putative adult, not "ugh how should I know" from a kid.



I bet you weren't even the least bit polite about asking her to get your keys, but tend to freak on her if she asks you to do something using the same tone and phrasing, right? Right... The McDonald's patrons are laughing at you, not at your kids.



Here, learn how to parent --





"Something Better Than Punishment"

http://www.aces.edu/pubs/docs/H/HE-0687/



"Building a Positive Relationship with Your Child"

http://www.aces.edu/pubs/docs/H/HE-0684/



"Am I Spoiling My Child?"

http://www.aces.edu/pubs/docs/H/HE-0718/



"Why Positive Parenting?"

http://www.ahaparenting.com/parenting-tools/positive-discipline/positive-discipline

Answer 5

My dad would've killed me if I acted like that in public. I would tell her that until she gets an attitude check, she's not going to get any extras when her out and heck, I wouldn't even take her out. But if you can't help it, then don't give her extras. When you're out with your six year old, get her the extra treats, but bring snacks when you all go out. I'd also talk to her about behaving in public and at home. Tell her that she needs to treat you, the father, with respect if she wants any back. Also, don't allow play dates and as soon as she gets home, she does homework and go to her room. Tell her once her attitude changes, she'll get her extras back.

Answer 6

"hey, your words are fine but your voice is sounding rude and whiny. it makes me not want to listen to what you're saying. if you have something you want me to hear, please say it in a polite and strong voice."



or



"wow, that was a pretty rude thing to say. yes, they are my keys, but i'm asking for your help. that's what families do -- help each other."



conversation (and tone of voice) seem to do a good job of resolving those things. i don't find it needs to get to "punishment".

Answer 7

If taking away toys and priviledges does not work, then you need to consider spanking. I would never ask a child if there was milk at home because that is the adult's job. I would either give her a choice about food, but if a child won't go get your keys for you, then I would spank her when you get home.

Answer 8

I would have popped her in the mouth the first time she did it.

Public, private I wouldn't care where we were.



However, I do agree you should not continue to ask what she wants only to say no. That would make anyone mad.