My Son Smokes Marijuana?

Question

My son is 16, we live in a state where marijuana is legal for people 21 years old, and my son smokes weed. It started a couple weeks ago, when I found a bag of marijuana under our couch. My son told me, and still stands by that it wasn't his weed. Today I looked in his room, and I what looked like an ounce of marijuana. I confronted my son about it, and he thinks what he did is entirely okay. He says that he works hard and it's a tough at school, and marijuana helps keep the edge off. For now I've taken it away, and my son told me that he should be given the money he paid for it, or he should have it back. He's not grounded, but I told him that I don't want to know in the future if he smokes weed. Should I ground him? Or should I let him smoke marijuana?

Answer 1

The worst about it is the additives. Trust no one...EVER! Grow your own. Study up.

Answer 2

If you are willing to smoke with him yes otherwise not as the risks are to much

Answer 3

Smoke a J with him and show him you a cool parent, yo! Word to yo motha! Peace out, son!

Answer 4

Although he may be 16 but like you said you live in a state where it is legal, he’s only young and most teenagers experiement, I suggest you let him as he hasn’t caused any drama or got in trouble with the law. In all honesty it’s up to you what you let him do however just be thankful he isn’t smoking crack cocaine or even sniffing cocaine or doing any form of class A’s

Answer 5

it's his life, he can do whatever he wants, he is almost a adult, he wont be a kid his entire life, if marijuana helps to kills the pressure off than let him use it, you don't want him to be get stressed out and than start using other drugs or start drinking.

Answer 6

You should not let him

Answer 7

I think he is almost an adult so at the end of the day tell him to smoke in the house ever! And make him agree to a small amount so as to avoid addiction. If you are worried he is becaming addicted such as money disappearing him begging for money then well you need to step in. Make sure the amount he uses is moderated that is why you should go with it

Answer 8

Well 1st, you shouldn't pay since it is technally illegal for him to carry it let alone smoke it. Second, don't go with the "I don't want to know, you should know if he is using something that could harm him. Tell him until he is 18 and out the house, he has to obey you, he has no power, you do.

Answer 9

If he's going to smoke, at least make sure he doesn't do anything else. Educate him truthfully about drugs. Don't act like weed is definitively 100% going to **** his life. because then he'll realize you lied and he'll trust you even less. That's what actually leads to harder drugs. not the weed itself. Have honest talks with him about how it slows development of the brain and you'd rather him not do it until later in life. He's probably still going to do it, but at least he'll be well informed about it and won't start popping xans or anything.

Answer 10

Puff puff pass

Answer 11

Give him his weed back BlTCH

Answer 12

Don’t let him. He will be addicted to it.

Answer 13

Somewhat neuroprotective and lotsa kids now have generalized/social anxiety disorder/ even PTSD. I'm 61, smoked a little at ur son's age, when THC content was lower, but drank more. When older, once in mid '80s, and again in mid '90s and THC content was higher, had two psychotic episodes (2 weeks long) from smoking, like bad acid trip, very scary; pot may have had "additives" (?) (Good argument for legalization.) Unadulterated/not too high in THC, not a bad herbal, medicinal properties, used in Ayurvedic medicine for thousands of years, etc., but some sources believe it's dicey for brain development at young age and people should wait til 35 or so to start smoking when brain has stopped developing, hard to say ...(but most people don't wait that long obviously.) Zero THC cannabis oil probably safer with same anti-anxiety, etc. properties, but not very available in non-legal states w/o permit, cuz lotta people want THC to get high, even tho it increases anxiety/paranoia

Answer 14

There's no problem with smoking marijuana.

Answer 15

se ele não for uma pessoa afetada, não dará problemas com a maconha mas se houver qualquer tipo de afetação ai sim o problema sera os amigos e não a maconha,

Answer 16

Why can I read this in a Kansas hillbilly accent?

Answer 17

your house your rules, whether he works hard for his money or not he is still your responsibility and what happens to him is on your shoulders

marijuana is only the beginning, in time it is not enough and they go to harder things and that really becomes the problem because it changes them entirely

if he needs to 'take the edge' off he has a problem, he is not confident enough in himself to take life and what it presents him and manage, it would appear that working is more than he can handle if he gets so edgy

no, don't let him smoke now or ever as long as you have any control

I had a client whose son is a menace to her and been in rehab more than once but she loves him and wants to support him, but she is a total mess, hardly knows the place she lives

Answer 18

Sorry to hear that! Most Kids will continue to do it...sadly! However as a Mom of a child who smokes I would not condone it and i would try to stop it. Ive seen what it does to young adults and just because it s something that grows like a plant does not mean it won t do damage to a person. Personality of the person changes so much and it s addictive. I hate Marijuana with a passion. However i do understand as a mom of 4 three of them adults how hard it can be to get them to stop. I am sorry your faced with it. I would worry about your liability as parent and how it would affect you if your child has marijuana in your home or car and if you were pulled over lets say and you are the responsible for your child who is 16. Sorry your going through this.

Answer 19

It depends on the situation, you should look at his friends. Is he making friends with older people? Do they look suspitious? Is he going through CSE? This isn't normal behaviour.



I know boys who smoke because they have mental illnesses, you should talk with your son to see if their really is a problem and spy on him a little. If there isn't, ground him!

Answer 20

You should go to psychologist.

Answer 21

It depends, marijuana effects many people differently. For some people it doesn't really effect them, for some it does. But, at a young age it does affect brain development. However, as long as he does it in moderation, low quantities over a long period of time, I don't see much wrong with it. You should definitely talk to him about it, and see how he feels about it - whether it actually helps him take the edge off and relax, or he's just doing it because he can. Avoid getting angry with him, stay neutral/calm and do what you think is best for your child.

Answer 22

I’ve been smoking weed since I was 14. Not regularly maybe once or twice a month. However most of my friends parents let them ( I’m 18 now) they’re parents just rather have them smoke at home rather then outside to avoid jail time.



Point is your son is going to smoke with or without your permission. So might as well let him do so where the law won’t bring him problems (home)

Answer 23

Send me the bag of weed and I will test it and see if it is too strong for a kid.

I will return any remaining part of the weed when I am finished testing.



I have a panel of experts on hand 24/7 to do this kind of testing.

Answer 24

If you have rules about drugs, then why isn't he punished? You say "My house, my rules." You are the parent, he is the child. Don't fall for the excuses. If it works now, who knows what's next

Answer 25

Tbh, he's a kid, it's what happens. Almost everyone experiments with weed, I'm a University student who's doing well for himself and weed is just one of those things that I've experimented with myself. If he wants to experiment then fair enough. Although you should make it clear he shouldn't disrespect house rules and bring it into the house. You've been a fine parent asking but it's just one of those things that everyone (or almost everyone) at some point goes through. He'll be fine but definitely monitor it

Answer 26

He is an adult so you really can not ground him. Just tell him smoking is not allowed in this house.

Answer 27

Your house your rules

Answer 28

Nice invasion of privacy.

Answer 29

Don't let your son have drugs, it always starts off light with marijuana, cigars, then it gets more deeper, the teenagers then move on to high alcohol content drinks, then to ecstasy, heroin, cocaine and God knows what else. These drug dealers reel the teenagers into doing this, and they know, kids want to fit in, be cool, or are overall stressed at school or peer pressure. If your son is stressed at school, take your son to walks in the morning, tell him to meditate, organize his stuff and his life, make him do sports, join the gym, make him hone his talents or encourage him to learn more useful talents such as cooking, portrait painting and so on. Do not shout at your child, as it will stress him out more and cause fights, he is a teenager, he has hormones running wild, he can't take wise decisions, as a teenage brain is not fully developed unlike an adults, so please be soft on your child for now and help him out.

Answer 30

You say "My house, my rules." You don't pay him for his weed. Destroy it if you're not going to smoke it or give it to someone over 21, because otherwise he'll find it.



Tell him you will continue to search for weed in his room until he is 18, and he can do whatever he wants then.



Don't to the "I don't want to know." Draw a firm line. If it's not okay, it's not okay. (Keep in mind he'll probably smoke elsewhere, but don't tell him that.)

Answer 31

let him smoke that good stuff

Answer 32

i think you should grounded him for 2 weeks no phone calls , no go out with his friends or go anywhere expect going to school and come home after school and do his homework . i bet he fail his grades and not really doing his school work i bet he ditch his classes with his friends who does also doing same drugs that he is hooked up onto. 16 year old is too young to do these things. you should worried about his health issue. you also call his school and ask his teachers how he really doing in the classes during the past hours because if he is not doing well in any his classes then there is problem why he end up with smoking marijuana and how did he get the money to paid to buy it from. marijuana store only allow for people who has a illness health and it also need a health insurance card from a doctor to prove he has some illness why he would able buy marijuana first place . i bet he use and stole some of your wallet or purse money from you without you not finding out about it. your his parent you need do something and find out the truth the reason he end up with marijuana whom had told him about it ect... before he end up in some where else . if he over doing too much can cause problem and his brain will shut off . i think you should check everwhere in the house see if there more packages of marijuana that he is hidden and he dont want you search at. but do it when he is at school .

Answer 33

Depends. IF your son is depressed, or anxious, giving it may be good. But, if your son tries to attack you or steal it or makes a threat to you, going to a rehab centre may not be too bad.

Answer 34

ARE you ******* siriousr?? Weed isn't bad for you?? there's confidential study saying it helps stress anxiety heck if extracted at the max can cure many diseases like cancer maybe even aids who knows. Only side affect of smoking I'm saying the persons needs to smoke 6 times a day is lazy unmotivated sleeping alot THAT'S IT it's not true it ****** up your brain I been smoking for 2 years. I suggest he can do it but not to much max 2 joints a day dosent matter how big it is. And no you can not die from smoking to much weed it's impossible probably need to do 20 joints in one hour wich is ******* impossible maybe more I don't know and no it's not addicting I smoked for 2 years straight now I haven't smoke for 4 weeks and I don't get addiction urges I feel ******* fine

Answer 35

Pas mal, je t'apprécie

Answer 36

If you can persuade him to stop do so. But good luck. I didn't manage to stop my son and he's totatlly fu¢ked up his life, has a criminal record, is homeless and cadges money to pay for his addiction.

Answer 37

Well to me it is your house and you make the rules; so he has no right to disobey you in this. Do not pay him for the gunja. I feel he will just buy more if you discard this lot. I don't think saying you don't want to know in the future is a prickly path to take, and he will think everything is okay as long as he hides things from you. What you can do is find out what drug rehab places are available locally and take him along with you to some information classes. Today very little marijuana is just that; there are a lot of unknown chemicals in most of what is available, so it is a very risky habit to acquire. Some young people may find smoking this may set off schizophrenia and other mental illnesses; I don't know if that has been verified as yet but we always understood there was that risk. I smoked it when younger, but only the pure form and not tainted versions, and I never touched anything else, developed no real interest in alcohol and grew out of it. Another health concern is that smoking can cause lung cancer (ie Bob Marley), proubly doubly so with the added chemicals. If he smokes it with tobacco too not only the additional risk from the added chemicals but the fact that tobacco is very addictive also. I think he needs some counselling to sort why he feels he "needs" to smoke this. He may not develop a physical addiction to it but it sounds like he is headed for a mental dependency. I knew someone like this who has this type of dependency and it was later confirmed he was a manic depressive. I don't know if smoking marijuana set this off or he was genetically liable to develop this. As you say when he turns 18 he can do so as he wishes, but you have every right then to say not in my house. At 16 it is your house; he is still a young child and it is up to you to make the rules.

Answer 38

Why is it wrong when he does, yet you did it too?

Answer 39

No more weed for him.



Remind him that the socially acceptable damaging drug is alcohol, and to move on to that as quickly as he is able.

Answer 40

I've often thought, I work hard and these darn kids sponge off me. Maybe I'm doing them a disservice by supporting them. Maybe I should take a few hits of acid and tune out, not pay the bills and join a commune. Maybe that's the only way they're going to learn. Alas, it's just my fantasy and I can't do it but it's the only solution.

Answer 41

nearly everone smokes it

Answer 42

I would say as long as his grades are ok then it shouldn't be a problem. The harder you try to stop him and be invasive the more he will stray away and hide things from you. You have to be a parent but that doesn't mean you can't be his friend.

Answer 43

he's 16, he doesn't really need you to tell him what to do anymore. That was his choice he made. But since it's illegal, I'm not saying whether to give it back, but you should make that desicion.

Answer 44

When you said "I don't want to know" I don't think anyone believes that so pretend it didn't happen.

I've never thought drug control should be a legal issue, prohibition hasn't worked anywhere.

That said, someday I may well be in your shoes. I would tell my son that aside from risking arrest he is affecting his capacity to drive or make decisions he won't regret.

He's having trouble at school, there are other solutions. Find out what those problems are, is it his grades, his friends, or his love-life or something more sinister.

As Sun-Tsu said, know your enemy. In this case the enemy is yet to be identified but you know the enemy is at his school and your son feels that weed is his best weapon. When you understand the source of the problem you can understand why your son is doing what he's doing and perhaps open him up to solutions he hasn't yet considered.

Answer 45

Dot, by telling him you don't want to know in the future if he smokes, you gave him permission. Grounding does no good as he still has to go to school, and he can get his weed there or along the way. If you don't want him to smoke, get him some drug counseling. In a state where it's legal, I bet they have FREE counseling.

Answer 46

Take him to a counsellor

Answer 47

Our job as parents is to train our children to become responsible independent adults, and that isn't done by allowing them to disrespect the law or make attempts to justify why the law doesn't apply to them. When he is 21 he can choose to possess and smoke marijuana, assuming its legal then, but today its illegal and thus should be punished. To not punish is to agree with his poor assumption that the law doesn't apply to him.

Answer 48

Ground the child for he will die and you will think it is entirely your fault. Then again he might rebel against you.

Answer 49

If you want to stop a 16 year old boy from smoking pot,

tell him that there is new medical evidence that smoking marijuana

causes penis shrinkage.

He'll never touch marijuana again, sixteen year old boys are obsessed

with their penis size.

Answer 50

he will do it behind your back even if you tell him not to. its not the best but is better than popping pills

Answer 51

My parents smoke. I can remember them doing it and growing when I was a kid. My mom always told me that she would rather me do it at home then out with strangers if I was gonna do it at all. It's legal in your state and if you didn't set any rules then he shouldn't be grounded.

Answer 52

I don t know much, but honestly, don t let him smoke. Talk to him about the drug and get him the help he needs before it s too late (like counciling or rehab.)

Answer 53

Being a parent sometimes means having to be hard on your kids. Will weed ruin his life? Prob not, but it is illegal since he's not 21 and you should teach your son respect for the law until he is old enough to change it by voting or in this case becoming 21 and making his own choices.

Answer 54

I didn't read your whole question, but let me just say this: smoking weed isn't bad. It's not really bad for you and doesn't actually change your personality. Now if he's trying to get a job then he needs to quit at least long enough to get a job and pass the drug test. Pot isn't bad. Just remember that

Answer 55

First of all, you should know that any money your kid ever earns is legally yours until he earns it at 18 or older. So enough about this nonsense about him being paid back. That's crap. he's a minor and you pay all his bills.



Secondly, don't ever let the argument fly that drugs are fine, because society has smoked enough to destroy its collective brain and decide it should be legalized. It's still against federal law, and it's still against the law for anyone under 21. So, it's against the law. he could be arrested- and so could you, for allowing it. he could be in foster care. he could be doing community service. And he could be in juvenile detention or jail if he supplied any other kids.



As far as him doing drugs, this can and will if you let it destroy his progress in school. If he's having trouble in school, get him a tutor. The only thing smoking marijuana will do for him is ruin his brain and cause him to be even dumber than he is now. He'll loose ambition, flunk out and then you'll have a bigger problem.



You need to be a parent. Flush it, take away his resources. YOU control his rides anywhere. YOU control his access to his phone, the internet,games, his music, his movement anywhere. SO do that. Make it clear this is not acceptable, and restrict him for a while until he understands how much in charge you are. Then hold him to it.



Or you can let your son fail and do drugs.

Your choice. His life.

Answer 56

You should express displeasure that he does

Answer 57

I honestly would let him but monitor how much , compromise with him , it's not a drug and no bad side effects

Answer 58

If it doesn't interfere with his grades and he is responsible, and he is not doing it overly much, I would give him his weed back. He's going to smoke weather you like it or not anyway. I would also tell him "Since you are old enough to make these decisions, you are old enough to face the consequences should you be caught smoking pot. Expect no assistance from me if you find yourself in trouble."

Answer 59

It be good. It be all good

Answer 60

Take that stuff away from him and spank his butt! He is still old enough till he turns 18 then if he goes to jail. well then he does.

Answer 61

Nothing wrong with it he'll do it with or without your consent anyways

Answer 62

bite him

Answer 63

Don't let him

Answer 64

Do whatever you have to do

Answer 65

dont let him

Answer 66

can I have some lol

Answer 67

Just be happy it’s legal where u live

Answer 68

As a 16 year old I can tell you that there`s is nothing you can do because kids at my high school smoke outside everyday and if their friends don`t have money they`ll let them smoke for free. If you take your son`s weed and money his best friends are going to give it to him for free and not only that but he`s going to skip classes so he can smoke since you won`t let him. The best thing to do is talk to a doctor so they can educate him on the dangers of smoking and if that doesn`t work then nothing will because it seems like you don`t discipline him well enough.

Answer 69

Your house your rules.I think if you let him smoke in your house after he lied to you you make yourself look weak.I would not give him his weed back nor would I give him money for the weed.And I would think very much about grounding him.Best of luck.

Answer 70

What is wrong with him? He needs to know his brain isn't fully developed yet. Ask anybody who knows and smokes weed anyone wise enough would say that if they could go back they would've waited longer or not started at all. Simple as that

Answer 71

Talk to him about the future implications if he becomes addicted to it.

Watch him closely if he promises to stop. You are his parent and sincerely, you re the only cure to him.

Answer 72

I don’t think you should allow him, that’s irresponsible parenting but also don’t ground him because that will make him want to do it more, just have a talk about why you don’t like it

Answer 73

just educate him about what will happen if he continues smoking. Dont force your parental might on him. Just say he will become addicted to it and show him pictures of what happens with the body if you smoke marijuana. If you just take it away he will want for more and do it secretly.

Answer 74

Have him arrested. He is only 16 and you need to be 21. Tough Love.

Answer 75

marijuana can make people excited,and is addictive,smoking marijuana may affect his academic performance and future,and the intellectual development,don't give your children too much pocket money,or take your son to see the counsellors,

Answer 76

Let him! Weed is nothing bad and you shouldn't punish him for doing it ! It's better than crack or anything bad, what you should be mad at is him not telling you, say if he was honest about it you wouldn't be so hurt, and say if he could wait till 21 it would be way better as it's legal then

Answer 77

You as a parent will be held legal held responsible( and maybe arrested ) if your son gets caught with the pot or tests + in a work place drug test. Where does he get the pot from and the money for it?

It is not a cheap habit . Does he deal at school for someone who can legally buy the pot?

You are enabling +endangering the welfare of a minor. Who ever ( an adult) is selling the pot could be in a shade of trouble as well.

CPS will become involve.

Do not turn a blind eye as if yiur son is arrested for under the influence of drugs, then the buck stops with you as far as the law is concern.

You all need family counseling + drug rehab.

Answer 78

End of the day he will still smoke it no matter what you say. My friend has an incredibly strict mum who has given him severe punishments for smoking. Ever since he has been punished he has become a stoner behind his mums back. The more you say no, the more he will want to do it

Answer 79

Keep looking for it and flush it down the commode He will get tired of it being flushed away..

Answer 80

There is no such thing as drawing a firm line. what you prevent him from doing, he will do on his own behind your back. weed is just a byproduct or symptom of something else going on in his life. how is he performing in school? is he failing? is he doing great? How are his relationships with friends, the opposite sex, etc? Is something not normal there? Is he trying to fill a hole? maybe he really just enjoys reducing stress. as with anything, nothing in excess. Some people have nothing to look forward to except getting high (which is symptomatic of something else).thats when it would become a problem and worthy of intervention. if his life is normal and he's doing well, i say **** it. you cant control anyone. everyone must choose. even your kids.

Answer 81

ok

Answer 82

Its not right same with cigs

Answer 83

My mom told me she’d lock me in my room for one year if she found out I was smoking at that age. I mean weed isn’t bad if you’re being productive, but he is underage. Let me tell you though, the majority of kids that age smoke weed. All my friends when I was that age did.

Answer 84

So you've found two ounces of weed so far? That's about $300 worth of dope at least. Where did your son get that kind of cash? Anyway, lay down the law and tell him 'no way', or at least not in your home. You won't be able to stop him from doing it anyway, unless you send him to military school something that drastic.

Answer 85

Just a phase nothing bad. Just tell him you don't want it and discipline him if it continues. I think being supportive of his stress is more important. All i know is that it would be ten times worse if he goes out drinking (which he probably does already) so not much you can do i guess besides being there and try to guide him.

Answer 86

Discipline him and destroy the crap! Of course anyone who uses it is going to say it wont hurt you which is total BS!

Answer 87

Well, actually people smoke it for different reasons, like your son said it helps him to keep the edge off. Some people smoke because of a medical condition ect. I think that you should let him smoke it but set some rules maybe like he can only smoke a small amount and he has to smoke at home because its not legal in your state and you don't want him getting caught by the police...

Answer 88

And the 37 year old mother to four and grandmother one. I've also a recreational marijuana user. He's 16. He doesn't need to be doing any mind-altering substances. If he was 18 and out on his own there wasn't much you could do to stop them but he's 16. Your house your rules lay down the law. If you can't trust him then you have to search his room every single day go for it every time you find pot flush it down the freaking toilet or if you're a smoker smoke it yourself but don't let him have it

Answer 89

Who's the parent here?

Answer 90

He isn't 21, your collusion. Lay the law out to him and tell him that you do not desire to get into trouble for what HE does. Up until the time at which he becomes an 18 YO and he is no longer a resident of the home/house, he will abide by the rule of law. I don't know your principles on alcohol and your parenting style, but you should probably forbid that as well, considering the circumstances. Maybe he is allowed occasional alcohol which has led to the testing consumption of forbbiden pot.



Like Gary the Sneagle below states, you should take it into consideration.



Like my GrandFolks said: "The World is going to pot" and that was a long time ago, weren't you listening?

Answer 91

JUST GIVE UP.





Is that what you want to hear?

Answer 92

If you trust him to smoke it only in moderation then let him. However, if you think he might get addicted then definitely keep him away from it.

Answer 93

Most every kid fools around with weed or tobacco or alcohol. Some phase out of it, some stick with it.

Answer 94

Marijuana is good for you. So what is the problem?

Answer 95

Weed ain't that bad

Answer 96

To be quite honest, you're not going to stop him. Teenage rebellion is one of the strongest forces on the planet. However, it really isn't good for a teenager to smoke marijuana. The brain is still developing and you don't need THC throwing everything out of whack. I would simply take it when I find it and let you know you do not want him smoking it, and that it will not be allowed under your roof.

Answer 97

Puff puff paaaasass

Answer 98

Your son is a bit too young to be smoking anything especially marijuana, the younger the person is the the chances that marijuana a can effect the child's brain by slowing it down also cutting some memories. Although marijuana is not as bad as tobacco, it is used to smoke for medical purposes but slightly. It is mostly recommended for older adults 25 and up. Just cus it's illegal btw does not mean he can smoke it. It maybe only legal for medical purposes and he can get in trouble with the law. Would you let your son drink alcohol at 16 it's legal.. think about it.

Answer 99

Don't give him any money on hand, tell him to go get a part time job or volunteer. He needs a new hobby, one that doesnt take money out of his family household income.

Answer 100

When one of my younger brothers got caught by my Father, smoking Cannabis, at 15, (totally illegal in UK), he caught him by the collar, bundled him into the car and delivered him to the local, 1 Officer, small Police Station.

After a brief, covert conversation, (small community and they were on first name terms), the Policeman slammed the door on my brother for 24 hours.

Surprise!!

He never touched the stuff again.

Answer 101

You should allow him to smoke weed as Long as it doesn’t affect him in a negative way. For example, he smokes it all day doing nothing productive.



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Answer 102

Its fine

Answer 103

It can be hard to prevent teenagers smoking, drinking and doing drugs. They do not see the dangers that their parents have seen in some of their friends who over the years have damaged their lives believing it is safe to do these things. If it was my son and I was giving him pocket money the first thing I would do is stop handing him money and make it clear that you do not hand out pocket money for him to buy stupid stuff like drugs. Many teenagers don't see Marijuana as a drug, but for some people it causes mental illness and leads them on to harder drugs. A friend of mine has a son who loved his weed so much he just dropped out and wastes his whole life sitting at home doing his weed. The guy is at least 40y/o and has only worked a few weeks in his life as it interfered too much with his weed smoking. The drug has made him lose his work ethic and has caused him to have a wasted useless life. Another friend went from weed to harder drugs and now has no friends except his drug dealer and looks like a walking skeleton.

The worst thing is the human brain does not fully develop into an adult brain until about 23y/o and until then the damage is way higher from drugs, and alcohol and adults are less likely to do any brain damage through these things for the amount used.

So I would say if he persists in doing dope make him realize there will be no money from you as you don't want it wasted on drugs. No way would I be subsidising my child by helping them pay for drugs, alcohol and cigarettes.

Answer 104

Don't let him; it's too dangerous.

Answer 105

Like all drug smokers and drug takers they are liers and thieves, and sorry, but your stupid boy has turned also into one, he will always lie because that is what druggies do. They will have all the excuses under the sun, and already you have heard some. You should tell him if he wants his drug bag of weed back he best get on his bike and high tail it out of your house. As he will lie and destroy your lies. How is frying his brain be good for you or him. And why are you even thinking of believing this low life. I know it hearts you, but sooner than later. Have nothing to do with any one who participates in drugs. Every time you catch him he will try to convince you, and keep an eye on any money around the house he will saffle it and lie that he has not. All your great work n bringing this boy up and that's what they do. Stuff him, yiu will be better if if he is gone, because if you read on the computer they will destroy you one way or another. Tough love, which means no love, because he will not return any love, only return bull shout.

Answer 106

He’s going to do it even if you ground him he will do it behind your back let him make his own decisions and let him learn from his mistakes if anything happens plus it’s not illegal there you are his mother not his owner. I’m sure you did bad stuff in your past.

Answer 107

tell him not to

Answer 108

Well, actually people smoke it for different reasons, like your son said it helps him to keep the edge off. Some people smoke because of a medical condition ect. I think that you should let him smoke it but set some rules maybe like he can only smoke a small amount and he has to smoke at home because its not legal in your state and you don't want him getting caught by the police.

Answer 109

Do you really want your son smelling like a disgusting pot head? Plus he lied to you! Don't let him have it, what he is doing is illegal!

Answer 110

hate to break it to you but he's gay

Answer 111

As long as the weed is not taking over his life, and he's being open and honest with you, thats all that matters and I think you should give it back to him.

Answer 112

Your house. Your rules. If you dont want it in the house, dont allow it in the house. Tell him it has to stay in his car or at a friends place. I dont think you should ground him. Marijuana is legal there, but isnt there still an age restriction? I dont know. Let him make his own decisions about still doing it. What you have to do is stand your ground on your decision.

Answer 113

It's illegal for a minor to smoke. If he was the legal age then fine it's his own lungs he is destroying but when it comes to you could be punished, prosecuted or it could suspended him from school etc... it's YOUR responsibility to teach him why he should try to wait because It could come at your cost... Don't pay him back because he knew what he was doing wasn't legal and he just wants to outsmart you so he can go out and buy some more weed to smoke. If he smokes weed he should know if something happens to your stash no one pays you back. Don't enable a possible addict like mentality. Not saying weed causes future addiction but what you instil in his brain now effects him for the rest of his future.

Answer 114

Honestly I see nothing wrong with it in moderation, of course you don’t want him blazed off his butt all day long. But there is a peace that comes from it and I love it personally. It is a gift from god and should be treated respectfully

Answer 115

Personally I would let him. compared to something like alcohol, or cigarettes, it does comparatively little harm and wont have the same addictive properties. and if it does help him with school and things, there's really no harm at all in letting him smoke it. if it bothers you, of course, by all means tell him he's not allowed to smoke weed in the house. and if it does have serious effects, which is very rare, then of course get him off it immediately and take him to a hospital. above all tho, he's your son and i can hardly tell you how to raise him

Answer 116

I think he's nearly associate adult thus at the tip of the day tell him to smoke within the house ever! And create him comply with alittle quantity thus on avoid addiction. If you're upset he's becaming hooked like cash disappearing him beggary for cash then well you would like to step in. make certain the quantity he uses is qualified that's why you ought to come with it

Answer 117

So what

Answer 118

Well if he s caught at school, he ll get expelled.

Answer 119

Your son is breaking the law & you are condoning it.

You are legally responsible for him until age 18 at least.

You could be charged as an unfit parent as a result.

If he smokes & drives impaired, you may be liable.

As a parent, you must put your foot down.

Do you also allow him to drink alcohol too?

The same legality applies!

Answer 120

Do not let him. Ground him!

Answer 121

I think you should explain to your son that he shouldn't be smoking marijuana until the legal age of 21. Marijuana has had so many tests and the postitives out weigh the negatives easily. Being a student in this time is hard and it's stressful so I can see why he's smoking it. If you don't mind your son smoking it as long it's out of sight out of mind then that's your choice, he's your son and it is your decision but it is against the law.

But in my opinion, I don't think you should give him the marijuana back or pay for it because you have raised him and who does he think paid for everything he's had in life. Hes not only bought drugs into your house he lied about it until you caught him out which just proves he is still a child. Children do childish things and if he can't even admit to bringing it in your house and/or sit down and have a conversation with you about it then in my opinion it proves how old he is and he doesn't deserve to be trusted and treated like an adult.

Answer 122

He's still a minor and he's living under your roof so your rules.

Answer 123

for now, make sure he at least understands that he seriously screwed up. if it happens again, I'd not only ground him, but I'd make sure to tell him that the next time will involve the police. weed hasn't been legalized for very long, and kids like him are going to make it a lot harder to get in other states. as for that line about you owing him money, I'd not only refuse to pay him back (after flushing the stuff), but I'd also make sure to watch just how much money he's got and what he's spending it on. from the way your kid sounds like he acts, it seems he might be one of those people that needs to learn the hard way. for him, you may find you need to be the line in the sand, the dead end, the last word. don't just let him do whatever he wants. you are the parent as well as the owner of the house and he needs to realize the importance of that.

Answer 124

you can't do much except for pleading to him to stop and explain to him why you don't want him to smoke. take your best shot at it if you want him to stop. Also just tell him that it scares you and makes you very depressed. It should be his father taking care of business like this. what the hell did you do to him? did you throw his daddy under the bus like most of you females do here in merika? that jewish judge sure gives you ladies favorable decisions to weaken you goys so that their families can thrive whiles yours suffer and suffocate. wake up god damn it.

Answer 125

Your house. Your rules. He's 16 not 18. If he were drinking and said "It takes the edge off" would you continue to let him do it? I don't think so. And, it's your home- you can go into his room and search for weed or anything else for that matter. He may try to get creative with hiding places.



I agree about the drug counseling. When he's 18 and out of the house, he can do what he wants- with his money and pay the consequences if something should happen (like driving under the influence).



He won't like, but it's too bad. He's not an adult yet. And, if he wants to be treated like one, he needs to act like one.

Answer 126

Let him have it. It's harmless, really. I'm a neighbor from the great white north, and I support marijuana.

It's a natural herb, a gift from God. He did say he would give us a plant to benefit all of mankind, Didn't he?

If you're uncomfortable, maybe try to do some research and learn a bit more, maybe your clouded judgment isn't allowing you to see clearly the benefit of such a herb.

It cures and treats so many illnesses and has helped countless people in their struggles with their physical and mental health.

If I were the parent of a teenager, I would allow it to be consumed in a responsible manner. Connect with him, because if you don't he will go behind your back, and it's pointless because weed is harmless and it will cause a rift between you two, and I know you love your son and don't want to drive him away with your uninformed opinion.



It will not turn him into a drug addict. his perception on life will do that. If you did your job right, he will be just fine with his pot. I have been consuming the product for nearly 15 years and I've never become an addict of other substances. he's a teenager, and is likely to experiment. Just communicate with him and be honest with him about your concerns. he has no choice but to respect your opinion, even if he continues to smoke. You really can't stop him. and there's no use because he'll be fine. Weed is good.

Answer 127

Don't let your son have drugs, it always starts off light with marijuana, cigars, then it gets more deeper, the teenagers then move on to high alcohol content drinks, then to ecstasy, heroin, cocaine and God knows what else. These drug dealers reel the teenagers into doing this, and they know, kids want to fit in, be cool, or are overall stressed at school or peer pressure. If your son is stressed at school, take your son to walks in the morning, tell him to meditate, organize his stuff and his life, make him do sports, join the gym, make him hone his talents or encourage him to learn more useful talents such as cooking, portrait painting and so on. Do not shout at your child, as it will stress him out more and cause fights, he is a teenager, he has hormones running wild, he can't take wise decisions, as a teenage brain is not fully developed unlike an adults, so please be soft on your child for now and help him out.

Answer 128

He is going to be slow and fat and dull, as are most potheads

Answer 129

He should wait until he is 21 and has moved out of your house. After all, that stuff stinks.

Answer 130

So what, he smokes weed, big deal, a lot of 16 yr olds try weed. let him do his thing. If you ground him or tell him that he can't smoke, he'll just get sneakier about it.

Answer 131

I've been smoking since I was 16 and I'm 32 I've never had a problem until recently my memory is not so good and I've started to forget many things especially when having conversations it can be very awkward and I have started to slow down in a big way but my memory is not improving and I'm a bit scared about that.

Answer 132

I think you should feed him something that'll make him tell the truth. most people have a reason for doing something. he could be in pain.

if it was me, I'd be upset to be in trouble when I felt like I had done the right thing, even if it looked bad.

Answer 133

weed can be a gateway drug to other substances. if it takes the edge off of school then no problem as long as he informs you before doing it for his own safety. It is important that he is educated about drugs and the long term effects of drug use

Answer 134

If he's living in your house, you have the right to tell him that he cannot use marijuana as long as he wants to live there. Also, do some research and educate him on the possible effects. While it might be legal, there are many negative effects of marijuana use. Statistics show that regular marijuana users tend to have more psychological problems than non-users, although correlation does not equal causation. Marijuana has a permanent effect on how the brain functions. Many government agencies will never hire you if you smoked marijuana even once in your life. It is a gateway drug, often leading to more drug experimentation and addiction. It can disqualify you from a lot in life.

Answer 135

Let him know there are other ways to deal with stress. Don't let him smoke it until he's at least legal.

Answer 136

buy him weed

Answer 137

Play the eggs in a hot skillet commercial and explain to him this could possibly be his brain on drugs.

Answer 138

Good job mom

Answer 139

You should ground him. Marijuana isn't something a 16 year should have even if it's legal it's still not good for him.

Answer 140

Depending on the age of consent of your area, you may not be able to do anything. But marijuana really can destroy someone for a long time and you should really say something about it. No you shouldn't say the typical bs like you will ruin your life but he need to understand that marijuana isn't a short one-time high and nothing comes from it, it is the lasting effects he should be worried about.



P.S. Some parents are also claiming that it's good to snoop in your child's room. It's not ok. They should feel like their items and secrets are safe there, I mean he doesn't snoop around your room, does he? Because they shouldn't and the parents shouldn't either.

Answer 141

let him i would rather my son tell me when he does it than going out and me not knowing what he's up to

Answer 142

I think he's nearly AN adult thus at the top of the day tell him to smoke within the house ever! And create him conform to alittle quantity thus on avoid addiction. If you're disturbed he's becaming alcoholic like cash disappearing him solicitation for cash then well you wish to step in

Answer 143

Let him smoke the weed. Its natural and safe and its a stress reliever. As long as he's doing good in school and a good kid why not? Its not like its DRUGS or alcohol

Answer 144

I have had a similar experience, yet I was not in the position to change anything. I was close to a girl who smoked and it turned out to be a gateway for many worse addictions. This story ends in her getting busted by the cops accused of carrying paraphernalia. But it couldn't stop her. She later got a DUI for unsafe driving, and I was in the car. I hope this scares you sir. Save your son. Don't play this off as just a 'stupid girl' she was strait A's and participated in many clubs and activities until drugs slowly chewed her life apart. So yes, weed takes the edge off, but its illegal. So you lose life's 'edge' but what else do you lose?

Answer 145

I am 17 years old so this is an opinion from a teenager. Marijuana is known to be bad for your body but it can also have many good things about it like revealing stress. I personally have smoked when i was about 15 years old but i don't anymore because i noticed too much money being wasted. Even though your son made a stupid decision he still spent money on that and money is hard to come across when you are a kid. In my opinion i say he should be allowed to make the decision if he want's to smoke but then again it is your house and your rules, so overall you should have the last say in what happens.

Answer 146

Don’t be a cool parent. I had a friend in high school who had a cool parent and now that former high school is in jail.

Answer 147

Maybe he has black friends that are influencing him, maybe he needs guidance

Answer 148

Plant it back in his room. Call the cops. Have them beat & tase him for a hour. Take him to the hospital from there.

Answer 149

how often ? if it's only once in a while relax. Almost all of them do it.

Answer 150

Listen, I usually don't criticize parents when they discipline their kids (I often encourage it), but this is NOTHING. Marijuana is the most harmless drug he can be taking. In fact, it's not even a drug, it's an herb. Eventually you have to face the facts that you can't control what he does, and it's pointless try. I think that as long as he doesn't force it upon others, or smoke when it's inappropriate to, or anything that negatively effects anyone else you should let him smoke weed. Weed is extremely beneficial to virtually everyone. Lower crime rate? Check. Lower suicide/homicide rate? Check. Increasing happiness rates? Check. Helps people who are sick or physically impaired? Check. Fun and harmless? Oh yeah.

Answer 151

I had a good friend a few years back in high school who was doing fantastic in school. All A's, but when he started smoking weed, his grades slowly declined and eventually he actually became dumb. He had all F's and I couldn't even have an intelligent conversation with him anymore. I don't know what kind of sh** they put in weed these days, but I'm pretty sure its putting holes in people's heads.

Answer 152

He's too young for weed, his brain is still developing, and at that age he may end up with paranoia. Once he is finished growing say maybe approx. 21 years old he will finish the majority of his growing years and it won't have such harmful effects. Try and explain this to him. He may not agree with you but he may understand your reasoning.

Answer 153

that is okay, i fuked a sale up at 711 and they thought i was the feds.

Answer 154

Tell him if he’s old enough to defy house rules he needs to either move out or be turned in to authorities so that you nor others in the house become complicit in his breaking the law.

Answer 155

talk with him to determine how legitimate his use may be. if you are satisfied with his answer, allow him to keep it but try to help him make certain that his use is responsible. otherwise, reimbursement is entirely up to you.

Answer 156

If u smoke the best thing to do is smoke with them it's better getting it from u than what's on the streets

Answer 157

Can I join him? I love getting smoked up.

Answer 158

Well actually you should look at it like this. Would you rather him smoke it in the safety of his own home with no potential risk factors, or would you rather "lay down the law" so he will go elsewhere to smoke it with the possibility of being arrested for possession because he is a minor? Its really a pick your poison type thing. If you teach him to be responsible with it now he will benefit from your lessons in the long run. Although remind him that you are still the parent and it is a privilege and not a right.

Answer 159

Puff puff pass

Answer 160

At least its not something that can kill him like alcohol and the harder drugs, but i would just talk to him and say if u smoke in my house or around my house you wont be able to live here once he turns 18 cause of the horrible skunk smell.

Answer 161

Do what I did and make him smoke all the pot in front of you. That way you know he has no more and He will probably suffer from heart palpitations for the next 6 days. That'll stop the little **** from smoking the devil's lettuce again.



P.S If he ever escalates to harder drugs send him my way. Always looking for more mules.

Answer 162

If it bothers you to the point that you are uncomfortable with his actions tell him to move and get its own place and smoke as much weed as he want to. And explain to him as long as he's under your roof he's going to have to abide by your rules or else.

Answer 163

No dude, dont let him smoke, brainless decision. you the boss

Answer 164

Don't let him until he turns 18

Answer 165

Dude I ain't a father but a 16 year old smoking ain't good, so its probably for the best to stop him there and find a better solution with his daily life, his hard times at school and work. I suggest having a long talk to him remember this phrase asking and talking more than just guessing, let your son show his true feelings, experiences, hard times sadness, anger and etc and I know some things may shock you but if you give yourself the patience and understanding to listen to him and try understanding him and helping him without angering him and yourself it could be a win. Because now children and teen are afraid of what parents may think of them from what they do or what they done and they believe that their parents won't understand them for anything so they look for comfort with things and unfamiliar people try being calm and listen to your son but put a limit when it comes to things that aren't good for him and both of you will get through this somehow. Be free to ask for help with me if you need more help.

Answer 166

Lol even if you take it away from him, he will still find a way to smoke. I started smoking when I was 16 and had to hide it from my parents ever since. Kids will be kids, let him find his own way in life. I would suggest stop him from smoking if it starts to impact his life and grades, but if he's still getting good grades and isn't hopeless in life then let him do what he wants

Answer 167

Marijuana is not a drug, I used to suck DlCK for coke! Now that's an addiction.



Ever suck some DlCK for marijuana? Didn't think so.

Answer 168

Weed isn't even bad!!! If you keep pressuring him he will turn to worse drugs like pills. It's obviously LEGAL in your state for a reason!!!!!!

Answer 169

I'm all for marijuana, but 16 is too young - his brain is still developing and marijuana can alter that process.

Answer 170

You took it away 'for now', and from the sound of it lean towards accepting his ridiculous argument that you should give him either the weed or the money he payed for it?



Stop trying to be his friend and start being his parent. And if you can't feel confident about your course of action, fake it. He notices your insecurity and is taking advantage.



Listen, I am all for giving 16 year olds some freedom to make their own mistakes. And I'm far from am anti-weed fundamentalist. I think it's fine for adults to smoke once in a while.



But adolescents and weed don't mix, especially if they smoke on a regular basis as a crutch to deal with reality. HUGE red flag. Not to mention it's (rightly so!) illegal at his age.



I wouldn't be wondering whether to give back the weed or the money. I would be grounding him and keeping him closely supervised until I'm convinced he can be trusted not to repeat this mistake.

Answer 171

Smoke it with him to understand where he's coming from.

Answer 172

you should let him smoke inside the house so you can always see how much and how often he does! if you not allow him to do it he will still do it and if course he will do it outside and you wont have any controll! GOOD LUCK

Answer 173

It's time to have a non judgements talk about drugs. Try to see it from his perspective so he can feel some understanding and then drop some wisdom on him. Be careful not too push too hard. Some times the harder you push away the more they run toward it. It's a teenager thing, a becoming an adult finding my own individuality. Show him he can grow into a healthy respected responsibile adult without resorting to drug use.

Answer 174

Marijuana has never killed anyone and is harmless providing you don't smoke it daily, so you should let him smoke it, especially if it helps him concentrate. If you don't let him smoke it, he'll just do it behind your back. But tell him he can only do it at home, and if he does anything irresponsible like driving while he's high, permanently confiscate it from him. Where do you live you're lucky it's legal where you live. I live in the UK and it's illegal here (which I think is stupid especially since cigarettes and alcohol are legal and have killed more people than weed ever has).

Answer 175

That’s okay...

Answer 176

Trust and communication is totally key here! I don’t let my kids get away with murder but they know they can tell me things and I won’t go ape **** and totally overreact, which in turn would make them not want to tell me things.

When I took my 17 year old daughter to Amsterdam we smoked weed together. Honestly it was an enlightening experience I have to say. Being 16 is tough, if it helps keep the pressure off and he is smoking at home and not in the streets, and it is not physically affecting his health, then I see no harm done. Just educate him so that he is using safely and wisely : COMMUNICATE! He is gonna do it whether you like it or not, may as well make it under your roof, and your guidance.

Answer 177

He needs serious counselling.

Answer 178

I think he will continue to smoke weed either way. You may not be thrilled about it but it's kinda just your choice whether you want him to sneak behind your back or not.

Answer 179

Where I live like every teen smokes it, not me though it's a bad thing and may affect him later. You can try to incourage him to stop but if he doesn't wanna listen then that his fault. It won't kill him so it won't affect you.

Answer 180

Don't be too strict, but don't be too submissive. Compromise.

Firstly, don't pay him for his weed. That is an unacceptable demand from your son. Secondly, remember this is illegal. If it relaxes him find another way for him to relax (nothing innappropriate) such as not stressing him out about school or help him pick up a hobby (but don't force him to do one)

If he can't or simply does not want to and he won't stop smoking weed, try to limit him. Say you want an open relationship and you don't want him smoking weed all the time. Give him a limit of how much he can smoke and when and where he can smoke if worse comes to worse. But hopefully that will not happen.

Answer 181

put him out

Answer 182

Puff puff

Answer 183

you said he is 16 he is breaking the law by smoking weed. You could be held respossable for his actions. He is living under your roof you are his parent until he turns 18 get to being one!

Answer 184

Weed is one of the less harmful drugs, in fact it has never killed anyone, i dont think you should pay for it sence you have to be 21, but i will let me keep smoking it

Answer 185

He's just doing it because probably he sees his friends doing. Get him better friends lady!

Answer 186

Talk to him about better ways to deal with stress.

Answer 187

I also had a friend best friend To be exact since kindagarten that smoke weed and it turned her into an awful person that and her no hope drug addicted boyfriend doesn’t help she soon realised what it was doing to our friendship and cut right down to one cone a month now she doesn’t do it at all my suggestion as a 19 year old who knows kinda what this is like but not as a mother preservative only as a friend either you punish him and risk him doing it in secret and skipping class or you let him do it tell him on the occasional basis you don’t like him doing it by occasionally I mean once every 3 months and ride it out he will soon realise what it does to him and he will fail other options I have seen was the mum sending her son to a borading school that allows no drugs smokes phones computers etc but he is more into drugs now than he was before he left hope this helps wish you all the best

Answer 188

tell him the harmful side of it

Answer 189

I’m gonna go with....be the parent not the friend. Your gut instinct was to say no. I almost like that he lied in the beginning instead of how he ended it full of entitlement and requesting a refund?!?



He works hard, and does well in school because you taught him that! That’s what he need to do to get by in the real world. And he needs coping skills too for when things get tough. If he starts medicating himself thru those important coping skills now what will he do when he has adult problems? Don’t stop teaching things just yet. He’s 16 only. There’s plenty of time for that stuff, when he is his own boss. You did a good job!

Answer 190

You pay the bills in that house i.e. you make the rules. Take is weed and whoop his ***. I'm pro-marijuana but someone that age shouldn't be smoking because (supposedly) it can cause developmental issues.

Answer 191

My son would be sent to juvinile detention

And yes Imean it

They got one strike, second time they would be gone

Answer 192

Its your house, if you don't allow it tell him that. and if he continues the next time call the cops and see how he likes that. And you need to grow up and treat him like your kid and not his best friend. let him know who is the boss. me id beat his *** the 2nd. time it happened. my kids new when there were told something that's the way it was.

Answer 193

No

Answer 194

Go ahead, he needs to at least be knowledgeable of what he’s doing first. But you wouldn’t want him turning to worse drugs, and other addictions. Weed is the least of your worries when it comes to other drugs

Answer 195

send him to one of those places where he can get help. http://www.lung.org/stop-smoking/i-want-to-quit/how-to-quit-smoking.html

or try thetruth.com both are smoking websites.The Truth is a website that helps end smoking and gives out facts tests and quizzes that show you the importance of what smoking does to you and your lungs, your teeth etc. I would definitely ground him, then I would buy a trailer so that I didn't have to smell the smoke. I hate the smell of weed, cigarettes, pot, etc. he will probably always smoke because he started so young and he thinks it's okay to smoke but it's not If he did a dumb dumb mistake and he thinks it's okay and something happened to you his family the nice house he lives in then he would be sad and he would always cry and he would want to kill himself. remind him that he has a good life. and that his life can be so much better without the weed and all that. remind him that you love him.

Answer 196

its better than getting girls pregnant