How do you make conversation with a 5 year old?

Question

My uncle and his son and daughter are moving close to us. His daughter is 5 years old and I was wondering how to talk to her and make her feel comfortable. Her mom left her dad a few months ago and from what my uncle has told me, she's pretty shy and doesn't warm up to people right away. She's in an all-boys-but-her household and my uncle and i both think it would be a good idea for her to have a "big sis" influence in her life. I really want her to feel like she can come to me. How can I be a good "big sister"? How do I talk to her? (Just in general, conversation starters. Thanks!)


THANKS!

Answer 1

Make some popcorn and watch her favorite movies with her. Take her to the park and swing with her and just kind of talk. 5 year olds love cartoons, Dora, Diego, SpongeBob. They love animals, They love being outside & playing. They love coloring & painting & PLAYDOH! My daughter is 4yo, not quite 5, but these are all things she absolutely LOVES. Oh ya, and dolls & barbies! U can play barbies with her and that can kind of be your way of talking to her. Just make her feel comfortable. I think it's very sweet what you are doing. Kids are a lot of fun, so it shouldn't be too hard :)

Answer 2

Well you can start of by finding out things about her like interest such as her favourite toys or the tv programmes which she watches. You can bribe her well not bribary, for example if her favourite thing was barbie dolls, then you could get a barbie doll for christmas. This would really bring both of you close, as she would become fond of you. Or you can give her chocolates or something which she prefers, and this should automatically make her like you. Even though this may seem like bribary it is probably the most effective method from personal experience and it works most of the time as well

Answer 3

Ask her to tell you about her favorite book. If she gives you a shy look, tell her about your fav book and why you like it, that might help her start in on the convo. By telling her about YOUR fav book, you're giving something of your self to her, letting her know you're not just drilling her for info. Kids need common ground to feel safe and to open up to others. Ask her to show you how to do something; if she's into games, dolls, something like that, asking her to 'teach' you something fun is a great way to get her involved so she's not just sitting there looking at you while you do all the talking. Once she opens up to you, keep it going, give as much info about your self to her as she gives you about HER self. Children are very in tune with what we're feeling, so make sure you're calm and in a good mood around her at all times. In time, she'll come to be more open with you, but don't push. She'll come around. Good luck!

Answer 4

Once she warms up it should be just like riding a bike. She is 5 and if she is anything like my son (who was shy when he first came to live with us) she will never shut up and talk about everything and anything! Pick up on little clues about her interest (maybe she will have sponge bob shoes on) or her favorite toy...and just go from there.



Remember that she just lost her mother and she is only 5. That's a lot for someone to handle and comprehend.

Answer 5

Ask her about herself. How does she like school, what she likes to do, what animals does she like? If that doesnt seem to get anywhere figure out what she likes to do, play dress-up, dolls, etc and ask her if you can play with her.

Showing her that you care, will allow her to become comfortable around you. It may take a bit of time and you just have to keep trying, but you should find she opens up.

Answer 6

Hang out with her and see what she's into, for example if she likes watching sponge bob, sit down and watch with her and talk about that. My 6 year old can go on and on about patrick and spongebob and all the other characters and their adventures.

Answer 7

Ask her about things you see her doing. For example, if you see her playing with dolls, ask her what she is playing, ask her if you can join, etc.



You can take her to get ice cream, and when she gets older to do girly things like manicures and pedicures.



I always wished I had a little sister!

Answer 8

how sweet of you to want to make this kid feel comfortable. I'd suggest you start slow and try to get to know her, find out what she likes and go from there.

Answer 9

make it non threatening. like how is school going, who is your best friend. in fact, if she has a best friend, have that friend over. it will help you watch and learn. have her help you bake cookies or something like that. go shopping or out to eat for a ice cream

Answer 10

ask her things that relate to her



her favourite cartoon, tv show

book

teddy

does she like to paint her nales?

you could do that with her

Answer 11

Fart around them. They love the sounds of farts and even the smell sometimes.