Question:
Why don't selfish parents keep their Keep Your Brats At Home!?
1970-01-01 00:00:00 UTC
Why don't selfish parents keep their Keep Your Brats At Home!?
Seventeen answers:
ilovejolie86
2007-10-10 15:46:08 UTC
I remember seeing a kid in the grocery store with dirt and old food on his face, wearing a filthy T-shirt, barefoot and eating a two-pound candy bar. I couldn't imagine why his mother had brought him to the store looking that way and why she would give him a candy bar at 10 in the morning. That was before I had four kids. Now I know why.



His face was dirty because he was going through a phase in which having his face wiped seemed worse to him than getting beaten. She chose not to do either. His T-shirt was filthy because it was his favorite one. He wore it every day and every night. Just as they were walking out the door to go to the store, he had pulled it out of the clothes hamper and surprised her with it at the front door. By then she didn't dare risk interrupting the momentum she'd built toward the car by going back into the house to get a clean one. He had shoes on when they left for the store, but he took them of in the car and threw one out the window on the freeway. She was relieved it was the left shoe, since he'd thrown a right one out the window the week before. He was eating a big candy bar because she had promised him he could pick out his own treat at the store if he didn't throw the cat into the pool for a whole week. She was desperate because it was the neighbor's cat and couldn't swim.



When several children were screaming in an airplane, I'd wonder why there wasn't a separate airplane, and a separate planet, for kids. I know now that their parents wish the same thing and that they had to take the kids to attend the family reunion at Aunt Lois' so they could see Uncle George before he kicked the bucket.



The kids were crying because their parents wouldn't let them eat the headset, stick their fingers in the ear of the lady in front of them, or press the attendant call button for the 100th time. The parents were preoccupied with trying to decide where to change the really smelly diaper. Should they change it on the seat next to the couple on their honeymoon, or on the floor in the back where five perky flight attendants were playing bumper cars with those one-ton food carts? Forget the bathroom. They were designed to hold one person with short legs. The parents feared that the smell would cause a panicky passenger to pull open the emergency exit in order to trigger the release of the oxygen masks, and they'd all be sucked out of the airplane.



- Janet Konttinen,

San Francisco Chronicle, July 22, 1997
Mercy
2007-10-10 17:44:27 UTC
Let me tell you, from personal experience, it embarrasses the parent just as much as it bothers you. I have 2 kids. 2 and 8 months. I have learned that if a store doesn't have a buggie, we don't go in because of an incident at a store where some snotty college people worked and kept looking down on me for my kids.



You are exactly the type of person I'm afraid of "offending" and the reason we don't take my kids out to eat much because they are unpredictable. I get SO tired of the "looks" the smirks, the sighs.



You chose not to procreate, fine. Good for you. Because now you will never know the stress it is to actually have kids and take them places and have people like you making you feel bad.



I love my kids with all of my heart. It is just hard sometimes to deal with the "looks". I have left restaurants because of it. much to the delight of the other people I"m sure LOL
2007-10-10 15:51:12 UTC
Hahaha, I have 2 children and one on the way and still feel your pain... we try not to go out with ours, though, as I have had one too many dinners with just the 2 of us (after finding babysitters) and having them spoiled by people's crying, yelling children, and know how it feels. We even had to endure listening to somebody's toddlers at a rated R movie that started at 10:00 pm on a Friday night.... BUT I can't help you out when it comes to peace and quiet at Walmart.... they always come with me, and it is always a loud and obnoxious experience...
his wife
2007-10-10 17:05:27 UTC
LMAO I just got ap icutre of some guy sitting in a resturant talking on his cell phone while showing the person across from him picutres of his cats, while said cats were climbing up the walls..Sorry



Okay I don't think children should be banned from places, but I think the mangers should have the right if the child is being a true brat to ask the family to leave or move them to less crowded part of the resturant. My daughter behaves very good, but when she was younger like all kids would sometimes have a temper tantrum unlike most peole though I would leave with my duaghter and she learnt that if she wnted to shop or to stay out she would behave.
2007-10-10 15:49:32 UTC
I wish your mom had chosen not to reproduce. If you want to avoid kids go to a bar.
dragonlover17814
2007-10-10 17:13:42 UTC
well as a mother of 3 i can tell you not all children are spoiled hyperactive underdisciplined spawn as you so put it.the way i see if a child is in public then yes they should be expected to behave and behave well.however this is not always the case. children are just that children and the way they behave is merely due to how the children are disciplined by their parents.if a child is not disciplined properly then yes then their behaviour will be bad,how ever if a child is disciplined properly then behaviour is normaly pretty good.and i think it is unfair of you to label all children in the fashion you chose as not all children are brats.if i were you i would be more concerned about the children that are neglected or abused.focus your anger on something worthwhile instead of defenseless children.furthermore i feel that unless you are lucky enough to find a woman that shares your veiws you will probably never have a healthy relationship.
2007-10-10 15:50:39 UTC
Wow, you're a peach...you mother must be very proud of you.



You once were one of those "spoiled, hyperactive, underdisciplined spawn" you're describing.



The world is so much bigger than the one you are at the centre of. Grow up. You are showing your self-centred, arrogant immaturity.
unholycricket
2007-10-10 15:47:01 UTC
cry much?
H57heiny
2007-10-10 15:47:54 UTC
Wow, you sound like a sad sad man. If you want child free, go live on a deserted island all by yourself. If there were no children, you would never have even been here.
2007-10-10 16:20:12 UTC
I agree with you. It's not such a big deal when children are at those places and they are well behaved. but there are some that are just spoiled brats. and their parents, they let them scream for i don't know... 30 minutes.. .then they get sick of it and is like "FINE!" and gives them what they want (This has happened too many times when I went out to eat). What has the child learned? "Scream for 30 minutes and I get exactly what I want". It drives me crazy.



One woman finally gave in to her child because the employees at the restaraunt said if the child didn't stop screaming, they were going to be forced to leave. Instead of being a parent and getting their child to stop or stand up and walk out of there like normal parents would do, they just gave the child what they wanted.



It's ridiculous.



It doesn't matter if you're a parent or not. Parents can keep their children under control in public places if they really tried. It's just parents these days don't want to discipline their kids or deal with them. or whatever. I never threw a fit in public nor did I even scream for that matter for 30 minutes and then got what I want. I would have got the spanking of a lifetime if I tried.



These parents are like "If you don't stop.. you'll get a time out when we get home... i mean it.... 1....2....2 and a 1/2.." and their children are still screaming saying "I waaant it!"



why? Why is the world full of brats these days?



Anyways, I do agree with you for the most part.
2007-10-10 17:47:53 UTC
Sorry Dolf I don't bring pictures of my child for the whole world to see. Only my very close friends and family members, never know who is a perv these days. The only place I take my son sometimes in McDonalds and that is very rare. My son is in School all day in full day Kindergarten and I love my coffee better than some coffee shop coffee anyday (not naming the stores I don't like). My son and I and my mom went for lunch one day at a family restaurant and he was well behaved. He got a pirate pack for kids and that kept him entertained. He didn't act up, he didn't run around he didn't do anything like that.



He had thrown 2 temper tantrums in the store when he was once 3 years old and once 4 years old. I get him to help me if he can...I give him choices and have conversations with him in the store so that he isn't running around. I told him after the second tantrum that if he wants to come to the store, he cannot act up, lay on the floor and throw a fit, or we go home immediately and you will get a time out...
2007-10-10 16:02:19 UTC
I totally understand how you feel. I really do. I felt the same way for many years. It was not until I got therapy and quit hating the little child I once was (because my parents made me feel bad and wrong as a child). I used to project my hatred of my "child self" onto every child who came near me or disturbed my peace.



I know, I know, this sounds like so much "psychobabble" and I too used to roll my eyes at this "crap." But please try to hear what I am telling you. If you choose not to get therapy, at least give yourself a mini-education on attachment parenting. You'll see what you missed out on and understand a little more from the child's perspective. It might help you be more tolerant.



If all else fails, do what I used to do back when it bothered me - go to a bar where kids aren't allowed! LOL
marli
2007-10-10 15:59:46 UTC
Oh, I saw Samantha try this in a restaurant on Sex and the City. Didn't work out to well for her either.

Maybe we should keep single and childless people from not leaving their house during the day. The city will be safe for families as "childless-free" until then in all public areas. By 6pm our kids are safe at home while "you" people are free to roam the barscene and all drive home drunk at midnight on public streets to get to your next anonymous one night stand.
reecie
2007-10-10 15:54:35 UTC
wow aren't you just a little bit rude! I happen to have two young children... and if you would like a place to eat where no young children can spoil your dinner... try a bar! Not all kids are unruly and undisciplined. And more parents might discipline their children more in public if a bunch of liberals have all determined that it is immoral, not to mention now its practically against the law to spank your child. So don't blame the parents, blame the ppl who think that if you smack your child on the bottom you must be abusing them!
Deb
2007-10-10 17:54:43 UTC
You could buy an island & live there. That way you could live out the rest of your life without ever laying eyes on or hearing any child again! You could be king & make your own rules! Then you wouldn't be subjected to any behavior you don't like from adults or children alike. You could have visitors by invitation only. Sounds like paradise, huh?
gabrielaqlejandra
2007-10-10 15:50:48 UTC
I don't think that the reason you haven't reproduced is by choice I think that it's because you have an attitude. i understand that it might be difficult for you to be around kids. But really you have to be more sensitive kids are the most wonderful gift that God have given us and I hope one day when you do decide to reproduce nobody is telling you how bratty you kids are!!!!!!
pinkpiglet126
2007-10-10 19:21:25 UTC
Believe me, we're all very thankful you didn't reproduce.


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