Why does my mom act like this about my grades?

Question

Ok, my mom didn't make straight a's in school. In fact I don't think she ever got an a/b report card. Yet for some reason, she won't expect anything less of that from me! If she didn't get good grades and didn't care back then, why does she care now, even though it's my grades, not hers?

Answer 1

It sounds to me like your report card is Already Great! 5 a's, 2 b's and a C??? What on earth is wrong with THAT??! Tell your mom that she should be happy that you aren't Failing any of your classes! That's just ludicrous! If I were your mom, I'd be MAJORLY proud of you. Tell her to ease up. You're doing Great!

Answer 2

A few reasons, you will know what it is when you hear it...



a] she loves you and wants what is best for you - Having good grades will take you places that she has never been, or could take you - she wants you to have a bright and happy future.



b] She knows that you are capable of bringing in better grades; expectations can be helpful tools to helps reach higher and become more -



c] Her expectations are way to high for you to meet, she expects too much, why would I need to learn how to read or do algebra? I am just plain dumb.



d] She didn't make it good in school and wants to live vicariously through you...



I think if you are honest, you will find that answers a and b are the correct ones. If you still don't get it, why not you ask your mom sometime when she isn't busy, why she wants this for you; you may be surprised for the answer she gives - I always think when in doubt, go directly to the source...

Answer 3

i would try getting the C to an B, but other than that, your grades are very good. you have a 3.5 GPA right now, and most colleges see that as a very good GPA. as for geometry, try reading the chapter before the test, i know it's hard, i had something like that last year but the teacher helped us out afterward. try talking to your mom saying the school isn't the best and the teachers don't care, and tell her that you're trying your hardest, she probably doesn't want you to get the grades she did maybe because she realized it was a bad mistake to get bad grades. or maybe she doesn't realize how hard school's gotten since she was in there, because school has gotten a lot tougher. if talking doesn't help, you know that you did your best and that's the best you can do, and your mom can't control your grades.

Answer 4

Because she cares and she learned from her mistakes and doesn't want you to make the same ones. Just because your mom or dad did something when they were younger doesn't mean you should just do it like them. Why do you have to follow their mistakes, if they can help you do better than they did? Even when I was a teenager I couldn't stand other teens with attitudes like yours. IF my parents had done poorly in school that would have been all the more reason to be the very best I could be. If the teachers are as bad as you say they are, then you should take responsibility for your learning and beat them at their game. I would be trying my hardest to get straight A's under the circumstances you've described.

Answer 5

Well, it's definately not fun to have a parent on your case about grades all the time; but the reason your mom cares more about your grades than she did about hers is most likely because she wants you do well in school and have a promising future. So in a sense, it's good that she cares about your future. And if she ever gives you a hard time about grades, just try and explain how that stresses you out and maybe she'll understand.

Answer 6

Maybe she has some regrets from not putting more effort in her schoolwork. Now she is trying to prevent you from having these same regrets by pushing you to do your best.



I think your mom's motivations are good. She knows that doing well in school will lead to better things. Perhaps she wishes there was someone there to push her and make her do better. We all look back on our life and think about things we would do differently. We often want to pass these lessons onto our kids, so they don't make the same mistakes we did.



The thing is, often when a parent pushes their kids, it backfires. Bottom line, YOU have to want to do better and get good grades. She can harass you all she wants...but if you aren't motivated then its really a waste of time.



I know you don't see it, but your mom's heart is in the right place.

Answer 7

Well, I don't think there's anything wrong with her wanting you to do well. She probably looks back on her own experience and doesn't like how she didn't get good grades so she wants you to do better. So try your hardest to make good grades, and as long as you do your very best she should be pleased with you. But if she starts pushing you too much (like getting mad if you don't get straight A's all the time, or getting mad if you struggle in a class and don't do as well) then you should talk to her.

Answer 8

The truth is, I think some parents DO expect too much from their kids. I don't expect straight As from my son (he's in 6th grade), I expect his personal best. He really struggles with English but excels at social studies and science. I expect him to put forth his best effort. If he tries his very hardest and gets a C in English, I'm just as thrilled as when he gets A's in science.



Now, your mom...if she didn't do well in school, is she perhaps suffering for it in life now? Is she stuck in a low paying job? Does she not have opportunity to advance? Every parent wants their child to do better in life than we ourselves do. I'm sure that she only wants you to have more opportunity and less difficulty in life than she does. Good grades are the key to opportunity.



Your mom may be being hard on you, but her heart is in the right place.

Answer 9

I think because she didn't try hard in school and regrets her decision now. She doesn't want you to follow in her foot steps. She wants you to learn all you can so you can move on and graduate college and so on.. Just relax your doing fine with your a/ b/ c report card. Learn at school but also enjoy being a kid and sometimes parents get out of hand because they love you so much. Just realize its cause she cares and wants you to do the best at everything you do.

Answer 10

Because she cares about you. And she probably regrets not getting better grades because with good grades you have so many options of where to go to college. You could go out of state if you wanted or to a private college. And then when you grow up you can get a better paying job.

Answer 11

Maybe your mother regrets her own grades and doesn't want you to suffer the same consequences she may have. People mature and realize that getting good grades is important "after all".



With the grades you have it might be good if you could get the "C" up to a "B", but I do think someone should point out to your mother that A's and B's are good grades.

Answer 12

She wants you to turn out better than she did. Listen to your mom, try to do your best and eventually you will look back and thank her.



Look at all the stupid idiots who write on this board; they can't rub two words together to make a sentence. The whole country is dumbed-down, doesn't read, and they can't think straight. They watch TV and each junk food.



Your mom wants you to be a spectacular, happy, wonderful person. Don't be angry with her. Have high expectations for yourself. Turn off that Tee Vee, IPod, IM, everything. Learn now while you have time.

Answer 13

Well, it is natural for parents wanting their children to be the best. She probably wants you to do better than her, and doesn't want you to repeat her same mistakes. It is also for your near future, for when you go to College and so on. High grades help, a lot. My mom is the same as well, she wants me to be the best. She regrets not finishing her studies. She always warns me about my studies and grades. Lol, hope this answers your ponderings. xP

Answer 14

Maybe you should ask her why she didn't make that good of grades. Maybe she had to work or help out at home or somehow didn't have the same opportunity you do. At any rate I am sure she is trying to make things better for you than they were for her. Most parents do.

Answer 15

She wants you to be better off than her. My parents did so bad in school and I'm in college now because of that 3.5 GPA; sometimes you just have to suck it up and do your best. I don't want a blue collar job because of crappy grades and no college that's the last thing I want and that motivation keeps me going. Find your motivator and stick to it, focus on the big picture.

Answer 16

She probably doesn't want you being just like her when she was your age sir. That would suck if you slacked off just like your mom. It brings back bad memories and she wants you to get the best education you can possibly receive and thrive farther than your mother. Shes doing it for your own good sir. Don't take it personal.

Answer 17

Your mom knows now what happens when you don't get good grades and she wants to prevent you from finding out the hard way. Believe it or not, she is trying to do you a big favour.

Answer 18

since she didnt get good grades she may know first hand a lot better then you on how difficult it is to get into college if you don't start from an early age on the good ethic of education.she cares about you and wants to see you succeed.

Answer 19

She just wants the best for you, and cares for you like a mother should, she doesn't want you to go through whatever she has with her poor grades probably.

good grades makes life a lot easier.

Answer 20

She just wants you to do good in school so you can get into a good college. Tell her she is causing you a lot of stress by doing this and ask her to lay off a bit because no one is perfect.

Answer 21

Your mom does that because she realized her mistakes and doesn't want you to make the same mistakes as her. Like, my mom, when she was young, she didn't take good care of her teeth and now, she has implants and wants me to take good care of my teeth so I don't make the same mistakes as her. Same with my dad and swim coach, but of course with a different situation.

Answer 22

She wants the best for you. She wants all the opportunities that she didn't have when she was in school. My mom use to do that too and I asked her and that is what she said. She just wants the very best for you and not regret anything.

Answer 23

she doesnt want you to turn out the way she did. get a good education and get a great job make a bundle of money . iam for your mom. but what is wrong. she doesnt have to be so hard on you. your passing and your still going to be someone and not a hooker.

Answer 24

be glad that your mother cares about your grades, there are some kids that wish their parents cared about anything in their lives. your mother wants you to succeed and wants you to be better than she was. all parents want this for their children.



in a few years you'll thank her for being hard on you, it will benefit you in the long run. my parents were the same way with me. they were crazy strict about grades because they cared about me and wanted the best for me.

Answer 25

she just wants u to have a better education than she did, do better in school. if u ask her, she'll probly tell u that having bad grades made it hard 4 her to get jobs and do what she wanted to do in life. shes better preparing u for the future

Answer 26

because you are her child and she wants better for you...



She realizes how hard it is in the REAL world for those of us that did not like/bother with school. What you do today in school will follow you for the rest of your life. If you want a minimal wage job, and never have anything other than bills to pay, go ahead and screw around in school. You can make my #2 combo at burger king extra special for me when I bring my kids in for their kids meal.

Answer 27

She wants to see you succeed. She wants you to be better than she was. She probably had to make up later for her not getting good grades and doesn't want you to have to. She just cares about your future.

Answer 28

Your mom is probably sorry that she didn't get good grades in school,and so she wants that for you (there are a lot more opportunities for those with good grades in school, not to mention college).

Answer 29

Well for starter you should NEVER compare yourself to anyone. And your mom most likely knows your fully capable of pulling straight A's. Just try your hardest, and i mean hardest and if its not straight A's then explain to your mom you really tried.

Answer 30

She just cares a lot about you. Thats what mothers do and they only want the best from you. Just make sure you're trying your hardest for her.

Answer 31

She cares about you and wants you to do better in life than what she may have done.

Answer 32

I think she realizes that she should have worked harder with her grades back then, because it can really affect everyone. I think she wants you to have an overall better education than she had that will support you through life.

Answer 33

She wants your life to turn out better than hers.

Answer 34

She care's about you and want's you to become a successful business man so you can support her when she gets wrinkly.

Answer 35

Maybe because she wants more for you than she had herself. Get better grades,

Answer 36

your mother cares about you and your future. she just wants to see you excell above and beyond what she did and problly doesn't want you to repeat the mistakes she made and regrets.

Answer 37

Well depending on your socioeconomic status...maybe she wants you to do well in school so that you can end up getting a good paying job and not struggle like her(economically speaking)...



Or, maybe she knows your potential..and wants you to exceed it.

Answer 38

She cares. Wants you to do better and get farther then herself.

Answer 39

SOME adults learn from their past mistakes and take them into consideration when applying discipline to their children.



She probably thinks you can do better than you are doing.



But, hey... it's your life, right? You know better than she does, for sure.

Answer 40

bc she wants you to be better than her.



she doesnt want you to have a bad GPA she wants you to go to a cool college

Answer 41

i think she is trying to make you better than her.......... most parents just want the best for their kids



i get grounded for having a B

Answer 42

because she doesnt want you to turn out like she did and she cares dearly for you

Answer 43

because as you get older you get wiser. listen to your mother, get off the computer and study. tomorrow's a school day.





edit to howie. why did you get a b? were you goofing off?

Answer 44

She doesn't want to support you for the rest of your life.

Answer 45

parents dont want you to make the same mistakes they did most parents live the lives they wanted through their children

Answer 46

i think she wants you to do better then she did.

she wants you to have a good life :]

i bet that sukks.

Answer 47

she wants to see you have all the opportunities you can to have the life you want-

Answer 48

Because parents always want more for their children.



She wants you to do better than her, and be successful.



Normal mom.(:

Answer 49

she made her mistakes and doesnt want you to make the same.

Answer 50

because she's your mother and she wants you to do well in life?

Answer 51

because parents expect too damn much from you

Answer 52

same with me, but my dad did so i still have to

Answer 53

Maybe she doesnt like wat she has become because of her grades and wants you to succeed and do better then she did.

Answer 54

she cares