Will my son be left out?

Question

I have a concern.
I have two eight year old, twin girls. A four year old son and another set of twins. I am worried that my son, will be left out. Being that there is two sets of twins and them him, in the middle. I always try to include him, always. With everything. But I am worried when they are a bit older, when the girls are twelve and he is eight and Caleb and Ava (m youngest twins) are four, that he would be left out. I could just see it happening. I will try to prevent it. But, do you think it will happen? Any suggestions?

Answer 1

I have 8-yr-old twins and a 4-yr-old, all boys. The twins do leave their brother out in the cold somethimes, especially when they are playing sports. I decided this summer, after a school year of soccer, basketball, baseball and scouts for the twins, my youngest would be the only one signing up for classes. Now he's the center of attention and the twins cheer him on after a great hit and ask for high 5s from him.



I also make sure I make a "date" with each of them individually each month. I take them to the park alone, we'll get ice cream together, or even just taking a walk around the neighborhood. It makes them feel special to have the one on one time. My husband does the same thing. This way, no one feels left out and we don't segregate the twins from the singleton. Each person is his own self.



Since you are worried about it, I don't think your son will be left out. You'll make the efforts to make sure it doesn't happen.

Answer 2

i grew up in a family with a set of twins and to tell you the truth i always felt i had a place. now given the twins were 8 years my senior and they were always together. they never made me or the other kids in my family feel odd man out. they realized they had eachother but we were a family. and we were always raised that families work together. my point is that they are twins so they are naturally going to have a special bond that no one will ever be able to break but they will realize that there are other siblings to be with. caleb will always have ava but he's going to need his big brother too. i wouldn't worry too much. you might even find that your son enjoys being special in the fact that he's the only one that's not a twin! i hope i helped good luck

Answer 3

As long as you give him some 1:1 attention he will be fine. He probably will get tired of people making a fuss over the twins but he will get used to it. Odds are that he will be much better at amusing himself and will be more comfortable being on his own, a valuable trait as he gets older. Remember that the twins ma not necessarily be all that close and may want to spend more time with other kids Caleb may idolize his big brother.

Answer 4

okay, i dont know if this will help, but i have a twin sister, we are both 14 and our brother is 8. Since we are twins, girls and the same age we are closer to eachother than we are to my brother, but we still include him and play with him alot. Since I have Sammy (my twin) i really dont get left out too often, but since JP(brothher) doesnt have kids his own age to play with he is more outgoing and better at making friends. When we go on vacation Me, Sammy and my cousin usually just hang out together, But JP goes into kids clubs and makes alot of friends. I think that he could be left out sometimes, but the younger ones will probibly look up to him, and the older ones will probibly include him too. like i said, i do think it will happen, but only to a certain extent, i play with my bro all the time even though i have sammy. just yesterday wwe had a water gun fight =D. I hope i helped. good luck!

Answer 5

He will never feel left out, not while he has you as his mom. Your kids will always be close with one another because that's what your teaching them. He may not be a twin, but he will never feel left out. That was a beautiful write up.

Answer 6

i do think it will happen but I don't think it will happen to the extent that your son will be miserable. Just teach your children to love and respect each other and they will. I also have to bow to you! Two sets of twins?? You are AWESOME! And I feel for you! I can barely handle just my son!

Answer 7

Don't look at the twins as twins...just look at the fact that you have 5 kids & treat them equally.

Answer 8

train up a child in the way they should go and when they grow up they won"t depart from it