Am I just crazy or are my parents incredibly unreasonable?

Question

I just finished my freshman year of college (18 y/o) and I've had good grades so far. I'm a fast learner, and I'm pretty responsible. Now that I'm trying to get involved in my university, it's proving to be a difficult task since I live in the suburbs and my school is in the city.

About five months ago I started learning how to drive. I immediately passed the written test and just have the actual driving exam to finish. Since I passed the written so fast, the actual didn't worry me..

According to my drivers Ed teacher, I'm practically ready to take the test. I just need to practice for a couple hours. It's not like I'm a horrible driver. I just NEED actual driving time. There's just so much reading can do.

For the past couple of months, my parents have been complaining how much of a hassle it is to drive me around. However, they NEVER ever let me practice my driving so I'd get my license. They'd literally rather leave the car in the driveway and just watch TV for six hours straight, than drive with me. They've done it every single weekend.


To make matters worse, the only reason why Im in this f-ing mess is because they didn't let me move out. I was accepted to a couple prestigious out of state/city schools, and I turned them down because I was under 18 when I got into college and my parents wouldnt let me go.

It's so frustrating. It actually brings me into tears thinking about all these opportunities that are being flushed down the toilet. They are incredibly unreasonable. What do I do?

Answer 1

I'm a mom, and while I'm sure they have their side of the story, they sound like they're being unreasonable about the driving. They should want you to take steps toward independence. Especially if they see your dependence on them for transportation as a burden. Aren't there any other adults who would take you out to practice? You should look into finding someone's parents or a teacher from high school to take you out. It's only a couple of hours, it shouldn't be a huge burden on anyone. Once you are driving, you should look into getting a job. Then you can get a cheap car, and take steps toward independence on your own. Sometimes it's hard for parents to let go, but that doesn't mean it's the best thing, for them or you, for you to stagnate in this role as their dependent child. Even though it doesn't feel like it, 18 is still quite young. But not so young that you shouldn't be venturing out on your own sometimes.

Are they paying your tuition? If so, they have a control that you must deal with. If you have a scholarship, and they really are trying to keep you from progressing toward adulthood, you might consider your options for living on or near campus for your sophomore year. If you don't NEED a car, you'd be better off to save the money ( but still work).

Answer 2

I have to be transient as i am speeding around due to the fact i am late but had to reply as I can not believe how unreasonable your mom and dad are being. It seems like you have tried to be affordable so the answer would usually be that you have to determine however are you able to get a spring for the door, so it routinely shuts, and open the window for the computer? Depart the key within the lock so that he can not use his key, or lock it from the within - or alternate the lock! My dog is 12 and i nonetheless have got to discipline him otherwise he just does as he likes. I had a quality Dane and they take a number of work. How would any one who cares about animals provide them some thing so sharp and definitely unsuitable for them? I take it your dad wasn't this unreasonable whilst you had been growing up, otherwise you should not have moved in with him??? Consequently, because of his childish behaviour, i might suggest he has some sort of challenge together with his little girl having her own lifestyles and not desiring her father??? Unless this alterations they usually respect your desires and space I feel you're going to be relocating on!

Answer 3

Do you have a friend/relative who can give you the driving experience? I left home when I was 14 and lived with my best mate & his brother after their parents died. Anyway, I got his older brother to do my driver hours, I'd drive him to work every day, then jog back. It worked for me, and I got fit in the process.



Anyway, the main problem is your parent's attitude. I think the problem is that they are very protective. The number of kids who kill themselves on the roads is disturbingly high and they probably want to keep you away from that. This is also probably why they didn't want you to go to an interstate college or school; because they don't want to see you dissappear. This is the greatest fear that all parents have and it's really hard to get around.



Anyway, I think that they are doing this because they love you and think it's for the best. Whether it is or isn't is totally irrelevant, the point is that they don't understand your point of view, and you probably don't understand theirs either. The best solution, therefore, is to talk about it with them. Don't blame them for anything, just sit down and talk to them reasonably about all of this stuff. Apart from that there isn't much you can do short of running away from home, getting a job, and becoming totally self sufficient (which is only worth it if they're seriously abusive)

Answer 4

If learning to drive is something you need and want to do so badly then don't let your parents' lack of support stop you. Ask a friend, neighbor or relative with a car to drive with you in their free time. If that isn't possible look into driving schools.



Now that you're 18 and don't need your parent's approval apply to transfer to those out of state/city colleges you originally wanted to attend. If you're still interested in getting away then go for it.

Answer 5

You're grown. You're an adult, make your own decisions. Make your own decisions but in a responsible way. Use a friends car to practice or another family member's. Just tell them not to tell your parents.



You're an adult. If you get your license on your own without their help, they will respect you more and respect the fact that you're growing up. It's nothing they can do. Just give it a try. You'll fine.

Answer 6

Your parents are ******* unreasonable you're 18 ! get out of your parents house and rent a room yourself be independent and show them you can live a better life without them . PROVE THEM WRONG . THIS IS YOUR LIFE MAKE YOUR OWN RULES . SCARE THEM . I believe that you are a successful person without your parents . good luck :)

Answer 7

Listen. You're 18. You can do whatever you want to. Don't let your parents ruin these opportunities because they will decide your success in life.

Answer 8

your 18 get a job save some money get and apartment and buy a car your an adult!

Answer 9

Honor your parents in your words and actions. Obedience gains favor so stop complaining and sit down somewhere. They will come around as soon as you stop asking. Get busy on being more gracious for rides and free rent and then they will be more inclined to do something for you. Although they are already doing a lot for you. You sound a little ungrateful.