we NEED sex ed!!!!!!!!!!!!?

Question

Guess how I just spent the last 10 minutes- explaining the birds and the bees and menustration. This girl in my karate class (11) got her period and I told her to ask her mom for help- well she can't find her mom. so i had to help her she was in HYSTERICS because she thought she was dying- i asked her if they ever talked about this at school(we got the talk in 5th grade) no- her mom wouldn't sign the form- god the girl thought she had a PENIS!!!!! (can anyone else say MAJOR problem there) I mean seriously why do parents say no to sex ed- i mean when the changes are actually happening to you its nice to know about your body- how to insert a tampon etc. What do you think?

but im just a stupid teenager- what do i know?

Answer 1

Im a stupid teenager too and i agree with you :]

Answer 2

Sex Ed is needed but NOT for KINDERGARTENERS!!! The earliest I would say in my opinion being a mother of two small kids, would be third grade.



My kinder and 1st grader has been learning D.A.R.E. in school this week from a Police officer. They came home with ribbons and a certificates of completion of the lecture. I thought oh cool someone found a way to explain this to the kids. Funny though, first thing out of both of their mouths " Mom what are drugs?" Um yeah! I thought wrong!!!



They are too young to understand! You had trouble explaining the bird and bees to a 11 yr old! Could you imagine a kindergartner!!!!



They are learning ABC's, shapes, colors, and so on. You think it would be wise to throw in some diagrams of sexual body parts and there functions; tell little girls when they get a little older they are going to bleed!!!



OG what a freakin nightmare!!!!

Answer 3

I really dont understand it either. The same thing happened to my cousin. She is 13 and got her period a few weeks ago. She was so scared to tell her mom because she thought it was a sin or something. So she just stuffed towels into her underwear! Poor thing! And then her mom didnt even explain it to her when she did find out. (Which was when she was doing the laundry and came across her daughters clothes.) I understand parents in wanting their children not being exposed to sexual things but come on! Thats part of what being a girl is all about!

Answer 4

I'm a stupid teen too and I agree. We need sex ed! It's dumb. My school got rid of sex ed like 2 years ago. Now we have learning lab! It's really stupid. I also had that sex ed thing in 5th grade. That's about all the education from school I've gotten though.

Answer 5

I was 11 and terrifed when i started, i knew nothing about it.



I think 10/11 is a good time to tell them about periods. When i casually told my daughter i made sure her brother aged 12 heard too, I was relaxed about it and made sure they knew this happens to every female.



But i wouldnt want them to know about the other things yet. maybe 13/14.

Lets let kids stay kids for as long as poss, its only 16yrs at the most, then they are adults forever and ever.

But im just an old-fashioned nana

Answer 6

i'm 15



and WOW! i applaud you for tying ur best to explain that stuff to a little girl!



but yea i agree we should have sex ed, i mean i watched and learned sex ed in 5th grade too (by that time i already knew what sex was too)

but yea i think its crazy to not teach your kid sex(and other stuff) after theyre 9!

it reminds me of Carrie when she has her period in the shower and she basically freaks out too !

Parents like that are just thinking she/he is not ready to know yet but really by the time they get back to school the next day everyone else know what happens to there body except for her/him and it is sad!

I hope those parents realize how traumatized and hurt and embarrased their child must feel!

Answer 7

Parents that usually say no to sex ed believe that it will prevent their child from engaging in promiscuous sex later on into the teenage years. Other parents prefer to tell their children themselves at an older age. Its a matter of opinion of 'when' and 'if' for parents. Parents can't hide where babies come from forever whether they like it or not! Parents - learn from this question if you have a daughter. It will be easier on everyone!

Answer 8

im 19.. so i guess im a stupid teenager too because i agree with you.. its funny because im taking this nursing class and my professor.. was telling us how she teaches highschoolss and they were asking all these question about sex and how and when you cant get pregnant.. itsTruee.. i learned in 5th grade and then i took src( state required course) in hs. itdidn'tt go into much detail but still it gave me a good enough idea.



i actually think that schools should talk about it.. i mean its nothing to be embarrassedd about. kids need to know.. we all do i just think alot of ppl are really uncomfortable with talking about sex issues.. people really need to get over that because// really.. the reality is everyons going to have sex.. and they might as well know what there doing before they start you know.

Answer 9

I totally agree with you and I'm the mother of a teenage daughter. I told my daughter and my motherless niece about their bodies and how they would change as they grew older a long time ago. I even bought them a couple of books to read on the subject. Last year, when I went for my annual checkup, my doctor and I somehow got on the subject of STDs and he told me that the majority of college kids he sees has at least one STD ... and I live in an upper middle class area. There is no excuse for not telling your children this stuff. Any parent who objects to the school telling their children about it should be prepared to tell their children about it themselves then.

Answer 10

Haha, yes I was very lucky to get the "your body will be changing" talk in 5th grade, because my mom didn't tell me anything.

Then my parents did sign the form to take me out of sex ed in high school (the one where you learn about safer sex practices) and the first time I had sex I didn't even use a condom, doh. Go figure. Thanks mom and dad.

Answer 11

some parents don't sign the forms and some schools don't even teach it! at the catholic schools they don't teach it and if a student asks they are referred onto their parents or the school nurse. its a bloody joke!

The poor girl, her parents are probably devout religious followers and believe that its the start of something wrong. have you ever seen the movie Carrie? The mother was the same in that. Its a sad world we live in when the children suffer for the parents beliefs systems.

Answer 12

Sex ed should... MUST be taught in school and in homes. This is to prevent kooky teenagers from getting pregnant, the reason why there's lots of pregnant teenagers is 'coz of lack of sex ed and parents refused to teach sex ed to their children when they themselves committed fornication and adultery. Isn't it the responsibility of a parent to educate their children of anything that the child need more than school? Yes, sex ed is a must.

Answer 13

I think you're right. If she thought she had a penis, than that is a major problem. It means a predator could easily lure her into trusting them and possibly raping them. It just isn't good. And how do they expect kids to know what is right and wrong if they never learned anything about it? You have a very valid point.

Answer 14

Well sometimes they don't think the child is ready yet so they delay the lesson for a while until the person is mature enough to take it seriously. Though now that she's freaking out about it, there's no way her parents will ignore her lesson now ^_^

Answer 15

they dont want sex ed bc they dont want to talk about it with their children its uncomfortable i got mine when i was eleven and it was even uncomfortabke to tell my mom so i had my friends help. and all you have to do to know how to insert a tampon is read the page the box comes with its simple but i agree we do have a major problem wi th that and sometimes kids dont want there parents to sighn the slip

Answer 16

That is one reason I like YA.



Girls can get on here and ask things.



Yeah it is very bad for parents to not teach some basics.



You are not a stupid teen you are a woman.



Glad you were there for that poor girl. Wow.

Answer 17

Yeah, some parents don't realize how important it is to take classes like those. Luckily, my mom told me all about that stuff when I was in the 4th grade, so I was prepared. :]

Answer 18

yeah we had to watch a video in 5th grade and it really helped alot. i think parents are scared with all the teen pregnancies and std's out there. my boss doesn't believe in sex-ed in schools. but i personally think that not having sex-ed is the problem

Answer 19

hahah i agree with you!

i understand that many parents are uncomfortable telling their kids themselves, but school is the best place to hear.



either have your kid hear it from a safe and accurate place, or some gross boy when their 16.



people need to learn it as a fact of life.

anyway our 5th grade demonstration was far from racyyy.

Answer 20

Girls should know what's happening to their bodies. Her mom is ridiculous and needs help. Her poor daughter....what she must have thought?!? If sex isn't a convo that's one thing but her mom should have atleast explained menstruation to her.

Answer 21

oh wow!

i'm 16 and the only info i ever got was from school. i never got the talk with my parents. if it wasn't for sex ed i would be lost too!! i think its VERY important to be familiar with our bodies and know how to protect ourselves!

Answer 22

I agree. There should be some sexual education class that kids can take, we should all know about these things, but also know the consequences of pre-marriage sex.

Answer 23

lol wow im 14 and i also learned in 5th grade. That girl needs to know you are so right.

Answer 24

I must be a stupid parent,cause i talk openly with my teens about all that stuff and much more.

Answer 25

I agree. Some parents just can't come to grips that their children grow up.

Answer 26

i totally agree. i mean,, if your not willing to talk to your kids about it yourself,, atleast let the school do it! cause i got three different talks at my school. &&it really helped cause my mom &&i dont talk. so i basically feel sorry for that little girl. :/

Answer 27

totally agree w/ you. and in addition to having sex ed, they need to revamp it too. the "abstinence only" method is no longer working in today's society. they need to teach contraceptive methods as well!



kudos to you for helping someone thru such a difficult time!

Answer 28

I want to know how she went eleven years and never wondered what all the tampon and pad commercials were about. Seems kinda odd that she had no clue at all what a period was.

Answer 29

give ur child a copy of bertrand russels marriage and morals when he /she asks u about sex ed once he is in his teens...

Answer 30

Tell a teacher she needs help

Answer 31

HAHAHAHAHAH she thought she had a penis.!!!! XD



but yeah, we would kinda be lost without sex ed..

Answer 32

Your right, parents shouldn't decline kids sex ed its important!

Mostly for girls. i guess'

and that's sad. poor girl.

Answer 33

im gonna get the talk in school too im kinda nervous you know

Answer 34

That's ******. Sex-Ed is wonderful.



But maybe the parents wanted to explain it to their kid themselves... *shrug*

Answer 35

i agree how scary not knowing what is happening, especially when blood is involved

Answer 36

what exactly is the story of the birds and bees? i mean how does it go? i know what its about but can u tell me?

Answer 37

you're right...you're just a stupid teenager!

Answer 38

Wow.....i agree.

Answer 39

yes you are actually!

Answer 40

well thats her mom and her problem. idk why people dont tell the girls about this stuff