Hypothetical question for parents - please read?

Question

Please don't give me advice - I have had my license for over 10 years, and my oldest children are 9, so this is not about me, it's just something I'm curious about. And if you live somewhere where you get your license once you're a legal adult, then I don't think this question would be relevant to you.
QUESTION: If you had a son or daughter who was old enough to get their license, had managed to pass their driving test, and yet was an unsafe driver - whether through lack of skill, ignoring the rules of the road (excessive speeding, running stopsigns, etc), or not paying attention (texting, fiddling with the radio, not watching the road, etc.) - what would you do?

I'm asking because I remember a lot of my friends being really dangerous drivers as teens but their parents never did anything about it (which I know for a fact.)

Answer 1

In my experience the teens know how to be good drivers they just choose to not be. As a result most parents are not aware of how their teens drive while they are not around. When the parent is in the car the teens makes a conscious effort to drive as best they can to impress the parent. When alone or with friends they throw caution to the wind. That is one of the reasons states are trying to limit the number of other teens that can be in the car without an adult. Personally I like the cameras you can install in the car to record your teens driving. That way you know exactly how they drive when you are not in the car and can actually sit down and talk about the tapes with the.

Answer 2

A lot of those kids probably were careful when their parents were in the car-I remember being that age too. If I knew they were unsafe, I'd really limit their driving. I think my parents were smart-they just initially limited my driving-at first I could drive to my job, which was about 5 mins away, couldn't drive to school, a little farther away, until senior year. They gradually increased my privileges that seems like a good idea. Because, I think lack of experience is a big issue with many teens, so you can let them learn gradually. My son is 2 so we'll see how it goes 14 years from now.

Answer 3

They were able to get their license, so they know what they are supposed to be doing. This is a I don't care kind of deal (and I'm sorry, but really poor driving is an i don't care thing)



Texting while driving, I would take the phone. No if ands or buts about it.



The rest, well, they won't be driving my car. I'm not paying their fines, I'm not going to be responsible for them hurting themselves or someone else.

If it's bad enough I will take their license until they have practiced enough and it sinks in that there are driving laws for a reason.





(after talking with them of course)

I have enough friends also that are on the road for work for 16 hours a day. I will know when they are being punks while driving.

Answer 4

When I got my license I had to buy my own car and get a job to put gas in it Those 2 things alone made me take the responsibility much more seriously. Also, my parents made it clear that if I got a ticket for any reason, they would take away my car for a period of time. If I got 2 tickets, they were going to have the BMV pull my license until I was 18 (and yes the parent can do that).



My parents made sure I knew the consequences before I ever started driving.

Answer 5

I would: 1. Take the phone

2. Take the car

3. Take the keys

4. Take their license

Before all that I would take the time to talk to them and explain the consequences. They would understand that ignoring the rules of the road, texting while driving (or stopped for a light), fiddling with the radio, not watching the road, etc will not be tolerated. They would be responsible for any and all tickets. And i would personally revoke their license in case of any accident proved to be their fault.

Answer 6

Hmmm... well I guess it depends on a few things. If my kid had a job and bought his own car, paid for his own insurance etc, then I'm really not sure how I would handle this. My hope would be that a kid who is responsible enough to do all that would eventually learn about the consequences of unsafe driving.



All I know for sure is that if he were driving unsafely in *my* car, or if I was the one paying his insurance, or if every time he got a ticket he asked me to pay it - that would be the end of his driving privileges. I wouldn't allow him to be reckless on my dime.

Answer 7

I wouldn't let my child drive. I would be too afraid they might kill someone and I'd have to live with that the rest of my life. It's nice for a parent to become free from driving their kids around when the kids get their license, but it's not worth the risk.

Answer 8

If/when my children get their driver's licence, they will have to buy and insure their own car to drive. I would have Grandpa, a police officer, give them a nice big lecture about safe driving and have all his co-workers look out for my kids and pull them over at the slightest infracture.

Answer 9

Car keys are mine until they demonstrate that they can drive a car safely and responsibly. If they persist in driving like maniacs, I will sign them up for Driver's Ed over and over again until they get it. Just because you have a license, it doesn't mean you can just drive any way you want and endanger those driving around you.

Answer 10

Considering what ever car they have Id own. I wouldn't allow them to drive it. Before 18 they need parental consent to get their license I wouldn't allow it until I believe they were safe. Id teach them the proper way to drive if it was about safety. Thankfully in our state we have alot of laws in place.

Answer 11

1. i would not allow them the use of my car.



2. I would not give them funding to buy one of their own.(That includes co-signing loans)



3. I would absolutely not allow them on my insurance.

Answer 12

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Answer 13

I would not let them take the car out by themselves. Simple as that.