WHAT EXACTLY...do you stay at home moms do?

Question

Esp. those who only have one child and stay home.
I mean really now, all you do is mooch off your husband and spend all his money. Doing laundry in the real world wouldnt even make one months mortgage. I think stay at home moms are leeches and need to get the butts in a job, instead of livng off someone else paycheck. You stay homes get to drive around in your suvs that your husbands bought you,and go shopping or do some housework, which is way easier than having to go to a REAL job everyday. Does anyone see what I see?

Answer 1

The best thing I can say to you is exactly what my husband says to me: I'm highly underpaid and under appreciated! By the time paid professionals to do what a stay-at-home-mom does your husband would be BANKRUPT!! Let me break it down for you-

1. Personal Chef

2. Child Care Giver

3. Laundry Service

4. Full Time Maid

5. Personal Taxi Cab (for shuttling kids where they need to go)

6. Accountant

7. last but not least- A prostitute at least once a week (cuz we all know that men are horny little critters!!)



My husband thinks that I deserved every last penny that he has spent on my 2004 Ford Mustang 40th Anniversary Edition, my clothes, my jewelry, and anything else my little heart desires. He treats me like a princess for staying home with our 6 kids cuz he knows this house would fall apart without me!! AND he prefers that I stay home NOT sitting on my butt while hes out making his family a living like any REAL man would do!!!!!

Answer 2

I doubt you'd even read this after the amount of responses you've received, however, being a SAHM myself, I do feel obligated to say something.



Being a mother is a full time job whether you have a "full time job" or not. The difference, when you "work outside of the home" you get a break. You get to socialize with other adults for hours at a time before having to go home and deal with everything that parenting is. Stay at home mothers have a lot on their plates. Very few actually "have SUVs that their husbands bought and go shopping". None that I know have the luxury to do that.



I'm sorry that you are a bitter person because you have to work and are missing out on all of the wonderful things your children accomplish every day. If you even have children.. Which, by the sounds of your Question make me wonder.



I have nothing against working mothers - but I do have a problem with working mothers that think being a SAHM is a walk in the park. When is the last time you had to stay in the company of a child, or children, for a full week with no breaks, not even to go to the restroom or take a shower, to yourself?

Answer 3

I personally have been a stay-at-home Mom and a working Mom. Yes I missed our daughter while I was working but in no way was it harder than staying home with her. When you're at home you NEVER get a break. I forget what it's like to shower or go to the bathroom by myself. Atleast when I worked I could socialize with people over the age of 2 and take a pee by myself. Some days I even looked forward to going to work so I could get a break! Also, have you ever tried to clean a house or cook dinner with a 20 month old trying to "help"? It takes about twice as long that way. My husband works 12 hour days so when he gets home it's not like I get a break then either because he's so tired. I am in no way complaining because I love that I'm the one raising our daughter instead of throwing her in daycare where she'll just neglected. I'm not putting down the Moms that have to do it but why do it if you don't have to? Wouldn't you want the best for your child? I'm just so tired of people looking down at stay-at-home Moms! Why was is so acceptable 30 years ago but today it's considered being "lazy"? How about you stop putting down Moms that actually want what is best for their child?



Oh yeah... when you get married isn't it BOTH of the people in the relationship's money. Last time I checked my name was on that checking account as well, sweetie. When you get married nothing is just yours anymore. So I'm not out spending "my Husband's money"... I'm out spending OUR money- on diapers, groceries and clothes for our daughter!

Answer 4

Hubby and I used to work fulltime with three kids but the childcare was too much and wasn't worth spending time away from them. For three kids I was paying $90 a day for them to go into before and after school care. The holidays are terrible and they are the ones that cripple you. Fulltime childcare 5 days a week. So hub and i decided one of us would stay home and I didn't earn as much so that was that. We are so much more happy and relaxed. My husband comes home to happy kids, a lovely meal, nice fluffed up pillow, clean fluffy towels and an appreciative wife. I have worth!!! He appreciates what I do and we work together as a great team. When you are a good team you know that at any given moment the tables could turn. We are a family and we look after each other we don't mooch. I also make all executive decisions to do with money. I pick the house. I choose investments. I had a house before my husband and we made loads of money off it to buy another one 'together'. This is our house. Not mine. Experience would tell you that it is a mans purpose in life to please his partner and if the partner is happy then 9 times out of ten he is too. So when you next see a mummy out shopping for shoes or the like, playing her part by keeping the economy alive with 'their' money, she is happy and so is he. Lots of sahm's also volunteer their time to help charities, schoolgroups etc and without them this world would be a lot shittier. Don't be a hater girl!

Answer 5

Let me start with you really should never be a parent. You have no idea how exhausting it really can be.

I don't live in a castle. I live in a low rent 2 bedroom unit (roughly the size of a box). I have only one child and since she has no brothers or sisters I'm her playmate as well as her mum. I run the whole house I make all appointments and do all the housework. I run errands for several family members that are unable to do themselves as well. I get up really early (around 5.30-6am) and don't stop until 11pm. The nights my partner is home I get free time. (like now). I work just as hard if not harder than most people in payed employment.

I don't call myself a stay at home mum becasue I'm always out running errands and taking my daughter to activities and appointments. So the home part really doesn't suit any unpaid mum.

I call myself a residence general manager. My job at home is just as demanding as anyone in this position in the workforce.

Answer 6

You really think being a stay at home mom is easy??? OMG you haven't the first clue. First off, the work is NEVER finished. There's cooking all three meals and making snacks for the kids. Cleaning up every room in the house. Laundry is never ending. My husband might make all the money but I am the one who handles paying all the bills. I don't have the fancy SUV that you are talking about. I don't have a car at all at the moment. My husband has been taking me to the store and to make sure that all the bills are paid. He NOW sees what I have been going through. Being a stay at home mom IS a REAL job. To me, the best and most rewarding. I have been a working mother, as I also am an LPN and was doing private duty nursing with a vent patient. I do think it's harder to be a working mom and keep up with all the housework, because I have seen both sides. But I don't see us as leeches as you described. I work hard here at home. I make sure that everything is clean, all the laundry is done and that my kids are fed, bathed and well taken care of. I also have the privledge of getting plenty of one on one time with my kids ( I have 3) and get to play with them more and teach them, instead of sticking them in a daycare with 10-15 other kids, where they seemed to stay sick all the time. Yes, my husband is the "breadwinner" here but I treat him with the respect he deserves. I clean his clothes and cook him meals and I love him. I try and show it everyday by taking care of him and our children. In all honesty, it sounds as if someone is a little bit jealous of SAHM's...........or else you wouldn't be worried about it.

Answer 7

I have three children- one of them school aged. I have a disabled mother in law that requires being cared for. I have a 17 month old and a 3 month old.

Basically child care would cost more than I would make at a normal 9-5 job with the prices being $140 a week per child. Plus if I were not here to care for my mother in law she would have to go into a home which there are no funds for.

My day is cooking, cleaning, laundry, bathing, feeding babies and mother in law, changing babies and mother in law.

My husband is a 2nd shifter so I wait up for him to get home shortly after midnight and night time is my only time to myself.

I have no time to shop. Generally either my husband or I will go on the weekends to shop at Wal-Mart supercenter for groceries.

So in answer- I have many responsibilities and this is a financially appropriate situation for us. I enjoy being here most of the time but there are other times I'd kill to have a job and get out and see other people. But it's not possible. I'm sad that you categories and stereotype all Sam's because some of us are hard workers and have many responsibilities. It's not very fair when I know I work harder here than I ever did anywhere else and I don't ever ask for help from my husband.

I have no SUV- we cannot afford it. I have a Ford Taurus that my babies are squished into. And I was recently able to shop at Wal-mart for some pants that fit me after I had my last baby.

Answer 8

LOL I can see you right about now, stomping your feet and crossing your arms, while shouting "It's not FAIR!!!!" Get a freakin' grip already! WHY do you care what other people do or how they choose to live? WHAT makes you the authority on how others should live their lives? And HOW can you judge if you haven't walked in both pairs of shoes?

Honestly, you sound like a jealous little brat who can't find someone who's willing to take care of her... gee...wonder why? Could it be your sick attitude? Hmmmm.

Questions like this just make me laugh at the sheer ignorance they exude.

Good luck finding anyone that will deal with your twisted mentality for much longer than it takes to fart.

Btw, I am a stay at home mom who has also held fulltime jobs in the past and had my kids in daycare. The "benefit" of making money was not worth the time spent away from my children. And another thing, when you marry, it's not "his" money and "her" money... it's JOINT (unless agreed upon otherwise) and his is hers, and hers is his. If you were slightly intelligent, you would know this... and if you were married, you would know this... guess you are NEITHER.

Crawl back into your hole, loser.

Answer 9

Okay I am not a stay at home mom, but I wish I was. I hate to have to work I'm missing out on the most important part of my kids lives. I don't see it your way, my best friend is a stay at home mom, she has 4 kids, she cleans house, cooks runs errands, gosh I wish I had the energy she has. I get home from work and I don't want to do anything. I'm tired. Do you even have kids? Thats a job in itself.

Answer 10

i am a stay at home mom i have a 23 month old son and am expecting my second i have been a stay at home mom since my son was born i think you must be a ignorant person to have to ask this question apparently you must not have kids or even find someone dumb enough to marry you if you do have kids they are probably in a daycare and arent gettin the real attention they need no i dont drive an suv and i dont spend all my husbands money we live with my father who is disabled as well as my mother so on top of my kid i also have them i take care of i do laundry keep house clean and help give my son a better life he is a whole lot smarter and safer than at some daycare or babysitters and my husband for your information wants me home so his son isn't left with some random person before you go judging stay at home moms maybe you should get to know some of us first you might learn something

Answer 11

i am a stay at home mom, and it sounds to me like your just jealous. let me say that i have alot of important things that i do, like manage the bills, cook , clean, yes laundry, grocery shop, and whatever else needs to be done around the house. i am 23 amd i have two children. they are 4 and 2. my 4 yr old is autistic, and he gets out of pre school at 2:30. so that means that someone has to be home with him. and my husband makes a whole lot more money than i could anyways. i think that small children should be home with their mother, rather then stuck in a daycare all day. dont you know that mother is god in the eyes of a child. you obviously dont have kids, or you would know where i was coming from.and just so u know, i do not drive an suv. i have a car, and yes its a new car that my husband does pay for!!!!!

Answer 12

As a mother I have to disagree- I was a house wife when I was married, we had 4 kids total, and yes having one would have been *much* easier, but other than laundry their is the other daily deeds, cooking, sweeping, moping, organizing, and being a house wife you also clean up after the husband, or at least I did. He left his clothes all over the house just like the kids, and his dirty plates for me to take into the kitchen. Ontop of the cleaning, cooking, and shopping, there is also the one-on-one time you spend with the child. Teaching them manners and such like that.



Are you a mother or just some one who is looking at some thing that you have no idea about?



Some women prefure to work in the corporate world while others find raising their children are more important than pleasing daily customers. Either way, if it works for them, why judge?

Answer 13

my kids are laughing at this question- they told me to tell you that I spend all his money and live in the lap of luxury while sugar plum fairies clean the house, elves prepare three square meals a day (sorry they don't do prepackaged foods here- we eat natural foods mostly prepared from scratch) , gingerbread men run to the grocery store for me while little gnomes keep up with the laundry, mend clothing, and even make clothing sometimes. I have pixies that keep my car clean and occasionally mow the lawn and do the yardwork. The worms, birds and butterflies keep my vegetable garden in order. I could go on and on.

I mean really now, mooching off my husband? I take good care of him, making sure he has waht he needs in order to get his job done, his meals are prepared, clothes are clean and he has a clean and comfortable place eto relax when he gets home. His children are orderly and well taken care of.

Running an orderly and efficient home is work- it does not take care of itself and there is a LOT more to taking care of business than doing laundry.

I work hard to be a good steward of what money my husband does earn, FOR THE FAMILY, so that we are not wasteful or take for granted the blessings we do have.

I feel for the kids that have to come home to empty houses because both parents work, especially when they don't have to.

As far as entertainment goes, I watch 2 one hour tv shows a week and one or two movies a month, the rest of the time, I have very little time to sit and do nothing- most stay at home moms that raise productive, happy children and have husbands who can be proud of them have very little idle time.

Evidently you are looking in the wrong places or just seeing only what you imagine- maybe you should spend a day or two with a stay at home mom

Answer 14

I worked outside the home for three months, The week befoer Christmas it was hard getting ready for Christmas and leaving my angel. My hubby gave me the option to quit and told me that the money isn't worth seeing me miss my angel.



I have never been happier... What do I do??? LOTS... I pamper my hubby and love being a stay at home wife and mother. It is the most important job I have ever had. Yes I am a stay at home mom and it is the most important position I have ever had. She would not be as advanced or happy if she had to go to daycare for ten hours a day...





BTW - We have savings... But what we have is "ours" I made more than hubby for several years in University Administration.

Answer 15

I'd say you are just jealous because you can't live the way we follow stay at home moms do. Would you be complaining if you were in the stay at home position? NO! You'd be loving it and loving the time with your children.



I'm a stay at home mom, with a Lexus & a house and I'm probably your age or younger than you! I acheived this with no man. So please don't be stupid and think that stay at home moms are mooching off their husbands. Jealous girl! I don't understand why you are mad that we have an easier job? But apparently you don't think you deserve time with your family or a husband that wants to take care of you. Enjoy your lifetime of part time jobs! Obviously you aren't sucessful otherwise you wouldn't feel this way or talk like you are below the stay at home moms

Answer 16

wow. Either your jealous or you have major issues. So who do you think should be raising the kids? Most husbands are happy with the way their lives are. Many plan things out before the kids come alone so the wife can stay home. Why have kids if a parent isn't there to raise it. It's not like the SHW is spending your money. Get off your high horse

Answer 17

Your wording is very harsh, you're going to get a lot of flack for this. I think you know what SAHMs do! That said, I know the women you are speaking of, I see them at the mall, at playgroups, amusement parks, starbucks, they are fit, attractive, well dressed, drive big expensive cars and seem to spend most of the day driving kids to various activities and lunching with friends. Most of them, at the very least, have someone come to clean once or twice a week, some have live-in help. However, the only people who should care about this are the women and their husbands, how they arrange their marriage is their business, not yours. Maybe that is how they agreed things would be when they got married.



However, that is a small proportion of stay at home moms overall. Most stay at home moms spend the day doing laundry, cleaning, making meals for fussy little people, running boring errands while towing kids around, picking up, dropping off, helping with homework, cooking dinner, dishes, baths, bedtime - only to get up and do it again the next day. Not as exciting and glamourous.



My husband has been a stay-at-home dad at various times and he can't wait to get out of the house on my days off, he is just exhausted after a full day with my son and we only have one kid at home, the rest are in school. In many ways, being a working mother is harder though because if we can't afford help at home and have husbands who don't chip in, we have to do all the things the stay at home moms do PLUS work outside the home. Personally I could never, and have never been a stay at home mom forever, I need to get out of the house and have adult interaction, I like having paychecks, benefits, options, education. I like having a decent job with flexible hours and good pay that I enjoy. I would be bored to tears at home, I'm not good at all the scrapbooking, homecooking and activities so many SAHMs like to do but that's ok - the world needs all sorts of people, it would be boring if we all had the same plan for our lives.

Answer 18

Well....my mom is a stay-at-home mom. She has a job while we're at school but only for a couple hours. When we come home all she does is read romance novels and bug the crap out of me, occasionally doing some work while talking on the phone. She she throws something together for supper and when Dad comes home she moans about her loooong and grueling day....and I'm like GIVE ME A BREAK. Now I love my mom but she's weird. And naggy.

I don't understand why anyone would stay at home with children, or let alone HAVE children.

I would rather have pets.

Answer 19

I used to think the same way that you do... until I had a child. I have one child, and believe it or not I HAVE to stay home... Daycare is to expensive and we end up either breaking even with me working, or going into debt. Staying at home isn't as easy as you may think, because your child is at home your house tends to become more of a mess, plus We dont have a car, so I'm not out driving around in an SUV all day like you said. I stay at home or cart my child around on the bus, I would love to work, it jsut isn't always an option for some mothers.

Answer 20

I have three children. My day begins at 4:00 a.m. That's when my husband leaves for work. Then my oldest son leaves at 5:30 for his. I take my daughter back and forth throughout the day to community college because there is no car for her. I take my youngest son to school each morning. I am in charge of all bills, groceries, errands, doctor/dentist appointments, and being on call for aging parents and neighbors. If I'm lucky, I have time to vacuum a floor or clean bathroom. Beds are made and sheets are washed on a rotating basis. Get the picture? There is plenty to do!

Answer 21

I wouldn't put it in those exact words, but I do admit it is easier to stay home than to work. I've done both. For me it was much easier caring for my two daughters who are both under three. I always had a blast. If we wanted to crank up the music and dance, we would. Also, it never took all day for me to clean my house. Usually an hour or two is all it took. Some women want to stay home and such so more power to them. I didn't like having to tell my babies no when they wanted a new baby. I didn't like going to the mall to help my bestfriend pick out a dress when they had a pair of K-Swiss shoes in my daughter's size for $15 that I couldn't get. We couldn't afford to splurge, even though it was only $15. I miss staying home with my girls, but I also liked the looks on their faces when they saw what "Santa," had brought them on Christmas morning.

Answer 22

Ummm......you obviously dont have any kids of your own.

Being a stay at home mom, is not only physically tiring, but mentally as well. Trying to take care of the house with a toddler running around, who is getting into EVERYTHING, climbing on EVERYTHING, Crying about EVERYTHING.....is not exactly an easy job thank you very much!!!! You have to find time in the day to, do all the house work, feed, bath, play, and try to teach your child everything he/she needs to know all while trying to take care and have some time to yourself. Believe me, if it were at all possible i would trade places with my fiancee for just one week, and he would be begging to go back. Maybe you should try it for yourself and dont be so quick to judge others. I swear i have never had a question piss me off the way this one did, so if your trying to get people mad, Congratulation B*tch!!!!! Get a Life!

Answer 23

I think it's more important for me to raise my child than leave her with strangers so I can make some extra money. My husband and I just aren't material people. We'd rather have a well-rounded kid than new cars and expensive clothes. And in my situation, I don't have a vehicle. For me to get a job, most of my paycheck would be invested in daycare and a car payment, and leaving my daughter in daycare just isn't worth that small difference I would take home. Why do you care anyway?

Answer 24

O.o I don't even know how to respond to this. I don't mooch off my husband. When he is home I treat him like a King. I take care of everything so all he has to do is work and then come home and put his feet up, the feet that I rub. I take care of our two small children, laundry, dishes, clean two bathrooms, grocery shopping, doctor appointments, crafts, outdoor play, vaccuuming, checkbook, etc etc etc. My husband lives like a king and all he has to do is work and bring home a paycheck. You have no right to critize others you know nothing about. I get 4 hours of sleep each night because I stay up till 1 so I can greet my husband and fix him dinner. Then I get up with our youngest daughter who has sleep problems and usually don't get to bed until the sun is coming up, then it's wake up time 4 hours later so I can fix breakfast and start the whole day over again. I hate closed mined people. Maybe it makes the man feel good to be able to provide a good life for his wife and kids so that they can drive their suvs and go to the mall. My husband loves to hand me money and tell me to get myself something nice. He tells me all the time how happy he is to provide a good living so his kids can have everything he didn't and so that I never have to want. So maybe you shouldn't be so quick to judge others.

Answer 25

this is an all around hours job! We are in constant movement with house chores , shopping, cooking , chaufering the kids back and forth to school, plays , lessons, in meetings with teachers ,doctors , coaches and what have you , to talk, negotiate and pray it all turns out for the best! We are doctors , and story tellers , magicians who with a rub and a llollipop make a tummy ache dissappear! We are trying to raise tomorrows citesens, in a world so fast and changing we must jump a step to catch up! Then in the afternoons the daddys come home to a good hot meal, a clean house , a ear to listen too, a bedroom all ready in white and crepe to love one another after the children are dreanming. you call this no job? You are so very wrong, this is the most important job of all, the caring ,nurtutring ,teaching of a young person who will benefit him or her and at the end all of us! I love my job, would not change it for a 9 to 5 ! will not change it for a part time and worry how my children are doing ,if they got left behind in the van on the trip at school or day care , if so many iffes! I speak for myself , I love my Job, it pays millions in sastifaction of having my family safe, fed and loved! Hugs.Even one child makes the world a different place, the home sacred , one child who one day can be what he wants to be coming from a secure environment, not institution daycare, fed from the microwave, sorrounded by strangers, not hugged , not giving sole attention, if he is hurt a bandage and hard word are all he gets. surely we are more than this!

Answer 26

I am a stay at home mother to one child. I am proud of that. Atleast i watch my kid instead of throwing him into daycare like some people. Another thing it is not JUST my husband's money, it is OUR money. Are you mad because no one will take care of you? I have chosen to stay at home. I do not get out and run the roads non stop. I keep house, keep my family fed and do endless amounts of jobs within and outside the household.

When you get married and have a kid maybe you might understand things in life.



I see it like this: Am i or all the other stay at homes bothering your life in any way?

Answer 27

you are a bitter little girl huh !?!? LOL

I think you need to get off your *** and stop watching "reality"shows not everyone can live like those women

I myself make my husband breakfast everyday as well as lunch to take to work and no not just sandwhiches

as well as dinner when he gets home

in the meantime

clean the house run errands ( and I do not have a car)

keep my child entertained ( because not every mom uses the tv as a babysitter)

and if you mean spending money on food, diapers/clothes for my child and paying bills woofreakinghooo lemme tell yeah that's excting!!

I don't go out and have shopping sprees

Answer 28

do you have a child? if you dont, then you have no idea what a real job is. my husband says he'd take his 9-5 job any day over mine because he had to take over when i got sick for only 2 days and saw how hard it is. a stay at home mom with two children works out an equivalent of over $200,000 a year. think about what someone would pay for just daycare, house cleaning, and grocery shopping. we get to shape our children, not someone who has to care because they get paid. i dont have an suv- i only get the car when my husband isnt the carpool driver for the week. i dont go out and spend my husbands money. we go out and enjoy our money together. you have a real messed up view of stay at home moms or you know a few of them that are just downright lazy.

Answer 29

I find your comment rude and insensitive...u obviously do not have children....and if u do ..then i'm glad you are ok with strangers raising them. Stay at home mothers do more then just laundry honey....think of pretty much every profession...We are them...only we don't get paid like the rest of them do. Being a mother is the most important thing in this world...and it is a REAL job.........only we don't get to call in sick.

Answer 30

Oh sweetie you are blind like I was, until I had a baby. I only have one baby. I don't work. My common-law boyfriends works. I don't have a car or anything. I cook all meals, clean and keep clean the apartment, do all laundry, shop for food & clothes for babe, and my baby,(<<<

Answer 31

what a jerk you are, I'm a stay at home mom to five yes i said 5, it's harder work then you will ever do, i don't shop at malls, only thrift stores, a choice my husband and i made together so strangers don't raise our kids, i work more hours a week then 5 men put together, who raised you wolves

Answer 32

WHOOOOO HOLDER PETE !!!! YOU ARE ONE ANGRY X-OLD MAN OR A VERY JEALOUS INCONSIDERATE OVERWORKED WANNA BE STAY HOME PERSON . DO YOU EVEN SEE THE REALITY OF WHAT HAS BECOME OF JUNE CLEAVER ? HOMES WERE SAFE CAUSE YOU ALWAYS KNEW MOM WOULD BE THERE . DISHES WERE DONE , WINDOWS WERE CLEANED , AND HOME COOKED MEALS TAKE TIME TO PREPARE , NOT TO MENTION PLAYING GREEN EGGS AND HAM 20 TIMES A DAY EVERY SINGLE DAY . THERE IS A MAJOR EMOTIONAL CONTRIBUTION MADE BY STAY HOME MOMS . LIKE IT OR NOT I THINK YOU HAVE A SELFISH HEART . GRANTED THIS WORLD OF PLASTIC HAS SPOILED MANY INTO BELIEVING THEY CAN HAVE IT ALL . SO TAKE OFF THE BLINDERS AND SEE WHAT I SEE . NOT ALL OF US ARE MOOCHERS AND HAVE PLENTY OF RESPONSIBILITY RIDING ON OUR HIPS . THANK YOU VERY MUCH,,,,,,,,,

Answer 33

Haha, I think someone needs to get some $ and buy herself a CLUE!



No we don't mooch off our husbands. When your married the money is each OTHERS money. And being a SAHM isn't easy like you seem to think it is. Its like a daycare during the day then mother duties at night. Do you know what its like to NEVER have a break? I have friends who work and they would rather work to get away from their own kids then be a sahm anyday.

Answer 34

I'm not yet married but some of my friends are stay at home mothers and i dont think its fair for you to be judging them that way. You dont understand the situations and how people judge them for doing what they do, love their family. Just because a mother doesnt have a job doesnt mean she is a failure in life. People that judge other people are the real failures in life.

Answer 35

Wow, who peed in your cornflakes! I and a stay at home mother of one, and I do laundry, bake, cook three meals a day, sew clothes, clean the house, wash the cars, mow the lawns, take out the trash, make the beds, as well as educate and entertain my son. We have everything we need, and my husband has a happy, healthy family to come home to everyday.

Answer 36

I agree totally with you.



However, before you assume every non-working woman has a husband, think again, honey.



I'm a WIDOW who worked 35+ - had to work even when married to my former husband, a doctor, so his first ex-wife could sit on her bum at home with their 2 girls.



I'm now mid-50's with 2 boys still home (little ones), and retired on my own time and dime, spending only MY money since my late husband left us terribly in debt.

Answer 37

and while you are at work where is your kid? With a stay at home mom who has opened her home to care for it. I have been a stay at home mom for the last 11 yearbecause childcare for a child who has severe medical problems cost more than I was getting paid. Also alot of us stay at home moms actually also work from home. I am guessing you are not a parent yet or you would know what it takes to raise a child

Answer 38

don't be pissed and jealous bc you have to work. tell your lazy *** husband to get a real job and take care of his family. But i can tell your husband already left you, that's way your so jealous of stay at home mom's.

and to answer your ?. stay at home mom's usually take care of the family and house while the husbands work to spoil there wife and kids. it's called LOVE. i wish you would find some. then you would know the answer.

Answer 39

I'm sensing a little jealousy here. I'm a stay-at-home mom, and I can tell you, my work is 10 times harder at home than at the workplace. Considering you're apparently not a stay-at-home mom, you have no idea what we do. Let's see you stay at home with a couple of small kids for a year and THEN see what you have to say about it. Until then, you're just spouting off ignorance.

Answer 40

What I see is a pathetic angry cow!! Stay at home Moms are raising their children as opposed to shuffling them off to filthy militant institutions to be raised by people making minimum wage who can't speak English.



Were you aware that there are stay at home Dads also? Would you be so insulting to them for sponging off their wife?



Many couples decide they want their kids raised RIGHT and choose to live without the cash from a second income so that one of them can stay home and do that.



How is it that you have a job btw, you can't even spell!! Get a life and worry about your own business.

Answer 41

One thing you forgot to include in your brilliant list of what "stay-at-home" moms do is...actually take care of their own children. What a concept. Moms nurture, feed, teach, inspire, heal, and so on. I'm so glad my son doesn't have to feel like his mom thinks she has something more important to do.

Answer 42

What do I do? I take care of my family. I am here for my kids instead of letting a stranger raise them. I'm here making sure my husband has a comfortable home to come home to. I understand he works hard so I try to do what I can to ease his burden when he is at home. At the same time he understands that I work hard so he tries to ease my burden. We're a team. Obviously you have no idea what it takes to raise a child. Since you asked I'll give your a rundown of my day.



5am--wake up with hubby, keep him company while he gets ready for work. He doesn't like breakfast so I don't make it for him. When he leaves I exercise and make my bed.



6am--wake kids--help them make their beds--start laundry or other household chores do yoga with the kids--we all get cleaned up and dressed.



7am--breakfast and tv time for kids



8-11--start morning school (we homeschool our kids)--take a break at 10 for snack. Keep in mind that I don't believe in prepackaged foods so I have to prepare all meals and snacks.



11-12--run errands outside of the house if needed



12-1--lunch



1-2--quiet time--reading, videos with the kids, coloring, naps, anything quiet



2-4--afternoon school with a break at 3 for snack



4-6--drive the kids to their sports and other activities



6--arrive home and start dinner--we eat arround 7pm



8--get kids ready for bed



During all of that I'm also cleaning, doing laundry, doing prep work for meals or snacks. I'm also the one who makes doctor appointments, keeps track of the finances, makes sure the bills are paid, takes pets to the vet, makes sure the vehicles are maintained, plans all meals and does the grocery shopping, etc. I run this house and I do it well. My husband has very little to worry about. He simply has to go to work and come home. He knows when he comes home the house will be clean and a meal will be waiting. He doesn't have to make his appointments. I do it for him. I take care of all of those things so he doesn't have to. He appreciates this and when he comes home he says that is when we have to team up. So, he often does the dinner dishes and gets the kids ready for bed.



Also, my day doesn't stop. My kids are in bed between 8-9. I have to plan for the next day. Kids are needy. Everything I just listed takes 10 times longer because you are dealing with the kids at the same time. But you learn to organize and multi-task. You get to go to work and probably sit on your *** at a desk. You do some menial job that anyone with the right training can do. You get to go home and sleep through the night. My job doesn't even allow me that. I don't get to sleep through the night. I stay up until 11 on a good night and I'm up a few times a night and then up at 5 to start it all over again. I'm on my feet all day and it is non-stop. Don't get me wrong. I love it but I can't stand people like you who have no idea what it is like but can sit there and judge.



My husband and I are a team. I'm working my *** off to raise two very smart, wonderful boys. We have a third on the way. Try doing all of the above while pregnant. I doubt you could do it. You'd probably be a whining baby.



I'd also like to add that I also run a home business as a time management/nutritional consultant. Sometimes business is slower than others. I also do volunteer work in the community. My boys and I volunteer at an artisans center and the local pet shelter. Am I sitting on my butt? I don't think so.



AND I used to be a newspaper reporter. My husband didn't work. He was attending college. He took care of our apartment and went to classes. I worked. He cleaned and cooked. Would you even for a second consider him a mooch or a leech? I doubt it.



I have two college degrees. I've worked as a reporter and a teacher. I now run my own business and do volunteer work. I stay home because I believe that taking care of my family is the most important thing I can do. I wouldn't have had kids if I didn't want to be the one to raise them.



I think you are a miserable person who is so unhappy with life that you have nothing better to do than sit and criticize something you have no clue about. Too bad for you.



Edited to add: And despite how hard I work I wouldn't trade my lifestyle for anything. I'm my own boss. I set my own hours. The kids and I can choose to spend the day at the park or go to a museum. I work my *** off but it is for me (and my family) and not someone else. Can you say the same? Nope.

Answer 43

You sound jealous.



You really don't seem to know how hard a mothers job can be.

Answer 44

I am a stay at home mother and I DO not have a car and I take care of 3 kids all day long... my question to you ...... DO you have any kids??>????

Answer 45

hey hun have u realized that ALL those guys let there wives do that so obviously they are fine with it if u have a problem with it dont look at it!!!!!!!!!ur probly jealous that they have a great husband that is willing to do that for them...............

Answer 46

Beats me.



I'm the guy paying all the bills and taking crap from the big bosses to pay the mortgage, all the bills, my boy's school and her hairdos etc, etc, etc. I don't get breakfast and if I'm lucky I get some tasteless dinner.