What do u think about having ur child on a leash for when ur walking with them?

Question

I think its just weird and a bit inhumane walking with ur child on a leash, but my husband thinks its not bad and that its not torture.....wat do u guys think and y?

Answer 1

What's gotten into people today?!



People DRESS UP their DOGS, and put their CHILDREN on LEASHES! I'm afraid of the future!



That is crazy, it will make your child feel very animalistic, and stupid. Your child will feel incapable of being independant, smart, and cautious. You should explain to your child the dangers of being out alone and why he/she should stay close by to you. If you're a good mom, you'll know what to do; it all comes naturally.

I suggest you hold their hand; That way, they feel closer to you and more loved.



Good luck. :-)



(When I say "you", I'm not talking about you, I'm speaking in general.)

Answer 2

I think it really depends on a couple of things...

1- The child..my first child with ADHD it was a necessity. She would not sit in a stroller and she would wiggle out of my hand or arm and run off.

2- How it is used. If it is used a a safety measure then it is OK but if it is used as a "punishment" that is abuse. Like saying that they have to wear it because they would not stay with the parent.

Some kids like those with ADD and Hyperactivity feel secure knowing they have boundaries. Now used the right way with the right child it can be a great safety device but I think the first option for all parents should be a stroller or backpack carrier and if those don't work then there is the leash.

And the reason why I recommend the other 2 first is because what Little one really walk all the distance.

Answer 3

It depends on why you're asking the question. Are you looking for what's best for the child or are you looking for what looks best to the general public? If you have a curious, independent child, a harness type leash is a way to give your toddler a measure of independence while maintaining security. If you have a toddler that's a "bolter" if you release their hands, then a leash is a very good security measure. I'd like a good solid answer from an anit-leasher that explains why using a harness is harmful to the child -- and I'm not buying "It teaches the child that he's a dog." !!

Answer 4

Reminds me of a few years back. I was in some hard times and I found myself and my son in a homeless shelter. This woman comes in about a week and a half after I did saying 'Shirl is here. Leo the lion is in the house! I'm in charge!'. Well, she had these 2 kids, a 4 year old girl and a boy who was just about to be 2. She was complaining about how her son runs off and doesn't listen to her and she can't control him. Being that I didn't like her all that much, she was verbally abusive to her daughter and spoiled her son which is why he behaved like he did, I told her to put him on a leash. Nonetheless, she didn't like that idea....I didn't mean it seriously anyway....well I was half serious.



Anyway, I think that if you parent right you won't have to feel like putting your child on a leash. If you teach the kid consequences for his/her actions, such as: "You run away from me into the street there is a good possibility that a car will hit you and you will die and never see mommy and daddy again" or "If you walk away from me in the store someone may steal you from me". Fear is a good teacher. That kid will not run into the street. It's the same concept as how many times you tell a child not to put his hands near the stove till you let him do it and find out on his own. That kid is scared to do that again, and they are better off for it. No, I don't believe in leashes, especially because teaching the child has a greater and longer impact on him as he grows into adulthood.

Answer 5

I wouldn't use a harness just to walk around town or to the park or the store but I did use one on my two year old son when I flew into the Houston airport I also had him in a stroller the harness was a just in case kinda thing if some one was able to get him out of the stroller they were not going to get that leash out of my hand.. I also used when we were in Mexico there was no way I was going to take even a small chance on that one my son means more to me than what other people think

Answer 6

It is not only inhumane, it is inhuman.



Walking with your children should be a pleasurable, human experience. If they're tethered to a leash, you'll be embarrassed and ashamed the rest of your lives.



Every moment with your children is an opportunity to teach, to learn values, to grow. Walking is a prime example. Be aware (op people, traffic, animals--also of the beauty around, the flowers, the architecture, the butterflies), be alert, enjoy the beauty, make sense of signals...all this is lost if they're dragged on a rope.



Teaching kids to make decisions is one of the best things we as parents do. They're not gonna make many decisions on a rope.

Answer 7

Only "you" make the comparison to a leashed animal...Do you think your child would? I like the "crowded Mall at Christmas" scenario. One minute there, the next who knows...Compare the feeling to knowing that your child is at the end of a comfortably fitted tether, to the horror of frantically searching for your lost child. You decide. I used a wrist fitted model with my daughter when she was a toddler...She is now 12, with no psychological scarring...And, by the way, was never lost in a crowd.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

i understand what ur saying but with all thats happening in this world better safe than sorry ur going with the way it looks like there should b a dog instead of a child but just think about how many lives those things have saved (do u think alot of little kids would b missing if they had 1 of those on?)

Answer 10

OMG! I think it is so insane! I think that you are a lazy parent if you need to keep your kid on a leash. Hold their hand for crying out loud, or use a stroller. Kids are not dogs! Teach them to listen and stay close by. Whenever I see this I can't believe it. Is it too hard to keep an eye on your child? Put a leash on your husband and see if he likes it.

Answer 11

It's a harness not a leash. Do you have kids? It's not inhumane, it helps you keep track of them. Especially if they want to walk and not sit in a stroller. Kids can take off and get lost fast if your in a big store or mall......

Answer 12

This is one of the many things I said I'd never do before I had kids. They are heavy to hold (and tie up your hands), strollers don't go everywhere and some kids don't like them, it hurts their arms to hold a grown-ups hand for long....The "leash" or harness is a smart solution to prevent losing a curious toddler, while still allowing him some freedom. It doesn't take many times of losing one, even for just a minute, before you figure out it is better for both of you!

Answer 13

I think it's hilarious. Seriously, aside from the humor factor, it's a good idea if the kid is prone to running off. Better look silly than have your kid run into the street. I mean, we leash dogs because they don't know that cars can hurt them; preschoolers don't know that either.

Answer 14

it depends on where you live. big city? LEASH IS A MUST. you are allowing your child to explore at arms length WITHOUT the worry that he will get swept away in a croud... or worse yet, taken. i always had my child hold my hand... but you can't hold their hand while you pay for a hot dog... (you get my point). i don't think it's weird or inhumane. i think it's smart parenting.

Answer 15

i think that is wrong. ur child is not a dog so don't treat him/her like one. what ppl need to do is quit bein lazy and discipline their kids to not wander off from them and to be good. then they wouldn't need a dog leash for them. buckle them down in a stroller and if they wanna get out tell them no because u run off so u don't have the privilege to get out. then again if u put ur child down and they run off when u find them spank them so they will know not to do it again.

Answer 16

It isn't wierd!!Nor is it child abuse!!When you have more the 1 child it sometimes hard to make them do what you say.Would you rather your child run in the road and be hit by a car?Or what about in a busy mall...have him stolen by a child molester???I mean gosh people lock thier kids in strollers...

Answer 17

Looks weird, but just a good way to make sure they don't run away or get kidnapped or something. I think the best use would be so they don't run in the street if they are quite young.

Answer 18

It is better than your child running away and getting hurt. Or even worse kidnapped. I have one and wouldn't go any where with out it. My son will even puts it on when he wants to walk insted of in the stroller.

Answer 19

Well I think that it is perfectly fine when you are in a very crowded place or busy place. My grandmother did it to my aunt's when they went to Disneyworld. It isnt like she let them walk far in front of her like a dog, but she attached it to them and her. It wasn't like everyone noticed it, but they sure didn't get lost. What if you lost your child in a place like that? Then they woould try to call you an unfit mother!! It doesn't have to be whenever you go somewhere, just in crowded places! I think you have a very thoughtful husband!

Answer 20

It is perfectly fine! Its not like you have a leash hooked up to a collar around their neck.....the ones i see are just strapped around their wrist. Its perfectly normal. There are sooo many freaks our there ... its not inhumane at all ... if i had kids ... i would deff. own one :) Take care

Answer 21

my best friend Matthew's dad did that when we were kids,



But he was a white supremacist that used to beat him witha wooden paddle and spared his racism from me cuz of me and matthews friendship. Its not torture, but its still abusive if you are humiliating the child, but what the child should understand is that it's the parent that looks like the asshole.

Answer 22

I suppose it's a good way to keep track of them, especially if they like to disappear. I'm with you, though. It looks a little strange. I'm sure it doesn't hurt the kid or anything, but it always reminds me of walking a dog.

Answer 23

they're training for when they get a dog :P

if the kid is impossible to control, what else can you do? rather have a lively kid on a leash then a dead one in the middle of the street

Answer 24

Ever been in a busy mall around Christmas time and trying to keep track of small kids, parcels and your purse too??



Isn't any worse than locking them in a stroller is it??

Answer 25

It's definitely better than them being abducted or running off and getting smashed by a car!! If you feel the need for it, don't worry about what anyone else thinks! Your child's safety is all that should come into play here!!

Answer 26

I have seen bracelets that you and your child wear and they are connected to eachother. They don't look as weird. Either one though is better than your child getting lost

Answer 27

its all about teaching your child to behave in an acceptable manner when they are out in public...



i think those leads are just stupid...and parents who use them are just lazy to really keep track of their kids and lazy to dissapline them properly and teach them that its very dangerous to run away from you out in public. yes, it takes effort but that is what having a child is about...if you put in 100 percent all the time then you dont need things like leads for children...leads are for dogs!

Answer 28

I think it is pathetic, feel so sorry for the kid that he has such ignorant parents. Parents need to put in the effort to teach their children, to discipline them kindly, so they don't feel they can't control their kids and resort to a doggy leash. It's so sick....

Answer 29

I understand why you feel that way, but they can dash into traffic or be snatched away from you in a split second. There are definitely situations that call for it.

Answer 30

I would never do it, but at least these parents know where there kids are, which is more then i can say about a lot of parents.

Answer 31

I agree with you. Why not a stroller or carry them or hold their hands. They aren't dogs and it's freaking weird to have them on those things.

Answer 32

The only way it might be permissible in the parent is in a wheelchair. Better safe than dead.

Answer 33

Kids are HUMAN BEINGS....not DOGS. If you want to put something on a leash get a dog.

Answer 34

i think its insane its looks like theyre baby is an animal i kno it works but i think its just retarted if u dont want your baby to wonder off then dont put them down

Answer 35

i keep my children in a louis vuitton shoulder bag a la paris hilton's chihuahua



kidding

kidding.

kidding?

Answer 36

i think its reallllly mean cuz ur treating ur kids like animals

but i know some people that have no prob w it.

Answer 37

it depends on the child. it is for the childs safety.

Answer 38

its america do what you want lol