I have been having terrible thoughts about me abusing my own children when I'm older, am I a horrible person?

Question

Only recently I have been having these terrible thoughts that when I become a mum I will end up sexually abusing them! I know it sounds sick but it has been all over tv about people sexually abusing their children and I am terrified that I will end up doing something like that because they start off as normal people like myself then do something like that. I have never been sexually abused myself, i knew someone that did but they weren't close to me or anything. I can't get these thoughts out my head and it is driving me crazy and keeps making me cry because I want them to go away. I need to know if these thoughts are gonna come true and am I a bad person for thinking it? My boyfriend keeps telling me not to worry about it but I am worried because I am sooo scared of it becoming true, please does anyone have any advice!

Answer 1

This is what's wrong with parents now a days - too much television. I use to think it was odd for people to not allow tv's in their homes, but now I see why. All you hear about is what you're doing wrong as a parent, and how everything is bad.



Stop watching dateline, 48 hours, etc.

And STOP worrying .. you'll be FINE.

Answer 2

ok take a very big deep breath and calm down, you said that you have been hearing alot about these sorts of problems on the tv and such. It is probably fearing you inside thinking OMG what if that is me, what if i end up doing something horrible like that? that is a normal trick for your miind to play on you in any type of situation. you mind can play awful tricks on you and put you in fear and panic, and make you think very bad things. My suggestion to you is go to your family doctor and have him refer you to a therapist, you may have some type of panic>anxiety issue that needs to be further looked into. Best of Luck to you....but until you see the doctor anytime you think them thoughts takea long deep breath and say "i am not like that, and i wont be like that, i am a strong, good hearted person who loves kids and i would never hurt them"

Answer 3

Do you think about it, or do you see images in your head? Do you see yourself having boys, girls, or both? You will love your children and you never want them to be hurt... Physically or mentally... If you see yourself having boys, you should tell your boyfriend about them and experiment with him and if you see yourself having girls, maybe it's time to have yourself a threesome with a girl and your gupsychiatriste of this makes sense, maybe you should see a health professional... Do you touch other little kids around you?

Answer 4

No. You have to realise that everyone has thoughts they are ashamed of. Knowing these thoughts are wrong just proves even further that you WON'T commit these acts. You obviously care for you children, I have no doubt that you will do anything to hurt them. Thoughts are just thoughts, that's all, not actions, not words, they are yours and they are private (well not anymore, since you just told everyone on yahoo), but you know what I mean. Don't worry about it. =]

Answer 5

First of all, these people are NEVER normal, they all have incredibly sick thoughts and urges.



Its doubtful you will end up doing this as a parent unless you think you are into that kind of thing

Answer 6

I think you need to calm down and look at this rationally.

You can control yourself, because you are yourself, so as long as you do not want to, and have no intention of doing these things, they are not going to happen.



You are not a bad person because you know that its a bad thing to do and you know that you don't want to do it.



As far as I can tell, you are upsetting yourself when you have no reason to be upset. You just need to think about other things and be confident in your self.

Answer 7

Stop thinking about it. You won't do that to your kids. Tell yourself that will not ever happen and it won't! You have control over your actions and you don't want to hurt your kids like that. Don't worry. Let it go.

Answer 8

You might want to talk to a therapist about your fears and concerns - I'm sure you are not the first woman to go to a therapist with these concerns.

Answer 9

please keep your legs closed.....ugh this question almost made me cry, i come from that and its horrible, you need to talk to someone about this b4 you have kids so you dont put them through this